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Original poster

I have been dwelling on this all evening.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 24/03/2011 00:18

This afternoon I had to rush DS2 to the hospital, while we were there a couple came in with a small baby I would say possibly around 9m old.
Dad was holding said baby and mum kept putting her head down.
I was waiting for DS2 to be seen and looked at baby, he was covered in blood which was coming from his eye.

I saw more closely as his dad was stood holding him next to DS2's bed. You could clearly see a round cut there, I then overheard - and I really wasn't listening deliberatly as I was worried about DS2, Dad say to mum "I can't believe you have done this he is a baby"

Mum hung her head again, dad continued to rant at her and got louder, he was so angry. It emerged that she had hit the baby for screaming, how she hit him I don't know as I asked for DS2 to be moved as I at this point felt physically sick and had to bite my tongue.

Now obviously I do NOT know the full details but how does a parent think it is right to hit a child?
It really made me feel sick when I looked at this LO's face.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 24/03/2011 00:37

As I said in the OP, I don't know the full details, how could I. But I have tbh I struggle to understand what would/could push you to hurting your child even if they are screaming.
I understand some ladies suffer from PND, but don't think I understand it fully.

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BooyHoo · 24/03/2011 00:37

i made the mistake last night of trying to steal a cuddle from ds2 before i went to bed. he woke up. TWO HOURS i had to read peppa pig, bob the builder and postman pat for. exhausted is not the word!!

OnEdge · 24/03/2011 00:39

Fuck ME ! There is a baby that has clearly been abused and you are feeling sorry for its abusers ??????

The world has gone madder !

BitOfFun · 24/03/2011 00:39

To be fair though, it could have been an accident which happened while she was looking after him. I know I would have been angry and accusatory at the person if it was 'on their watch', but it doesn't mean it was deliberate.

BitOfFun · 24/03/2011 00:41

OnEdge- I'm assuming an accident, obviously. We don't know what happened.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 24/03/2011 00:41

BooyHoo, this morning at 3.40, I was watching the new yogi bear film DS2 loves. followed by fireman fucking want to kill him Sam.

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BooyHoo · 24/03/2011 00:42

"Fuck ME ! There is a baby that has clearly been abused and you are feeling sorry for its abusers ??????"

actually all we know is that a baby has been injured we don't know that it was deliberate at all.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 24/03/2011 00:42

BoF the dad did say to her about having gone too far this time Sad that could have meant anything though I suppose.

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OnEdge · 24/03/2011 00:42

"it emerged that she had hit the baby for screaming"

OnEdge · 24/03/2011 00:43

BooyHoo - well it stands a good chance from what OP has said.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 24/03/2011 00:43

BooyHoo, which is why I wasn't judging. I just did feel sick at the amount of blood but then I am a wimp Grin

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BooyHoo · 24/03/2011 00:44

apologies onedge. you're right it is abuse.

OnEdge · 24/03/2011 00:45

I am judging the twat

SpringchickenGoldBrass · 24/03/2011 00:45

It's not totally impossible that the man was the abuser and ostentatiously blaming it on the woman. I think that's what some people are getting at. Some abusive men will hurt their small children and convince the children's mother to take the blame on the grounds that
a) You don't want me to go to prison, do you? You'll be homeless and the DC will be taken away.
b) It's your fault for not stopping the baby crying
c) Everyone knows you're mad anyway.
Etc.

Though nor is it impossible that the woman did snap and hurt the child, or is suffering from severe PND, or is in fact a violent arsehole herself.

None of us know.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 24/03/2011 00:45

But, could she have hit him harder than she meant or pushed him away and he did it? in which case it would have been partly accidental?

See this is why I have been dwelling on it.

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BitOfFun · 24/03/2011 00:46

Well, let's hope the medics get to the bottom of it and that the baby is protected, if that's the situation Sad.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 24/03/2011 00:47

SCGB, it was the way she hung her head and didn't touch baby at all.
DS2 was ill and I was holding him because I was worried or maybe I over worry?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 24/03/2011 00:48

BoF - heres hoping.

On a side note anyone have any ideas on what I can give DS2 to eat/drink that will fill him up as he has no appetite.

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BooyHoo · 24/03/2011 00:50

toast is always a winner. toast and milk and lots of it. Grin

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TheLadyEvenstar · 24/03/2011 00:53

Hmm he had milk earlier and brought it up again. Milk is normally a favourite of his and he drinks 2-3 pints over 2 days.

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BooyHoo · 24/03/2011 00:56

awww. poor thing. sips of water. or if he can stomach it, some dioralite (sp) or lucozade sport. small sips though.

OnEdge · 24/03/2011 00:59

ice lolly?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 24/03/2011 01:02

Funnily enough he nicked my lucozade sport which I bought for zumba and drank some of that.
I was worried he was too young for it Blush

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TheLadyEvenstar · 24/03/2011 01:02

OnEdge he hates them

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BooyHoo · 24/03/2011 01:06

this could be complete rubbish because it's one of those "someone once told me" things, but Grin someone once told me that lucozade sport is pretty much the same stuff as dioralite which is what children are prescribed if they are having D&V. the someone who told me said her GP told her that when her own DD had D&V.

you can choose to ignore the previous paragraph if you like Grin