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Original poster

I have been dwelling on this all evening.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 24/03/2011 00:18

This afternoon I had to rush DS2 to the hospital, while we were there a couple came in with a small baby I would say possibly around 9m old.
Dad was holding said baby and mum kept putting her head down.
I was waiting for DS2 to be seen and looked at baby, he was covered in blood which was coming from his eye.

I saw more closely as his dad was stood holding him next to DS2's bed. You could clearly see a round cut there, I then overheard - and I really wasn't listening deliberatly as I was worried about DS2, Dad say to mum "I can't believe you have done this he is a baby"

Mum hung her head again, dad continued to rant at her and got louder, he was so angry. It emerged that she had hit the baby for screaming, how she hit him I don't know as I asked for DS2 to be moved as I at this point felt physically sick and had to bite my tongue.

Now obviously I do NOT know the full details but how does a parent think it is right to hit a child?
It really made me feel sick when I looked at this LO's face.

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Tortington · 24/03/2011 00:20

i could have easily done that.

i didn't

instead i went into another room. curled up into a ball and cried whilst wishing i was dead for thinging of ways to kill my babies.

i don't think that mother thought it was right either from your description

not that i am excusing her.

BitOfFun · 24/03/2011 00:20

Well he was in the right place for treatment, and you have no idea of the circumstances. I just hope he was helped and that the mother doesn't have to read you judging her if it was a sheer accident.

How is your own son?

MaisyMooCow · 24/03/2011 00:20

She must have been in a dreadful state to have done it. Maybe she was suffering from some kind of anxiety or depression.

humptydidit · 24/03/2011 00:21

dunno really if yabu or not.

yanbu to feel terrible if this baby was hit but can't really judge the parents as don't know the whole story.

sounds v Sad tho

BooyHoo · 24/03/2011 00:22

some people have a really hard time coping with screaming babies and they explode. it isn't right but i'll bet you anything she feels worse than your judgement could ever make her feel. you don't know their circumstances or what pressure she has been under. again. it is never right to hit but none of us know what happened.

TrinityIsABunnyMunchingRhino · 24/03/2011 00:22

I love custardo

CheerfulYank · 24/03/2011 00:23

I would be dwelling on it too, but it sounds like at least the dad is on top of things. I hope she gets the help she needs. That poor little baby!

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TheLadyEvenstar · 24/03/2011 00:25

I did say I didn;t know the circumstances, only what I over heard.
And it was the state of his little face that sickened me, I cannot judge her when I don't understand tbh.

DS2 is ok, he is FINALLY asleep after being awake since 3.30 this morning. Having a very high temp (40) that I couldn't get down, vomiting, crying and clutching his stomach with pain, grabbing the back of his head and crying that it hurt.....turns out he has a viral infection an ear infection and swollen tonsils.

I wanted to cry tbh with tiredness but instead I went to Zumba and half killed myself Grin

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stream · 24/03/2011 00:26

I think the dad's response is weird.

sundayrose10 · 24/03/2011 00:26

i don't believe this story.

CheerfulYank · 24/03/2011 00:27

Is zumba fun? I've wanted to try it for awhile. :)

BitOfFun · 24/03/2011 00:27

I hope he gets well soon, sounds rotten for him.

MaisyMooCow · 24/03/2011 00:27

Why don't you believe it Sundayrose?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 24/03/2011 00:27

ahhh I see why it looks like I was judging,

I meant I had to bite my tongue to stop me being sick hence why I asked to be moved. Not because I wanted to say anything.

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CheerfulYank · 24/03/2011 00:28

Really, sunday? Lady posts quite often, don't think she's a troll?

Why do you think the dad's response was weird? If DH hit DS for screaming I'd have plenty to say!

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TheLadyEvenstar · 24/03/2011 00:30

Sunday, That is entirely up to you. I can assure you what I saw and heard are the way I have typed it here.

CY, Zumba is brilliant!!!

BoF, so do I he has vomited again tonight, I need to sleep but need to stay awake and make sure he doesn't over heat again as thats when he vomits everytime he gets hot.

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MaMattoo · 24/03/2011 00:30

OMG. Poor souls. All three of them.

BooyHoo · 24/03/2011 00:30

why is the dad's response weird? if i had done that to either of ours EXp would quite rightly be furious with me and no doubt would have far worse to say to me. in fact i doubt he would let me come to the hospital with them.

CheerfulYank · 24/03/2011 00:30

Unless it was an accident, I think being judgmental in a situation where someone has hurt their child is okay! I remember a thread awhile back where someone said they'd smacked their daughter in the grocery store and some woman had told her she was going to call the police for assault, and the general consensus seemed to be "I'd have said that and more!"

stream · 24/03/2011 00:31

Like he was really making it obvious who had hit the baby.

Wouldn't you want to be trying to hold it together for the baby and your end-of-tether partner?

BooyHoo · 24/03/2011 00:31

TLES can you have him sleep in with you so you can keep an eye on him and feel him getting too hot?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 24/03/2011 00:31

CY, I had plenty to say to DP tonight when he fell asleep while looking after DS1 and DS2 while I went to Zumba - ok my bad considering he had been up since 4.15 am ohhh hang on I was up from 3.30 and still stayed awake grrrrrrr

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CheeseandGherkins · 24/03/2011 00:32

I don't think the Dad's response was weird either. Hope your ds2 is ok

BooyHoo · 24/03/2011 00:32

stream we dont know what happened. he may have been saying it through gritted teeth thinking he was out of earshot of anyone.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 24/03/2011 00:34

BooyHoo, he is in my bed, I am on the sofa. I am waiting or him to settle and will move his junior bed into my room (just for tonight) you watch I'll end up in his bed haha

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