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Original poster

...to be furious with DH for PROMISING he'd be home at 6.15...

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Schulte · 16/03/2011 18:07

AIBU to be furious with DH for PROMISING he'd be home at 6.15 to take over so I can go out for a swim, and then calling at 5.45 to say he couldn't be arsed to get on the early train and he won't be home until 6.45? What use is that - that's only a little bit earlier than he usually comes home anyway

Please tell me if I am overreacting... but I have felt recently that he simply can't be bothered to help any more. He even had the cheek to complain about there not being enough food in the house, when I am the one who does absolutely everything.

[Wants to cry]

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Flisspaps · 16/03/2011 18:09

YANBU, if he had a reason for missing the train then that would be one thing, not being arsed is another.

I think you need to have a serious chat with the lazy git man.

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Schulte · 16/03/2011 18:10

I have tried...

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Schulte · 16/03/2011 18:11

Am currently letting the girls run wild and make as much mess as possible, which he will have to clear up. [evil wife]

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squeakytoy · 16/03/2011 18:12

If you do everything, then you didnt do enough shoping Wink

I assume he has been at work all day though?

AgentZigzag · 16/03/2011 18:14

Sounds like you need a break, so YANBU at all.

Cheeky twat complaining about not having any food in the house.

I'm presuming he actually meant you didn't have what he wanted to graze on rather than the cupboards were bare?

I hope you told him were to go?

Ie, down t'shop Grin

toeragsnotriches · 16/03/2011 18:14

YANBU. To not be bothered to give you a swim is wrong. What is there to be arsed about catching the early train?

Why not have a cry? If you save it up for 15 mins or so you'll still look upset when he gets back Wink .

Flisspaps · 16/03/2011 18:14

Good. Who cares if he has been at work all day, he said he would be home for a certain time in order for you do to something, and he can't be bothered to see it through.

Draw him a map to the nearest takeaway/supermarket next time he moans about not enough food in.

Remember to put Wine on the list.

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Schulte · 16/03/2011 18:16

Well there wasn't any cereal left. So I told him to have toast. The girls had had their usual breakfast so it's not like I was neglecting then. FFS. There was parma ham in the fridge and yoghurt and lots of cheese, but the man wanted shreddies.

And Squeaky - I work too and on days when they don't go to nursery I actually have to squeeze my work in while looking after them at the same time. It's hell.

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AgentZigzag · 16/03/2011 18:17

When I'm feeling taking for granted I always want to just stop doing stuff so he can see how much I do.

But I'm far too anal about tidying up and can't stand the mess so I've never tested to see if he'd notice Grin

He probably wouldn't tbh.

toeragsnotriches · 16/03/2011 18:21

You are not a fucking restaurant. My DH would probably snog me for joy if there were that much yummy food in our fridge.

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Schulte · 16/03/2011 18:22

The problem is that MIL pretty much is a restaurant - she's always got such amazing food on offer, and so much of it, that I just can't keep up with what DH is used to.

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Schulte · 16/03/2011 18:23

Nor do I want to, for that matter.

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ledkr · 16/03/2011 18:30

is his name raymond?

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Schulte · 16/03/2011 18:31

No but similar Grin

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toeragsnotriches · 16/03/2011 18:33

I will never be able to compete with my MIL. She has 3 freezers. For only herself and PIL. There's one tiny one for us 4.

How long have you been together? He'll need to be moving on from mummy and if he wants Shreddies he can start buying them for himself.

Report back!

detachandtrustyourself · 16/03/2011 18:34

I tried leaving stuff so my exh would notice what I did. He just moaned about the mess!

Your H obviously been spoiled by his mum food wise. Seems to expect you to do the same.

compo · 16/03/2011 18:34

Well if you've been at home all day and he's been at work I don't think it's fair to let him come home to the house in a tip while you go straight out swimming
has he got anything for dinner after he puts kids to bed?

compo · 16/03/2011 18:35

I don't get the comments that he should do the food shopping himself
perhaps he could be part time and you full time if you don't want to buy breakfast cereal

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Schulte · 16/03/2011 18:36

Ages. Have known him for nearly 20 years. He's not all that bad and cooks on most week nights. But sometimes he makes my blood boil. Like tonight.

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Oblomov · 16/03/2011 18:36

This is just not on. The can't being bothered bit, is just NOT o.k.
Your fridge sounds like ours. I LOVE a full fridge. brie, trifle,ham, pate, grapes, pasties, snacky bits. I am at my happiest wehn you can't get a cigarette papaer between the joint of lamb, and the ham slices Wink

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Schulte · 16/03/2011 18:38

Let's not have a silly SAHM/Part time working/Full time working discussion shall we? Suffice to say he gets way more time off - i.e. off work, off children - than I do.

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compo · 16/03/2011 18:38

Yes but if you want cereal ham and olives aren't much good!

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Schulte · 16/03/2011 18:39

There's always pate in my fridge. That is, unless I have scoffed it all!

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compo · 16/03/2011 18:39

Lol okay then op I think yabu but I'm sensing this is a thread where we all have to nod and agree that your dh is wrong Grin

TheCrackFox · 16/03/2011 18:40

Nobody actually died from not having their preferred choice of breakfast.

He sounds like a spoilt toddler.