to think that going to the toilet should always be a private thing

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even within a couple??? Or I should say SPECIALLY within a couple? I'm not prudish or anything but I feel that using the toilet in front of your DH (or DW as the case may be) is a passion killer. Or do you think it brings people closer?

Actually, I have the policy of ensuring the door is closed. But, that is because if the door is open then anyone looking in from the house across the road (which is slightly higher than ours, and because DS always leaves his bedroom door and windows blinds open) can see me sat on the loo.

I wouldn't say that was a pretty sight

I agree with you OP. Sadly DS (who is potty training) will think YABVU.

"Mummy where you going?"
"To the toilet, sweetpea"
"Can you feel the wee coming out, mummy?"
"Yes dear."
"Mummy are you doing a wee or a poo? Can I have a look now? Mummy you did a WEE!!! Well done you can have a sticker!!"

All this at very loud volume. Speak up DS I don't think the neighbours 3 doors down heard you

Me and DH dont poo in front of one another, but do wee. And both of us (him a tad more reluctantly, lol) will take DS in the bathroom with us while we poo. I never used to fart in front of him (not really intentionally holding it in, just not farting except when using the toilet) but when pregnant it wasnt an option and I dont see the big deal anymore!
He was also there for DSs birth. He was fine with the birth bit, but a bit queasy at the episiotomy...

Wees are OK, but we both close the door for a poo.

However, DCs can be in the room whatever I'm doing.

DP locks the bathroom door when DS1 is around, as he's not his son - doesn't want him to see him naked either.

(I will watch with interest to see if he's more relaxed with DS2 as he grows, or if he's just naturally prudish.)

My parents were always fine with nakedness and wees & poos, their way of making sure me and my brother didn't have any hang-ups. Although I'll admit it was weird when I visited my dad at the age of 26, couldn't find him anywhere, until he said "I'm in the bathroom, come on in" and there he was in the bath with his willy floating around. Nothing I hadn't seen before, just not for about 10 years!

Oh, and DP thinks the Fart Game is hilarious, and will happily try to fart on DS1's head.

we poo and wee and shower and are naked and fart in front of each other. I could only poo in front of him/my mum/children though... maybe my closest friend in fact probably have haha.

it doesn't really bother me.

DH is also very squeamish about me (ahem) cleaning up period blood, so kindly requests that I let him know not to come in. Wuss!

weeing in public is ok. Defecating, however, is SOOO not.

I wish someone would explain this to my dd1 (9) who takes real pleasure from publicly pooing. It's only a few steps away from coprophilia FFS.

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That sounds like my 5 year old, except she usually tries this conversation while we are in a public loo!

bleughh! no way we do not wee or poo in front of each other.
DCs don't anymore either and even when they were toddlers they did not come in to the loo with me except public ones.

I can't get my head around why you'd want to

Haha, just remember NYE (house party) when me, my aunty, cousin (15) and dad were all in the bathroom taking it in turns to wee!

So it clearly comes from the family!

Wee, poo, fart the lot. Strangely, the only thing I won't do is trim the ole' lady garden in front of him...

Im happy to wee in front of dh, the dc and close friends, not poo though!

A pp made me giggle about the OW maintaining an air of mystery by not pooing. These damn OW luring our dhs into bed with a promise of a locked bathroom door and some glade

He's seen me give birth, I've seen him with campilobacter, there's no mystery left.

That said, we don't actively seek to urinate/defecate in front of each other, we do close the bathroom door when on the loo and I think it's really bad manners to use the toilet when someone is in the bath.

"we don't actively seek to urinate/defecate in front of each other,"

Same here.

But no one tends to lock the door so if anyone needs the toilet whilst someone is in the shower for example, then they go!

Husband has a habit of going to the toilet almost as soon as he gets home.

When the children were young they used to rush in to see him & sit on his knee telling him about their day.

Now that they´re too big for that, the cat sits on his knee instead.

She never has much of any interest to tell him though.

I have seen practically everyone I know do wees in front of me. It isnt a big deal to me.

I've never been bothered about weeing in front of DH. He was a bit more prudish to start but years of having only one bathroom soon meant he saw the light.

Poos we're a bit more private about, but still don't lock the door.

In fact I can't remember the last time I locked our bathroom door.

Frankly if you are willing to have sex with someone you shouldn't be too horrified by the fact they produce bolidy fluids.

Loo time is my time. No one gets a look in.

I would deliberately go and talk to DH while he was on the loo, or me him - but we don't lock the door.

So, so wrong. The bathroom is private, it has a lock, we use it. DH and I even apologise to each other if we accidently walk into the bathroom when the other is in there sorting towels.