to not let my 11yr old DS2 have blonde highlights?

[Tortoise]

He told me to start this thread as he obviously thinks IABU!
So, blonde highlights for an 11yr old boy, yes or no?
(Of course some of his friends do which makes me even more unreasonable in his eyes!)

No bleach for an 11 year old. Boy, girl or aardvark.

The sentance that I found worrying was about asking his Dad. If the father is a pushover like my DH, your DS will come home looking like George Michael circa 1985.
FWIW, i would say no to my DD (I hope)

It wouldn't cost £80+ here. Small town in Somerset!
Yes, his Dad is a pushover but a skint one lol!

I'd let him have them when he can pay for them :)

Let him do it, and then take LOADS of pictures. They'll come in handy in a couple of years when he brings friends/girlfriends back to the house. (No, really, you'd never embarrass him like that, would you?)

I wouldn't pay, but I might go out a pick up an acid wash denim jacket to complete the look.

Check with the school first anyway; dd's school is rather strict on this kind of thing. And don't pay for anything you don't feel like paying for.

If you would let a daughter of that age then yes, and you are being sexist.

They look great in boys hair.

So if as a girl would you let him?

Definitely, YANBU. And if I had an 11-year-old daughter, I wouldn't let her have highlights either.

Show him some pictures of George Michael from the 80's and see if he still wants them then.

No... he'll probably look like a dandelion.

Don't schools have rules on uniform anymore? We weren't allowed hair colourants of any kind back in the 80s... although I did risk 'Hint of a Tint'...

my dd had blonde highlights in her hair at 10/11 :)

I think he is a bit young to be thinking about dying his hair. I remember a boy having hi lites in the 80's and he had brown hair. It made him look grey and old.

No, I wouldn't want a girl to have them either!
School don't seem strict on hair styles. Some of the girls have dyed their hair recently including one going from blonde to plum!

If he stills wants them, tell him he can have them for the Summer Holiday break. Then buy some Sun In and do it yourself!

No, not like that lol. He has short hair and only wants a few highlights. He is counting up the yes's and nos!

I would let DD have highlights when she is 11.

Why is it blond for a boy? I thought we didn't apply gender to adjectives in UK English.

I don't know why people think highlights belong to the 80s. I have natural high and low lights done, it helps cover up the few grey hairs I have, gives my colour a bit of a lift and I don't exactly look like a member of Black Lace!

I'd let him have them but say he has to save his pocket money up to get them done, or get them done for a birthday. Also bear in mind once they have been done they will need redoing, maybe every few weeks or months depending on how dramatic they are.

I'm sure there's a non permanent spray you can buy which will wash out. Can't he try something like that first to see if he likes it.

I say no, but then again my DS is only 3 and a half...who knows how I'll feel in seven-odd years? :)

It was a very short sort of blended mohawk. Which didn't involve putting chemicals in his hair!

my daughter has started asking to dye her hair blonde (she doesn't know about highlights yet) - she is 10. She's not asking very seriously so, I won't give in yet, but I can see that if she goes on about it long enough, I would let her when she was in secondary school.

I do wish that my mother had been more involved in my appearance when I was a teenager - I could have done with a bit of grooming, and it would have boosted my confidence no end to have a decent hairstyle and reasonably fashionable clothes that suited me.

my 12 year old son won't even wear wax or gel in his hair - so he's the opposite end of the spectrum!

Stranded It's not about how he looks. That doesn't worry me. I feel he is too young to be having his hair coloured.