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Do some people mistake laziness as being unorganised?

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goodbyemrschips · 02/04/2011 17:59

I have friends who constantly go on about how unorganised they are.

BUT

If you have been home all day not done a scrap of housework and have no food in so you have to go to macdonalds for your tea, would you say that was unorganised or lazy?

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goodbyemrschips · 02/04/2011 18:01

Meaning?

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Nailitorelse · 02/04/2011 18:03

Neither - I'd say that was stupid, and bordering on child mistreatment!

bigTillyMint · 02/04/2011 18:04

Both

BooyHoo · 02/04/2011 18:07

mcdonalds is bordering on child mistreatment? Shock seriously?

if it's happening everyday then the parent needs to give themselves a shake. if it was a one-off "i CBA doing the grocery shopping/facing the crowds/wonky trolley wheel with 4 dcs" then it's no biggie.

Nailitorelse · 02/04/2011 18:08

Yes - if its every night!!

BooyHoo · 02/04/2011 18:10

there was nothing in the OP that suggested it was everynight.

Nailitorelse · 02/04/2011 18:11

No, but nothing to suggest that it wasn't either!

valiumredhead · 02/04/2011 18:13

Child abuse!

pozzled · 02/04/2011 18:14

I'd say it could be for a whole host of reasons. And that the person concerned has a perfect right to choose not do housework and go to McDonalds without being judged for it.

BooyHoo · 02/04/2011 18:14

so you assumed it was? why? Confused

BooyHoo · 02/04/2011 18:15

agree pozzled.

TattyDevine · 02/04/2011 18:15

There was nothing in the OP to indicate the couple even had children!

TattyDevine · 02/04/2011 18:15

Oh forgot this [hmm

pozzled · 02/04/2011 18:15

Just to clarify, they have the right not to do housework for a day. If the house is a constant health hazard that's a different matter, but everyone has different standards as to what is acceptable.

TattyDevine · 02/04/2011 18:16

Fuck it

Grin

Lets try that again shall we

Hmm
BooyHoo · 02/04/2011 18:16

oh good point tatty. i am also guilty of assuming on that count.

Nailitorelse · 02/04/2011 18:28

Here we go again.....the rapid degradation of society's standards....and we are finding reasons why it is acceptable....incredible!
I bet they are also obese and regular visitors to the GP - but no doubt that is there human right to cost the tax payer more money!!

BEAUTlFUL · 02/04/2011 18:30

Disorganised, not unorganised. (Sorry!)

Bogeyface · 02/04/2011 18:30

I know what you mean.

There are days when I run around like a blue arsed fly and still manage to get nothing achieved. Those are the days I am disorganised. Then there are the days when I claim I have been running around like a blue arsed fly and got nothing achieved. Those are the days when I sat on my arse doing nothing!

But we all have days like that sometimes, so I have no issue with it (obviously!). If it is happening all the time then there may be an issue, it could be laziness or a lack of ability or it could be depression, lack of support at home, bad work/life balance, illness...all sorts of things.

BooyHoo · 02/04/2011 18:33

nailit jump down off your soapbox and take a look at the (few) facts you have.

an adult did not do any housework or food shopping and went to mcdonalds for tea.

you know this happened at least once. there is no suggestion of children being involveld or that this is a regular occurence. there is also no explanation offered as to why this happened.

now it is totally possible that this happens daily and that there are children but as of yet you dont know nor do you know the reasons why there was no food bought or no housework done so how about you hold on to your judgements until you know for sure what you are even judging.

TattyDevine · 02/04/2011 18:35

On a more serious note, I think anyone who considers going to McDonalds, whether it be occasionally or god forbid even a few times a week "child abuse" should spend a little bit of time doing some charity work with adult victims of child abuse and get a little bit of perspective.

TrinityIsABunnyMunchingRhino · 02/04/2011 18:36

I get told I'm lazy because I am disorganised

I personally think I'm just fucking useless

SardineQueen · 02/04/2011 18:37

Hmmmm

I am very organised, and pretty lazy.

I find that being organised means that I am able to be lazier IYSWIM.

Personally I would say that sitting on your arse mumsnetting all day is lazy rather than disorganised. Disorganised to me means forgetting to do the packed lunches until the last minute and not having the right things in and having to make something up, not having a system for clothes so that you never know which are clean/dry/wet etc and having to pick through stuff every morning. Those things take a lot more time and effort than if you do it in a organised manner.

So in conclusion, disorganised people aren't as lazy as organised people Grin

BertieBotts · 02/04/2011 18:59

I'm not lazy in that when I put my mind to it I can work hard and get a lot done, but I am guilty of being lazy in that I will think "Housework? Oh, I'll do it later."

But equally, I am disorganised as more often than that I just forget that it needs doing. My memory is a bit rubbish and I often forget things I've promised to do just a few minutes before.

Oops. See I started writing this an hour ago and started doing something else and forgot to click post.

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