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or is he being a twat?

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JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 18/03/2011 20:50

You will have to excuse me im possibly a bit arsy but im soo bloody jarred off with dp ive lost grip with whos in the wrong here.

Understandably me and dp are a touch stressed, weve been 'homeless' for 3wks and staying in a bnb.

Im not sure if hes tired or what but his attitude stinks, everything i do he rants at me for it.

anyway, we are all in one bedroom, dd is rather unsettled and keeps ending up in our bed, a couple of nights ago i woke up at 4am with no room to move so just got up and got in the bottom bunk, sometime in the night dd woke and bit my phone, and its broken completely, i was rather upset as it was given to me and there is no way on earth we can replace it dp told me it was my 'own fucking fault' for leaving it out, it was on top of a chest of drawers on charge, but anyway being a stupid girl i cried and he went off on one calling me spoilt etc so i just went and got showered, then after breakfast hes clearly in a mood, apparently i was 'bang out of line' expecting to just go and have a shower leaving him to feed the dcs. i mean wtf!!!! hes always been fantastic and we just go about our routine each picking up where the last left off.

the mood has carried on 3 days, and came to a head today when he realised hed not bothered to tell me the car insurance was due and we had until close of business to sort it, i tried everything i could and couldnt raise the cash cue slamming doors etc (at my mums house)
then dd runs through proclaiming she has pood and rushes out to the trampoline, ds and my sister guide her to the door in the enclosure and she trips, i grab her arm and lift her quickly so she doesnt fall, at this point dp slams into, twists my wrist and shoves me in the shoulder screaming at me to get the hell off her, my mum saw everything and has no idea why he reacted like it, hes adamant i man handled her, i did not.
anyway he then begins gathering up the childrens things saying hes leaving so i get my stuff and follow as we walk out the door he snatches ds hand from me and attempts to strap dd in while keeping ds away from me, i take ds and strap him in all the while hes talking at dd saying im evil and nasty and did mummy hurt you, dd keeps saying no daddy. i get in the car, not really wanting to but to scared to allow him to drive off with the children, he then drives slowly around and stops a few times really scaring me.

ive just tried talking to him and he just wont, hes decided hes too tired and has been asleep an hour.

i dont know what the hell i did, or is going on, hes snapped and is making me miserable. nd hes usually and has been for 6yrs lovely kind and helpful, please if you can see my errror, tell me.

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JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 20/03/2011 17:32

thanks for all the kind comments, especially beesimon, the voice of reason Smile

i useless at remembering names but the poster who said about gym swim being pricey, we can get in free through our doctors referal, nd both dcs are free anyway, just waiting for follow up apps. i wont go into it all but im on the weighloss section alot atm.

how stupid is it that neither of us ever thought of putting mums address!! we have it for the bank etc.

the bnb is fairly nice, the lady in charge is a gem and has allowed us use of the kitchen and a box and our mini fridge we had as teens on the side so we can have half decent meals. the kids have a box of toys each and there own peppa and buzz blankets on the bed so its more homey now. i just miss quiet evenings, we can use the lounge but the people we share it with are um, not on our page parenting wise and tbh after a long day i dont want there dc climbing over me swearing being loud and watching blardy kids tv until 10. we have freeveiw in our room and shes given me her broadband key so we can use our laptop, things are a bit more 'normal' than they began, the kids are very happy. and we plan to walk lots, they sleep better and we feel better! Smile

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jenga079 · 20/03/2011 18:34

Things are looking up. Good. Keep smiling. Keep talking. Keep walking. Good luck Smile

Ninkynonksmummy · 21/03/2011 21:30

Any news?

JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns · 22/03/2011 16:53

nothing new to report ninky, things are well, relatively normal, hes being extra nice which tbh is getting a little irritating, eg everytime i finish a drink hes refilling them, im spending half my time on the loo lol

spent 2hrs at another park/woods again, walking talking and hes saying little daft things which are bothering him (like the car being dirty??? thats whats going on in his head, really!) so were getting there slowly, i didnt expect him suddenly to offload and things to be perfect but things are looking up which im pleased about.

still no news from the council despite the lady dealing with us promising a call yesterday, things would probably happen in half the time if she stopped having long weekends, sorry just a bit grumpy about it.

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