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On Jeremy Kyle today ...Stepmother...just My opinion

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fran28 · 30/03/2011 10:26

Just thought it was odd to hear the term stepmother when the the childs mam is still alive? I think if a childs mother is alive and the child is living with the mother.... it sounds wrong to use the word stepmother for the fathers new wife...I know this is prob gonna annoy people...i dont know why it bothered me..

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marmaladetwatkins · 30/03/2011 14:31

"Oh and most of the people on the J.K show should have been put down at birth, they are vile"

You are going to get your buns toasted

fedupofnamechanging · 30/03/2011 14:32

True allnew. I think that some people don't deserve the title 'mother' or 'father' either, but we are stuck with it because that is what theytechnically are. Same with step parent. It's just that as a word, I don't personally like it, but cannot think of a more suitable alternative.

borderslass · 30/03/2011 14:34

DH's whose dad lives other side of country from us remarried when he was small and they consequently split up and he married again however when his last wife died he remarried his second wife this was 10 years ago DH and us thinks the world of her and she us and spoils her rotten however he has no time for his mother who only lives 2 streets away [DH didn't know about his dad until he was 19 his mother and stepfather brought him up using his name he only found out when his birth certificate was sent to him when he joined the army his mother couldn't even tell him to his face]

RunAwayWife · 30/03/2011 14:39

Well please you get some woman there dragging in a troupe of blokes to find out who the daddy of her baby is, who cares the tax payer are paying for her and it anyway.

Most of them are dentally challenged, look like they shop from rubbish bins and can not speak without swearing and saying innit every other word.

It is the great unwashed having their 15 mins of fame, sad thing is they do not realise how vile they are

marmaladetwatkins · 30/03/2011 14:44

I agree with you, RunawayWife. Don't tell anyone though.

RunAwayWife · 30/03/2011 14:52

I wont tell

Birdsgottafly · 30/03/2011 15:00

They don't realise how vile they are because they have been raised with the same vileness. Also of course if their parents fed them sweets to shut them up and didn't practice dental hygiene then that's their fault. I must live in a different world were dentistry is extremely expensive.

Anyway i also consider JK as qualitative sociological and social work research.

Rhian82 · 30/03/2011 15:01

My husband's parents are divorced and both remarried. So on one side he has a mum and stepdad, and on the other a dad and stepmum. It's got nothing to do with who brought him up or whether the opposites are still alive, it's just what they're called.

Saggyoldclothcatpuss · 30/03/2011 15:02

Stepmother is better than 'dads new friend'! There is nothing worse than a child being left in the dark!
(and I have an ex wicked stepmother and a current stepmother. I also have a full brother, half sister and a step sister!)

babylann · 30/03/2011 15:06

I went to college with a lot of people who I thought were Jeremy Kyle fodder waiting to happen. But yeah, they were raised that way and it wasn't their fault. There is this personality trait shared by all of them, kind of a defiant self-importance, and though it offends the rest of us who would rather shuffle our feet and be modest (and sometimes it actually affects us when they start a row with us over something we would have rather let slide), in some ways it's a trait you wish you could take a little tiny, controllable piece of and place it into yourself and your children... Because too many of us these days are taken for a ride on all fronts and you know that there is a huge chunk of people in this country who won't even let other people "look at them a bit funny" without making a big scene about it.

If only you could get them to be so defiant about things which would actually make a difference, there's no chance this country would be the way it is right now, particularly regarding politics, environmental issues and the legal system.

Deliainthemaking · 30/03/2011 15:50

alot of people do that if the mins still alive

kaid100 · 30/03/2011 19:01

I thought the term was stepmother whether the mother was alive or not. Centuries ago it was impossible to have a stepmother and mother at the same time, but since we now have "Divorce" the term has taken on a new meaning. Once there wouldn't have been such a word as "ex-wife" either.

NettoSuperstar · 30/03/2011 19:02

Jeremy Kyle, really?
You care about it?

2rebecca · 30/03/2011 20:05

I have 2 stepkids so I am a stepmother. It's a statement of my relationship to them and their father and says nothing about how close that relationship is. I just am their stepmother because I married their father.
You can be a good or a crap stepmother, just as you can be a good or a crap mother.
You don't have to accrue points to be a parent so I don't see why you'd need them to be a step parent.
In general women are keener to push their new partners in their kids faces and make them call a stepdad "dad" etc than men are in my experience.
I see myself as more of an auntie figure to my stepkids.
1 mum is more than enough for most teenagers.
I am still legally their stepmum though, and if taliking about them call them my stepchildren.

pranma · 30/03/2011 20:08

Regardless of who watches what a parent's new dh/dw is the step parent-that is just a fact.As for what the dc call the dsp that is a matter for individual families-our lot just use first names for dsp but they were all between 13 and 18 when dh and I married.

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