To think this is a bit off in this day and age?

[Gemsy83]

I have an 'aquaintance' shall we say who is always boasting about how much of her DH's money she spends on clothes/haircuts/treats etc. She has been saying for ages how she is going to get a job etc but nothing comes of it. I know ultimatley its up to her and DH how they live but AIBU to think this is- well, a bit piss takey really?

seriously, if a man and women have traditional values and believe the man should look after the woman then that is fine if they both aree?

but the woman in op does sounf vular and irritatin.

Gemsy I agree what needs doing at home when there are no kids there, I managed to hold down a full time job, have a spotless home and bring up two children, it isnt hard, Im always amazed on here how people find it so hard to keep on top of their house and work.

Good for you, Fabby, as always, :o

Am I the only one bothered by terms like "old-fashioned principles" and "traditional values" being bandied about for a set-up where the women stays at home?

It's nothing to do with values or principles, it's just what works for you. How absurd to suggest that there is more value in a women staying at home! Women staying at home for the sole purpose of looking after the kids is a very modern invention, since Victorian times. Not particularly traditional in the grand scheme, really.

Fabby - do you have any hobbies? Any life of your own? Not trying to be negative, just a genuine question as to how you manage to get it all done.

But who cares "what needs doing"? If people are happy for one partner to stay home, and can afford it, who cares if the partner in question sits in their pants on the sofa watching Jezza while swilling G&T/Lager and half-heartedly wiping an iron over a shirt? Surely it is no-one else's business, "what needs to be done"?

Your acquaintance is probably making it all up.

I hate it when people make things up.

Don't you, Gemsy?