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ladywriter1968 · 21/05/2025 00:15

blue2711 · 21/03/2011 11:30

It happens all the time and it's getting to me. I am really tiny but it's just the way I am. I'm only 5ft 1 so I'm pretty in proportion. I've always been very slim but I know since I had DS, who's 18 months, I'm even smaller than ever. My DH and close friends tell me I look lovely but acquaintances - particularly if they've not seen me for a while - often exclaim about how thin I am and I feel awful, really self-conscious and insulted. One woman the other day said 'Just look at your thin face!'

Surely this is just downright rude? I would never ever comment on how fat someone has got. What should I do or say to show people that they are hurting my feelings? Usually I just try not to react and change the subject but then their comments replay in my mind afterwards and make me feel dreadful.

Am I being over-sensitive? And does it really look that dreadful to be really slim? The media seems to be full of praise for 'real women' who have curves, but just because I haven't really got any I'm still a real woman! Anyone feel the same way?

I am opposite. Was told am in obese range bmi. I am a bit O/W but not obese. I have several health issues that doctors dont even consider and suggest I join FAT Club. I already have depression and hate my weight but doctors dont consider my background or the fact I had an eating disorder as a teen. Telling someone they are obese or too thin can trigger alsorts of emotions. We ourselves know what we are and what we are not. We dont need to be treated like we are stupid. Its how you feel thats important. If you feel unwell, tired, breathless then you know somethings not right. We are with ourselves 24/7. All they go on is BMI these days. We are all different. As I am only 5ft.1in any fat will show out unfortunately. I have tried to lose it. But it just isnt working out. So at either end it can be stressful.

Bigcat25 · 21/05/2025 01:50

turdass · 21/03/2011 12:28

That is terrible!People can be so rude. I am fat and have had soooo many comments on my weight it has become a real bugbear of mine. Why can't people just accept that people come in all shapes and sizes? if we were all clones, the world would be a very dull place! Be proud of who you are!

Btw, maybe it would be better to say that it is usually men who get away with different body sizes. As a woman, as soon as you deviate from the 'norm', everyone from 'well meaning' people to white van drivers will see you as a target. I have often had 'fatty' shouted at me (I am a size 16). My slim friend had 'fat bastard' shouted at her when she was PREGNANT. It is depressing.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. That driver was pathetic. Love your post.

Twistedpinkfunkmuffins · 21/05/2025 01:56

Commenting on anyone’s weight/size (skinny or fat) is rude. But some people think because the person is skinny it isn’t body shaming. It is. I was a size 4 at my smallest and people would constantly tell me I was too skinny. It wasn’t, I was well within my average bmi scale for my weight and height. My friends were not. I didn’t say anything as it was rude.

Twistedpinkfunkmuffins · 21/05/2025 02:06

ladywriter1968 · 21/05/2025 00:15

I am opposite. Was told am in obese range bmi. I am a bit O/W but not obese. I have several health issues that doctors dont even consider and suggest I join FAT Club. I already have depression and hate my weight but doctors dont consider my background or the fact I had an eating disorder as a teen. Telling someone they are obese or too thin can trigger alsorts of emotions. We ourselves know what we are and what we are not. We dont need to be treated like we are stupid. Its how you feel thats important. If you feel unwell, tired, breathless then you know somethings not right. We are with ourselves 24/7. All they go on is BMI these days. We are all different. As I am only 5ft.1in any fat will show out unfortunately. I have tried to lose it. But it just isnt working out. So at either end it can be stressful.

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But who told you are obese? There’s a difference between a doctor telling you this and someone who is a friend with no medical training. If you have several health issues then yes, this may be caused by being overweight. More type 2 diabetics are over weight or obese. This is fact. If you are fat or obese then yes this will cause issues for your health.

YehRight · 21/05/2025 04:17

I always think the type of people that call others 'skinny Minnie' probably wouldn't take very well to being called 'fatty watty'. 😂