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On Jeremy Kyle today ...Stepmother...just My opinion

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fran28 · 30/03/2011 10:26

Just thought it was odd to hear the term stepmother when the the childs mam is still alive? I think if a childs mother is alive and the child is living with the mother.... it sounds wrong to use the word stepmother for the fathers new wife...I know this is prob gonna annoy people...i dont know why it bothered me..

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marmaladetwatkins · 30/03/2011 11:06

"Any suggestions for what us Step-mums should be called then?"

Devil Spawn Cunt Bitches From Hades.

RudeEnglishLady · 30/03/2011 11:07

Grin at marmalade

ConfessionsOfaFlask · 30/03/2011 11:09

you are using this one couple on car crash television to judge assess wheter step-parents deserve the title ?

YABU

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fran28 · 30/03/2011 11:09

no..sorry i didnt mean it like that ..honestly i didnt...im seeing it from a wrong view.....sorry.... i had to watch my brother's ex girlfriend...put up with my brother taking his son and leaving his new girlfriend look after him

even though she had been a horrible cow to the ex girlfriend...etc...it was hard on the ex girlfriend...well she left 9 years ago with my nephew and we havent seen her or my nephew since

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Animation · 30/03/2011 11:11

People get themselves in some right pickles and need Jeremy's help and facilitation.

ConfessionsOfaFlask · 30/03/2011 11:11

Marmalade Grin

Child Stealing Man Eating Whores ? Wink

AMumInScotland · 30/03/2011 11:14

My husband has a stepmother - his parents were divorced, and his father remarried. DH was over 30 at the time - but she's still his stepmother. It's just a technical term for a parent's spouse, whether that's because they've been widowed or divorced, or never actually married to the other parent and now marrying for the first time.

How people actually behave, and how they feel about each other, is something quite separate - DH has no feelings about his stepmother either way. Some stepmothers are great, some terrible, some in-between. But they are all stepmothers anyway.

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fran28 · 30/03/2011 11:15

Im sorry....i am not bashing stepmothers....i have no right...i know this...i just thought it sounded weird... was just sharing a view...thats all..i dont know why it bothered me.

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marmaladetwatkins · 30/03/2011 11:17

"People get themselves in some right pickles and need Jeremy's help and facilitation."

And Graham. Don't forget genius Graham.

Animation · 30/03/2011 11:19

I have an issue with Jeremy when he gets it wrong, like when he focuses on the poor kid instead of the problem idiot mother.

RudeEnglishLady · 30/03/2011 11:19

Grin at Animation

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fran28 · 30/03/2011 11:19

glad to see im not the only one who watches it...

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Underachieving · 30/03/2011 11:20

It's alright OP, don't take it to heart.

Right that's enough being genuine, back to flippant (this is AIBU after all).

YABU to even mention JK. I'm going to have to watch it now and that means the bathroom wont get cleaned. Ooh actually, that could be a headline...

"Today Jeremy meets a woman who says her kids are living in filth because of her dirty daytime TV addiction".

I would be rivetted.

Animation · 30/03/2011 11:21

fran - great thread. Smile

RudeEnglishLady · 30/03/2011 11:21

and marmalade Grin

I miss watching Jeremy and Graham put the world to rights

upsylazy · 30/03/2011 11:27

My friend is training as a drugs counsellor and, in one of their sessions, they were shown Jezza shouting at a heroin addict as a perfect example of how not to talk to addicts.

marmaladetwatkins · 30/03/2011 12:14

My best mate's DH is a drugs counsellor and he has had addicts sent to him from the Jezza show because their aftercare team (that he bleats on about being fucking saints Hmm) are not able to deal with them effectively.

HerHissyness · 30/03/2011 13:14

stepmother:

a woman who has married one's father after the death or divorce of one's mother

Collins English Dictionary ? Complete and Unabridged © HarperCollins Publishers 1991, 1994, 1998, 2000, 2003

MorticiaAddams · 30/03/2011 13:20

What about step brother and step sister, is that acceptable?

babylann · 30/03/2011 13:59

I think it's a bit unethical anyway, the way they reveal pieces of information bit by bit throughout the show.

"My son is 'orrible! 'e nicked me money!" says mum.
"You are a waste of space little piece of crap, little boy!" Jeremy Kyle shouts at the son. "Your mum deserves your respect!"
"Okay, yeah," the boy says. "But she hit me. She was on drugs. I took the money so I could buy nappies for my little sister."
"That's right, you told our researchers before the show that your mum injects X amounts of heroin every day and you are now the full time carer for your newborn sister..." Jeremy says. "You are a terrible, irresponsible mother!" he yells at mum.

It's not a soap opera. They don't need to hold back the really juicy bits until the end of the show to keep you hooked. It's not fair that you are forced to start judging the first person and then later realise it was the second person's fault all along because JK was keeping back the truth for the sake of entertainment. Especially not as he happily screams in the face of a teenage boy (who has been slapped around by a heroin addict mum all his life) in the process of making his little drama.

marmaladetwatkins · 30/03/2011 14:02

I've noticed that he's started doing that more and more recently, the cliffhanger thing. He's such a cunt. If I were a contestant on there I wouldn't be able to resist tearing the little runt a new arsehole.

fedupofnamechanging · 30/03/2011 14:20

I know that Step mother/father is the technically correct term, but I don't like it either. It implies a relationship which may not exist.To me, 'step' means 'in place of', which is not always the case. Can't think of a better word though.

If my parents remarried, then I would just think of their new partner as their spouse, and not really anything to do with me. Different maybe, for children where the step parent is actually caring for them.

I think it's a shame that the name step parent encompasses everyone, even though some people are very good and others, not so. But I suppose that is also true of the word 'parent' too.

allnewtaketwo · 30/03/2011 14:28

Thing is though karma, there are many 'mothers' who don't deserve the title either. For lots of reasons, there are 'mothers' who don't actually 'mother' the child. Do you think we should remove their title as well?

RunAwayWife · 30/03/2011 14:28

I would never expect my children to call my new DP stepdad

RunAwayWife · 30/03/2011 14:29

Oh and most of the people on the J.K show should have been put down at birth, they are vile

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