Lent baby clother etiquette...

[FanillaFudge]

Here's the scenario:

You've just had a baby. You're tight for cash. You ask for some baby clothes from someone you know has some that have been grown out of.

You use the clothes.

Do you expect to give them back?

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doh!

I'd always clarify this before I gave tbh. I always say to either pass them on or charity shop them

Firstly I would never ask for them.

But if they were offered to me, no I wouldn't expect they'd want them back unless they actually made it clear that it was just a loan.

Ask, in case they plan on having another baby, but otherwise I would expect to pass them on to the next person in need of them, assuming they are still in good condition.

I'm the lender.

I'm convinced I said I wanted them back, she can't remember.

She's thrown them out.

oh dear...

Well if she has actually thrown them out then not much you can do about it.

I know Axis - I'm gutted though, I loved those clothes and couldn't wait to see this one's little bum in them

I thought from you title that you had given up clothing your baby for Lent

I can't imagine asking anyone for clothes, strapped fo cash or not, but unless told specifically to keep them then I would assume they were a loan and would return them.

I imagine she was pg when she asked and therefore has the memory of a fish! What can you do about it? YANBU but I think you just need to chalk it up to experience tbh.

I would expect them back, yes. If I was lending clothes which I really didn't want/need back, I would make it clear that they could keep them/pass them on. But otherwise, yes, I think if you borrow something, the expectation is that its returned after use

It's my sister, she asked, I was hesitant, then my Mum gave me a nudge about it and I felt bad.

It's too late now obviously, but you should never lend baby things that you are any way emotionally attached to. They are too easily spoiled or lost.

I know Provincial - lesson learnt the hard way. Just can't believe she would throw the out without checking first.

Oh, I'm somewhat disappointed not to have learnt the correct etiquette for dressing my baby for Lent

I have just been lent stuff and one friend said she did want everything back as she will ebay the stuff when I'm done. Anther hasn't really clarified.. best ask her now!

If she's thrown them out I'm presuming they were in bad nick when she'd done with them so I wouldn't bother too much.

Even if someone gave me things with a definite indication of not wanting them back id still cheack/run it by them before i got rid of them....oh and i certainly wouldnt chuck them! would deffo find someone to pass them onto or charity shop them.

YANBU

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Not good to ask. I say yes please to everything, but ask what I should do once finished. If it's a loan, I never use them. Too stressful. I never loan anything I care passionately about getting back. Babies stain things and toddlers wear them out. And in the hazy first days, things get lost.

AppleyEverAfter Good point- unless of course they were totally knackered.

I guess I'm annoyed because I would never dream of throwing someone elses belongings out without asking first.

But if someone gave me something, I would never assume they would want them back.

Did you actually tell her you would want them back?

I do think it is sad that you have lost them. But tbh I would either give them away or keep then. Lending clothes seems very strange to me. Clothes get ruined. No one can promise to keep baby clothes in good condition.

I would have only given stuff I didn't want back!

Pagwatch - they were asked for, and I'm fairly positive I made clear it was just a loan. I know they can get ruined, but all of them? I managed to keep them in good enough nick for her to use them...