To think it is bad manners to expect to sit in the same seat / occupy the same place every time

[electra]

.....just because 'I always sit here'

I'm not talking about when people have clearly designated work desks but things like conferences where we had all paid the same money (for like 3 days) but the selfish people always expected to sit at the front even though they arrived later the next day.

I think that, broadly speaking first come, first served should apply in these situations. It annoys me when people get huffy about it like they own the space.

AIBU?

human nature innit.
tis very annoying, but quite annoying to pinc someone's seat, just for the hell of it.

yanbu if it is the next day, if it is the same day and they left there stuff when poppin out then maybe yabu

amusing i mean to pinch someones seat
gah

YANBU - this pisses me off too!

no YANBU, i think people do it because they think people will be too embarrased to argue. but i get annoyed with it too. i've been to gym classes where people think they can be in the front row just coz they have been there before even if they turn up late

YANBU - it's like the pub regulars who think they "own" a bar stool - mentioned this on another thread last week.

It's also a bit like school staffrooms - you incur the wrath of the old-timers if you sit in their seats .

At something like a conference it's definitely first come first served - or anywhere you haven't actually paid for a designated seat.

I hate it when people make that assumption a seat is theirs - it always seems to happen on training courses and suchlike. I remember one week long course when I deliberately sat in a different seat each session (2 each day) which forced everyone else to mix it up a bit too. Who wants to sit in the same seat for a whole week and watch the bloke opposite picking his spots???

Amazing - some people think they are invisible and we can't see them picking/poking etc. And I agree - you wouldn't want to sit opposite them again!

this annoys me in school staff rooms

oh no, I would never sit somewhere on the same day. I mean separate days where people shouldn't grumble if they are later than you and just happen not to get their preferred seat. It happens a lot in many situations I've noticed.

I think I sat in the Deputy Head's place today.

She gave me a look. Just like that.

I remember coming down to breakfast one morning and sitting in FIl's seat that he always sits in. There was lots of looks and mutterings etc and I was asked not to sit in place again by MIL.
However FIL has Aspergers so it may not be because they always sit there, medical reasons.

foundwanting - that's your card marked then

I have no idea why people have this sense of entitlement. I guess someone with AS would not be able to think as flexibly but it really makes no sense just to think that because you sat somewhere one day / week you are entitled to sit there the next.

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I would sit in the same place out of habit, I'm afraid. But I wouldn't care if someone else was sitting there first.

Don't you find it really hard to remember names at things like conferences if everyone moves seats all the time?

YANBU. I go to a spinning class each week. There is a woman there who is a complete exercise obsessive and spins 2 or 3 times each day, and always goes on the same bike. If a newbie dares to sit on "her" bike she really kicks off on one. We're all paying the same membership each month yet she thinks she has a claim on this bike.

The front row is for the crawly bum lick square dork geeks. You don't want to sit there anyway!

The conference I went to was an ABA one so we didn't need to know each others names. Yeah, the exercise bike is the kind of situation I'm thinking of.

"If a newbie dares to sit on "her" bike she really kicks off on one. We're all paying the same membership each month yet she thinks she has a claim on this bike."

Nothing would make me sit on that bike quicker.
People who hog gym equipment and people who put out cones on public roads outside their house as if they own it are, and I say this without any degree of hyperbole, the scum of the earth and worse than hitler.

PIL belong to one of those phoenix nights kind of entertainment clubs, and everyone always sit in the same groups at the same tables. Years back we went with them once, when we got there, some new couple had sat at their groups table. It caused a right flap, they were like a load of headless chickens trying to work out where to sit that wasn't someone else's table , it was funny.

I went to an autism conference once and on the second day we were doing obsessive behaviour. The lecturer started it off by laughing at how much we were trying to deal with our dcs rigid behaviours yet here we all were, lined up mostly in the same seats as the say before.

Our work canteens are like this.

A guy once came in and said to my friend "I've been sitting there for 15 years you know!".

She piped up "Well I've been sitting here for 10 minutes"

The looks we get for sitting at their tables. There aren't that many to choose from.

It's human habit. I wouldn't expect to always have the same seat. Have you noticed in school playgrounds, the mums always stand in the same place. Day in day out year after year

electra - I would go to a conf and sit in the same seat each day (having arrived obsessively early ) to avoid annoying someone else if I move seats, iyswim?

I would not be annoyed if someone else sat in "my" seat, but would panic slightly that I was now being made ot irritate someone else by sitting in their seat