To be baffled by stalkerish behaviour

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Three weeks ago I was signed off work and will be off for some time.I am due to go in hospital next week for procedures but in the mean time I am very weak tired and probably have reactive depression.

Anyway I had arranged to visit a friend today, she herself has a chronic condition and has days and days of being unwell.

When I woke up today I felt like crap, extremely nauseous drained of energy and generally exhausted.(all symptoms of my illness). I decided to see what I felt like by lunch time hoping I would feel better but if anything I felt worse, did not trust myself to drive safely so texted my friend to say I was feeling particulary unwell today so would not be visiting as I needed to go back to bed.
I appologised for the late text but explained I had hoped to be feeling better so had waited before texting and arranged to visit on Monday if I was well enough.

She text back OK never mind.

I then settled on the sofa with a duvet . lappy , trashy TV and my doggies.

I have just had another text from her (I will quote it word for word)

Why have you told me you are sick and going to bed. I have just driven passsed your house three times and seen you so you are obviously not in bed. If you didn't want to see me you only had to say so you didnt have to use sickness as an excuse. I am really ill and you using illness as an excuse is not nice.Do not bother about seeing me on Monday after all I may not be well enough myself .

WTF is that about?? Am I missing something.
I am a bit that she drove past my house which is a road to nowhere unless you live in this street.
Am I overreacting maybe because I am feeling so low or is my friend the twat I think she has turned into.

I can't think of a rational explanation for checking on friends. If you say you are ill, you are ill and that's all there is to it. I wouldn't accept this whatsoever from her.

However, perhaps there is something going on for her which is making her behave in a bizarre way, she could even be a bit paranoid or having mental health issues at this moment, which is making her think it's perfectly fine to do these things. If you have been friends for a long time, I would offer her the chance to explain (and you can see how she feels in herself).

But if a friend cancels, even if you think their reason is bogus, you don't drive past, check, and then accuse them. It's really odd.

I also didn't say normal or acceptable - I just think the OP's behaviour was partly to blame for it.

LeQueen what you said at 10:08:07 sounds SO familiar to me. My stalkerish friend was like this. I refused to play her game so got abusive messages, abusive e-mails, etc. Got to the point where we applied for a restraining order.

She started off as lovely, kind, sympathetic but slightly possessive too.

OP- run. Be thankful for your escape.

Er....your text back to her was far more polite and conciliatory than it needed to be. Whatever you do DO NOT allow her to wallow or strop, and make you grovel further, becuse frankly she sounds like more of a loony liability than a friend. She may be ill, and have ishoos (well, clearly she does) but it doesn't give her the right to behave that way. Frankly I amazed you are still prepared to see her after that! I'd be nailing up my front door and buying a CCTV.

Has she replied?

ummm FellatioNelson I have not text back

My post of 19:31 last night was a copy of the first text I sent to show Luciousliz exactly what my initial text said explaining why I could not make the visit as Luciousliz had said in one of her posts that I was being rude by not actually calling. I was asking Luciousliz and others IF that text was considered rude considering we had always text each other re arrangements etc.

I have not rung her texted her or contacted her in any way since her reply (in my OP).
To be fair I cannot be arsed to play silly games.I am just baffled to her behaviour.

In answer to other posts (sorry for not doing individual names here)
Yes she is ill but not mentally ill. She has a chronic rheumatoid condition (cant remember what its called)which sometimes leaves her inactive for periods of time. She is actually quite mobile (well obviously she driving at this time.

Oh I see. Sorry - didn't pay proper attention. [dunce emoticon]