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to not understand why people have to post every detail of their lives of FB?

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thebird · 24/03/2011 12:46

My SIL likes to post on FB at least 4 times a day with various comments on how she is feeling...oh so tired today not much sleep last night..feeling poorly today just been sick again....had a bad day at work today lots of traffic on the way home....just baked a cake and here is a picture..Just went to tesco and oh the queues blah blah blah. Perhaps I am just getting old and but I just don't udnerstand this?

Dont get me wrong I thing FB is great and a wonderful way to keep in touch with family and friends but why would you feel the need to share every detail and every thought that runs through your head?

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superv1xen · 26/03/2011 11:15

People are disillusioned into thinking that they really are THAT important...that they are some sort of minor celebrity and that everyone is really interested in what they do on a daily/hourly basis

yes.

think we must have some mutual fb friends sweetpea

Hereforlife · 26/03/2011 11:28

There are two types that puzzle me.

One friend, every other post is, out with great friends, great food, life is great. And I just think, what are you hiding? Or who are you trying to convince, you? Your family? Is it always great?

The holiday bores get me as well, is there anything more boring than other people's holidays?

Look at me I'm on holiday again!

The nasty bit in me thinks you're a man in his forties, not married, no children, you're a bit sad.

I think a few deletes are coming up.

babylann · 26/03/2011 11:43

10 more sleeps til Kos!

9 more sleeps til Kos!

8 more sleeps til Kos!

etc

TheCoalitionNeedsYou · 26/03/2011 11:46

Solution to all your Facebook problems a) - Stop using Facebook.

Solution to all your Facebook problems b) - Get better friends.

sterrryerryoh · 26/03/2011 12:11

How about this one

XXXX is proud to do life with some amazing people. You humble me, guys. My life is better for you being in it

YYYY Are you talking about me, lol?

XXXX No

:)

superv1xen · 26/03/2011 13:22

arf @ coalition -good point!

Sweetpea215 · 26/03/2011 13:45

Coalition - I for one don't use facebook...and I am not referring to my friends!

pommedeterre · 26/03/2011 14:48

I call them the 'uncensored' and like to have a couple of them so I have something to feel smug about. One such person from school posts EVERYTHING. Long long status updates about finding the car seat in the garage ready for next baby and it had some mildew on so she cleaned it and was really glad she'd gone to get it then rather than later.
Then another friend of a friend likes to post about how she loves her baby and how special she is at least once a day. As baby is now four months that's a lot of self obsessed twaddle. She also does the heart shape things.
The 'uncensored' are so odd as they obviously think other people don't do these things (sort garages, love their babies) and so need to read about these amazing experiences on their facebook pages.

Summerbird73 · 26/03/2011 20:01

my old colleague has just spent the last 24 hours posting on what a fantastic night she had last night. all of the below posted at the relevant times:

2pm - she was 'checking in' at a random wine bar in C London - cue a photo of a bottle and glass of wine

4pm - cue another wine pic but checking into a different bar

7pm - more people joined them - they are onto cocktails now

11pm - oh no - one of her friends fell off the chair dancing

7am today - oh what a fantastic night - such a bad head

11am - full rundown of the evening and where they all went and what the occasion was - apparantly they all do it every 6 months.....

now i am thrilled that she had a lovely night but am also bollocking myself for being jealous of 'such a wild and crazy lifestyle' actually i know for a fact she is currently in her PJs nursing a monster hangover and getting her 7 and 9 year old DCs to fetch her aspirin.....

coz that is her current status [grrrrrrrr]

KittyBump · 26/03/2011 21:19

what about the horsey people! so many photos and updates - how can you find so much to say about a horse, or even two horses!
At least they are easy to hide as their profile pic is always their frigging horse

thefirstMrsDeVere · 26/03/2011 21:35

I dont like the 'copy this status, 93% wont have the guts to do it' ones.

What do they achieve? Apart from annoying everyone.

One the other day was about baby loss. Fair enough, no problem there at all. But it included the words 'unlike cancer, baby loss is still a taboo subject and no one wants to talk about it'

I went from midly irritated to pissed off in seconds.

My statuses are mainly rants. I think I probably appear a total loon. My mum wanted to 'friend' me but I thought it wise that she didnt get the full force of my unhingedness every couple of days via her lap top.

