To be silently fuming with mil?

[Theonlyexception]

She is staying with us this week,until Friday. We live overseas. She has absolutely no qualms about trying to discipline my ds, telling him off etc, which is annoying as I am the parent. But what makes me so angry is that she has been saying to him that he is naughty. Whenever he does something wrong she'll go 'no, your naughty!' and I just feel like going up to her and shouting in her face 'no, he's not naughty! The behaviour is, but he isn't!' It is driving me mad. We have her until Friday...(give me strength!)

I truly believe too many childcren get away with bad behaviour because the parents would rather talk phsycobabble about the childs behaviour, rather than actually deal with bad behaviour

I remember asking my mum why some parents let their kids be little so and so's and never check them or tell them off, she replied "because its easier"

she wasn't wrong

If you are in the room with him and he is doing something he is not supposed to be doing, than you as the parent should correct him. I dislike parents who just stand and watch and not intervene whilst their child does something naughty. Of course a child can be naughty, so what do you call a child who is beating the crap out of another child, or is being downright rude, their behaviour is not only naughty but they are too.

That is the only way they will learn, we tend to treat children like little Princes/Princesses that can do no wrong, thus creates children who are spoilt and do not have any idea of responsibility, and walk all over their parents.

since when was it so awful to say 'stop being naughty' to a child? Flippin eck, can we all just get a grip with all this labelling nonsense please.

ditto pigletmania btw.

If the child was not naughty they would not be doing the naughty behaviour. poochela

It may not be the way that you would do it, but it does DCs no harm at all to be checked by others. It is wrong to give them the idea that only a parent can correct them, because it simply isn't true.
DCs are very adaptable and he will just learn that there are certain things that mum lets him get away with but Gran won't. That is life.