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Original poster

...to think I am an idiot?

44 replies

NorthernGobshite · 27/03/2011 17:07

Sent text which was less than polite about colleauge to her instead of to my friend!!! Aaaagggghhhh. Have sent grovelling apology and got no response! What now? Don't want argument/bad feeling at work.

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twinkytonk · 27/03/2011 17:11

Oooops!!! I don't think there is anything you can do........the damage is done. Sorry, I honestly think it's best left alone now.

SoSaysSarah · 27/03/2011 17:16

Nothing you can do mate, ride it out Wine

Nailitorelse · 27/03/2011 17:16

Suggest you mitigate the damage by having a conversation with your boss about it, telling them exactly what you have done, just in case this person decides to take it further calling it "harrassment" or "bullying". Forewarned is forearmed.

compo · 27/03/2011 17:18

Ring her instead of text to apologise
how bad was it? Can you type content of text on here?

compo · 27/03/2011 17:18

Was it 'xxxx is a slack bitch' Grin

activate · 27/03/2011 17:19

what did it say?

(obviously can't comment until I know Grin)

ENormaSnob · 27/03/2011 17:19
Shock

no advice but you have my sympathies.

Did you name her? What did it say?

Am cringing for you.

CheekyLittleSox · 27/03/2011 17:19

What did ti say?

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NorthernGobshite · 27/03/2011 17:20

Yep, I named her! Cringe..I can't put what I wrote as have no idea if she uses MN. It wasn't terrible what I wrote, but she has reason to be pissed with me. Although my apology was grovelling!

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squeakytoy · 27/03/2011 17:21

if she has a fairly average name, you could get away with it

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NorthernGobshite · 27/03/2011 17:22

no, squeaky it was obv about her as made reference to something she had done which narked me.

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compo · 27/03/2011 17:22

Was it 'i wish Mary didn't always take Mondays off'

or 'if Mary makes smelly fish pasta for her lunch tomorrow I'm gonna deck her'

compo · 27/03/2011 17:23

'i'm narked at Mary because she put her coat on my peg'

catchmeifyoucan · 27/03/2011 17:24

Say your mischievous son/nephew/cousin/whatever got hold of your phone?

mylovelymonster · 27/03/2011 17:24

oops Grin

risingstar · 27/03/2011 17:25

doh!

could you find a new job before tommorrow?

if not, take it that you have apologised. is she likely to go around making a big noise? if not, i would tackle her first thing you see her and apologise to her face, make up something face saving ( Is there any chance that you meant someone else but put her name in by mistake because you had her name in mind because you were texting her ifyswim?)

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NorthernGobshite · 27/03/2011 17:27

I am happy to take responsibility. I fucked up. If she doesn't respond today I will catch her first thing at work and make apology in person. I am fairly sure she'll tell others but not worried by that. It wasn't that bad!!

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ENormaSnob · 27/03/2011 17:28

Grin @ compo

PositiveAttitude · 27/03/2011 17:44

It will blow over you just need to ride it out. You have my sympathy.

A few years ago I sent a ranting email about my boss......to him, instead of my friend! I realised as I pressed "send" but it was one of those slow motion moments when you brain realises but your finger is just too slow to react. I thought I was going to die from embarrassment. Blush
The next day I was called into his office and he laughed and said that we had "issues" to discuss. It all worked out ok, but I will never do it again!!

It could be a good opportunity to be really open and honest and get a lot off your chest and she might respond well >.

AccioPinotGrigio · 27/03/2011 17:45

Yikes. I have done something similar but on email to a work colleague in another country so didn't have to face her every day. Just fall on your sword when you see her and apologise again. Worse things happen at sea.

YouMakeMeWannaLaLa · 27/03/2011 17:54

I was the victim in an incident like this once. I got a text from a colleague whom I was going to be working with that afternoon saying (obv meant for someone else) that she was 'dreading spending the whole afternoon with fucking boring LaLa'!

I was a bit upset but tbh I was mortified FOR her!

I'm sure it'll be fine if you just creep a little bit, especially if she had pissed you off in the first place.

I'm not 'fucking boring' though Hmm

heliumballoons · 27/03/2011 17:56

Whoops. Think lots of people must have done it though.

If it wasn't that bad I doubt you could get into 'trouble' about it iyswim. An apology is a good idea in person though.

ledkr · 27/03/2011 17:58

i did this whist on holiday with best friend who's ds had been really badly behaved,i took the phone and tried to delete it but no signal so didnt come in,this meant itwould potentially come in on way home after hols when we were all together in the car!! I ended up nearly having a brea down and "disposed" of it Shock we never spoke after hol as it was that bad but i lived in fear someone would find her phone and send it to her wityhbthe message on it.

maybe just send a more detailed apology excusing yourself by pointing out how she had annoyed/upset you which prompted you to send the text.

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NorthernGobshite · 27/03/2011 18:15

I have sent her a text and a message via fb and nothing thus far. She clearly wants to make a big deal out if it. I will attempt to apologise in morning and then just leave it.

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Vallhala · 27/03/2011 18:23

Is it not possible that rather than wanting to make a big deal out of it she just hasn't got her phone on her/not got it turned on/hasn't heard it ring and isn't at her computer? You may be worrying yourself unnecessarily.

It does depend on what was said though. There's a big difference between "Mary really gets on my wick talking about her budgie all day at work" and "I don't want to work with that incompetent twat Mary" IYSWIM.

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