TryLikingClarity · 26/03/2011 21:40

Could someone anyone who is under the age of (approx) 40 please let me know I am not the only person who isn't on FB??? I'm 26 years old and the looks I get from peers when I tell them I am not, have never been, and never plan to be on FB.

I am like a social oddity. But sometimes I look around at people I know talking about statuses and walls and I just think that come the end days I will be the only one left living. It's like they are obsessed with themselves and what boring crap others do. How they get any work, studying or LIVING done I do not know!

Taking a picture of something does not make it real. Life happens whether or not there is a pic uploaded about it. No one needs to read the tiny details of your life. You are not that interesting. Really, you're not.

I know I'm just a normal mum, student wife, I don't need to tell you all every turn my hand makes during a day. Why do others?

I call it VainBook. Modern bane of society.

Sorry if this annoys people and I know it's a bit of a rant, but it just really confuses me.

But, I laughed at some of the sample status updates some of yous posted, made me feel even stronger in my dislike of it.

CheekyLittleSox · 26/03/2011 21:44

a friend on mine and dhs facebook always posts

"i lv mi lil boi n mi lil princess loadz n loadz n mi gorgeous fiance 2"

Dh wants to write underneath -
"well done for loving your children"

thefirstMrsDeVere · 26/03/2011 21:46

I didnt understand it either. I still dont quite get it but it is a nice way to keep in touch. OH works evenings so I am on my own a lot. It passes the time.

I do think the worst thing about it is the way people use it instead of being a proper friend. A friend of mine is very ill and she gets very upset that people think a quick message on her fb wall is the same as phoning her and/or visiting her.

FB is also a monumental timewaster but then so is Mumsnet.

CheekyLittleSox · 26/03/2011 21:47

one now

"ow bless XXX(DS) has a viral infection"

Bottleofbeer · 26/03/2011 22:03

Me and a friend had this conversation once (face to face, in real life - shocker!) so we both had a sad face competition. A simple sad face emoticon status. The ain was to see who got the most people ask "what's up hun?"

I won

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thebird · 26/03/2011 22:15

I agree mrsDeVere, as I said in my OP I think FB is great for certain things. I use it to keep on touch with friends and family abroad mainly. I just don't get why anyone would be interested to know what I had for tea (plus pic) or that ive just put the bins out. I can imagine the reaction some of the FB posts on here would get if they were on MN- they would be slated!

MN posts ask/ offer honest advice of people in similar situations where you might not always want to share with family or friends. FB posts arr mostly attention whoring look at me I'm fab- that doesn't wash on MN.

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thebird · 26/03/2011 22:19

And yes both (whisper) waste time and I should really be ironing or sleeping or doing something more useful with my time

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Thingumy · 26/03/2011 22:19

I'm not on farcebook.

I tried it for 7 months.

I 'friended' people from junior/senior school,previous work places and friends and a few peeps from ds's school

They were nearly all wankers.

One close mate and her dp updated statuses within minutes of each other on all of their fabulous 7 holidays a year,our friendship isn't quite the same as I can't get over her banal gloating.

The people that I knew from school still were racist, unintelligent twats.

Most bragged about their children,husbands,girlfriends,houses,dogs,cars,income.

I wasted alot of time reading that shite.

Portofino · 26/03/2011 22:25

I use FB a lot BECAUSE I am abroad. Due to work stuff, my friends and family are quite widespread. As long as you block the arseholes, ther is no problem.

adamschic · 26/03/2011 22:32

I've only learned how to hide status updates from certain 'friends' it's great and better than upsetting people by deleting them.

UnquietDad · 26/03/2011 23:01

Has anyone read E.M. Forster's "The Machine Stops"? Farcebook can be a bit like that.

Lamebook can be good for a laugh though.

Thingumy · 26/03/2011 23:02

hatebook might catch on

TragicallyHip · 26/03/2011 23:24

God I know what you mean!

I have one friend who I have hidden due to constantly moaning about this illness and that, hypercondriac eat your heart out!! I have also hidden my cousin due to fricken text speak.

TheCoalitionNeedsYou · 27/03/2011 00:04

Thingumy - Why didn't you just 'friend' people who are your friends?

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