To not like it when DP's family kiss DS on the lips?

[joymaker]

Every time we see DP's family the female members ask for/give kisses to DS (10.5 months) on the lips. Needless to say they love him very much and lavish him with gifts and attention.

It is simply something that I am unaccoutomed to from my upbring and find myself wincing everytime it is done, yet they think it very 'cute'. I haven't been able to bring myself to say anything for fear of upsetting/offending them (and what/how could I say it?)though I'm not sure I can bear it much longer.

Ugh! I hate being kissed on the lips by anyone other than DH. Nothing against it if both parties are comfortable with it but horrid if one person really hates it.

I think I'd try and put up with them kissing the baby as long as he doesn't mind. When he is a bit older, he will probably start to dodge it anyway and, at that point you could say something, if they try to insist when he doesn't like it.

I never kissed my own on the mouth when they were babies, let alone anyone else's - all that slobber, no thanks!

Oopslateagain my late Gran used to to home in for a whiskery lip smacker which would make me cringe! I used to get around it by grabbing her and pulling her into a bear hug! Might that work for your MIL?

I only knew one person who did that and I asked "Did you just kiss his mouth?" I told her immediately that we prefer a cheek kiss. She was surprised as it was her family way, but she never did it again.

Yabu

YANBU, I think it is inappropriate, tell Dp's fmaily you have been advised by your gp to not kiss the baby on the lips because of coldsores. You will appear PFB but not rude.

YANBU my DD got coldsores this way.

YANBU - I Hate, Hate, Hate it.

Hugs, cuddles and cheek/head/forehead kisses in our family.

MIL still kisses DH on the lips it makes me cringe.

fatlazymummy if you have never had a cold sore it means you don't have the Herpes Simplex virus, therefore no chance of transmitting it unwittingly to your DC.

YesPleaseDrC

That's crap. 50% of people who carry the virus never have a symptom but can pass it on. I was told that by the sexual health clinic.

YANBU, kissing anyone other than DP on the lips is icky. (DD does it sometimes, but she is only 2 so I will let her off!)

My mum & grandparents all have cold sores, but I don't & I put that down to the fact we only do (cheek) kissing on birthdays/special occasions.

One of DHs cousins tries to lip kiss me (he's caught me a few times, but I'm good at dodging it now) & I was wondering how I would deal with him kissing DD & decided that the best approach would be for me to say VERY LOUDLY that she should "go give uncle Charlie a big sloppy kiss on the cheek", that and making sure she's got a really sticky face &/or runny nose

YANBU
I hate it - especially when MIL has cold sores - how dare she risk passing them on to DC!

Like you, i haven't 'tackled' the subject yet. I just have to look away when i see it happening

My DH caught cold sores from his mother when he was small and as a result nobody is allowed to kiss DD on the lips.

YANBU,

It would not bother me if it were on the head or cheek but the fact that my MIL is a complete moron who kissed DS on the lips when he was 6 weeks old (still does it 4 years on) and gave him a cold sore which he still gets in winter!

I keep telling her but she keeps telling me to stop being over protective

I don't think it's a case of doing things differently but more a case of common fecking sense, it's no less affectionate on his cheek surely...