To think that, at 37, I have never looked better & to wish we would all STOP IT with the crappy threads about weight/looks etc & enjoy the fact WE ARE
spiderslegs · 02/04/2011 23:19
Really - I may have looked more dewy when I was 19 but I've never looked better. I have beautiful friends who moan about their arses/wrinkles but from what I can see, their husband's worship them. Woman in their prime are the most sexy things - please don't waste it with ridiculous worries.
GetOrfMoiLand · 02/04/2011 23:30
I always feel confident like you, but this generally coincides with being just before my annual sight test. My eyesight deteriorates every year, and when I get my new contacts I see the true ravagement of my hatchet-like face.
Moral of the story - just go through life every so slightly short sighted.
Mind you, I have never been thinner, and that (sadly) is making me very happy at the moment
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JaneS · 02/04/2011 23:37
D'you know, I think what I like so much about this OP is that it's like being given permission to feel good about myself ... I really hate feeling as if I should be looking into the future and expecting to feel crap and ugly, as if it'd be somehow odd to expect to feel ok about not being 18 any more.
Thanks for that OP
GetOrfMoiLand · 02/04/2011 23:40
My dd is the same - she is 15 and beautiful, has such lovely golden skin and all that youth and prettiness.
Thank christ she is a lot more confident than I was at that age.
I found my old yearbook ages ago - looked at the photos of myself at the prom. Christ I spent that whole night sat down because I was convinced if I stood up people would point at my fat arse and laugh at my shoes. I looked bloody lovely.
I want to go back and shake my 16 year old self.
Funnily enough I am still vain and image obsessed to a degree, but to some extent don't give a shit. I am not the prettiest woman in the room, but I am not the ugliest, and I used to think I was the ugliest thing alive.
mylovelymonster · 02/04/2011 23:49
I am 42. I am not as fit/slim/pretty as I might have been in my early 20s; life has been very tough and sad in the last (8?) years, and that & sleep/exercise deprivation has taken it's toll, however taking everything into account, I feel positive and confident about who I am today. I am in damn good shape after two sizable babies, and I still have a twinkle in my eye. Am way more confident than I ever was when I was much younger (not difficult!).
Am not really bothered about looks now - as long as I'm healthy, and my family are healthy, who cares!
SolarPanel · 02/04/2011 23:53
I don't look particularly great to be honest, but so what? It's just not a priority at the moment. My friends still like me anyway, and if anyone doesn't like my rather frazzled and overweight appearance that's their problem. In fact it's a good way of telling immediately who is a nice person - it rules out those who only give you the time of day if you're well-dressed, slim etc.
spiderslegs · 03/04/2011 00:05
Right, we're not talking about our young selves, I look back & I was a radiant, plump mouthed sylph - yes as any fule kno, youth is wasted on the young.
But I also look at those photos & see a slightly smug, vacant, look.
I no longer have that. we no longer have that. We have a glint , a verve, something far more sexy.
I couldn't bare my legs as a youth, they were too 'pale', too 'skinny'.
I love my legs now. They are great.
& my face - no-one saw it without make-up before the age of 30.
They see it all the time now.
But I don't think I've ever been as attractive.
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