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Tell me if I'm being precious over this

88 replies

Dancergirl · 01/04/2011 09:43

My dds have been learning a Mothers Day song at school. Dd2 sang it to me in the car yesterday and it contains this line:

'Sometimes she gets stressy'

I'm a bit of a stickler for spelling/punctuation/general good grammar and I object to the non-word 'stressy'. How can we expect our children to speak well and properly if they're learning things like this....?

Would this annoy you?

OP posts:
Desperateforthinnerthighs · 01/04/2011 10:04

It's just a fun song they are learning....don't stressy yourself out over it!

Satireisbest · 01/04/2011 10:04

When it's the woman's curse,
Her temper gets a lot worse,
She shouts and gets very stressy,
All because my bedroom is messy,

I know why women have smaller feet,
The answer is really quite neat,
It's obvious if you really do think,
It's so they can get nearer the sink.

Are those the words?

kreecherlivesupstairs · 01/04/2011 10:05

Better than the song that the mother kangaroo in Winnie the Pooh sings. She is all about cooking, cleaning, washing and ironing. DD loved that DVD but even she noticed that I am nothing like mum Kangaroo and nor were any of my friends.
Stressy is a word, made up, but still a word.

senua · 01/04/2011 10:05

PS While we are being pedantic. It is not Mothers Day or Mother's Day or even Mothers' Day. It is Mothering Sunday.

And breathe.

toddlerama · 01/04/2011 10:06

So you are getting stressy about being described as stressy? Is there a line about mum's being a walking contradiction? Grin

toddlerama · 01/04/2011 10:07

Apostrophe was a wind up before anyone thinks I'm illiterate.

Original poster
Dancergirl · 01/04/2011 10:07

I don't think it's sexist, just reality. I imagine MORE women then men are mostly responsible for cooking for example. But feel free to tell me if I'm wrong!

The general point of the song is that mums love their children v much even if they're not perfect/get cross/shout sometimes. I think it's sweet. It's only the stressy bit I'm objecting to.

OP posts:
AliceWorld · 01/04/2011 10:11

So then reality is sexist. And it is being reinforced by teaching children that this is the way things are. Reality is changeable and influenced by opinions. The school are affecting not just reflecting opinion. (You did say feel free to tell me...)

musicposy · 01/04/2011 10:18

The song is awful and I'd be objecting to that much more than the "stressy" (although that would annoy me too).

Yes, I'm a mother. No, I'm not grumpy, stressed and shouting at my children. And I do have a very good degree, thank you very much.

Sexist rubbish at its worst.

prettywhiteguitar · 01/04/2011 10:20

and we love them even if we are a bit thick and all we are capable of doing is making a nice tea and cleaning.....jesus now I am really pissed

we are tired all the time from cleaning and cooking

wow its like going back in time

maybe we're knacked from earning a living from using our brains ??

emsyj · 01/04/2011 10:22

So clearly no mum EVER has got a degree, then?

Now that I would have a serious objection to. Would be a bit at the stressy thing, but that line steps over the mark!

HandMini · 01/04/2011 10:23

Sorry Dancergirl, as we have hijacked this thread for feminist rant when your point was actually about the word "stressy".

gorionine · 01/04/2011 10:25

How did it jump from "sometimes she gets stressy" to "hysterical / uncontrolled? "

I for one get stressy sometimes and repeat to my Dcs that even though I get stresses, moody... it does not mean that in those momemts I love them any less and I expect them to love me the same way which ever mood I am in too.I do not know the sonfg OP is refering to but I am pretty sure it means something along the same lines too.

Regarding the cleaning and shopping line, it is a mothers day song, I would be annoyed if the song actually told the truth that it is in fact daddy who does the shopping and that he helps at home too!Wink

gorionine · 01/04/2011 10:27

too many too's or is it toos?Grin

NoPinkPlease · 01/04/2011 10:28

Ugh - horrible song ...

Does the shopping and no degree? Not in his house - grrr.

Hullygully · 01/04/2011 10:30

I wouldn't care about stressy, but I would care that it is such a piss poor song.

All it basically says is my mum's a right miserable cow because she is a domestic slave and a bit thick, but hey ho she loves me.

Hullygully · 01/04/2011 10:31

heh heh

How many of us will be furious about "no degree?"

Virtually everyone on here seems to have a phd.

everyspring · 01/04/2011 10:32

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piprabbit · 01/04/2011 10:32

I think teaching children to sing a song saying that their mum is a grumpy old cowbag, but she's the best they are going to get, is very very odd.

orangeeyebrows · 01/04/2011 10:33

children are being indoctrinated with the steretype that women are hysterical / uncontrolled?

lol

then she goes on to punctuate her points with !!!!! and ????????

sniggers

mamatomany · 01/04/2011 10:39

I thought it summed me up perfectly Blush

HandMini · 01/04/2011 10:39

Orangeeyebrows - fair point, and I promise that message was more hysterical than my usual and contained rather more exclamation marks and question marks!!! I think I'm a bit hyper today. However, point still stands - rancid song dripping with sexist statements.

Original poster
Dancergirl · 01/04/2011 10:41

I did correct dd about the 'no degree' (I have a degree!).

But....I don't know the statistics of how many people went to university in the 60s/70s/80s but it's not the majority is it? It seems that lots of mumsnetters are intelligent are intelligent and well-educated but the point of the song is that it doesn't matter if you're not!

It's not really aimed at women with degrees, it's probably aimed at the millions who don't.

OP posts:
gorionine · 01/04/2011 10:42

You know I have been thinking , maybe we need two Mothering Sunday songs, one for children of WOHM with a degree and one for ...

...me?

I think the use in the song of "sometimes" and "maybe" implies that it is not whaat every single mother on the planet does but some do?

MardyBra · 01/04/2011 10:42

At least the song doesn't say "My mum's a cunt who neglects me 'cos she spends all her time on MN".

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