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to ignore a fussy eater @ let him go hungry

53 replies

typicalbloke · 16/03/2011 16:17

so on friday, with DW away for weekend, I got home from work to find that the kids had, naturally invited their mates round.

I conetemplated rustling up a quick meal for six teenagers and me completely from scratch, and after a brief inspection of the ingredients fridge I reached for the phone and ordered chinese

  • prawn crackers
  • prawn toast
  • half a crispy duck and pancakes
  • chicken chow mein
  • crispy beef
  • sweet and sour chicken
  • spare ribs
  • beef and mushroom
  • prawn something (I forget)
  • vegetable chow mein
  • egg fried rice
  • special fried rice
  • boiled rice
  • fortune cookies

one boy - 14 - announced he didn't like any of it and ate..... a spoonful of boiled rice on a pancake. I kid you not.

I pretended not to notice but when my DW got home on Sunday she said 'yes he's very fussy I always cook for him specially'

WIBU to just let him go hungry?

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Mutt · 16/03/2011 16:21

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jalopy · 16/03/2011 16:21

Probably would have shown him where the toaster was.

Callisto · 16/03/2011 16:22

I would have let him go hungry too. Fussy eaters piss me right off.

minibmw2010 · 16/03/2011 16:22

No YADNBU, you ordered a huge amount of take-away (at your own expense I assume), its his choice that he didn't like any of it and wasn't willing to eat any of it. If your DW is silly enough to cook especially for him then more fool her.

faeriefruitcake · 16/03/2011 16:23

He can always eat at his own house, I don't do fussy

FabbyChic · 16/03/2011 16:24

I;d have got chips so he could have eaten those.

Original poster
typicalbloke · 16/03/2011 16:24

it sounds like an enourmous amount... but you should see how much the OTHER 14 yr old boys ate!

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Bloodymary · 16/03/2011 16:25

I might have offered him pasta and pesto (as I have yet to find a child/teen who does not like it).
If he did not like that - well tough!

Callisto · 16/03/2011 16:27

Why should you have to cook for one persone if you have got a takeway so that you don't have to cook? That is ridiculous. You may as well cook pasta pesto for everyone.

jaffacake79 · 16/03/2011 16:27

Sounds like you were very generous in getting all of that in for them!
Don't worry about it. If he didn't want to eat it then he could have eaten at his own house. I cannot abide fussy eaters. Silly boy.

crunchbag · 16/03/2011 16:29

I would have told him to go out and fetch his own dinner. Or showed him where the bread was :o

Melly19MummyToBe · 16/03/2011 16:30

My DP is VERY fussy. He won't try things he says he doesn't like even though he's never eaten them! He won't eat chinese food, pizza, he is so picky. He loves his roast dinners, complete with meat, mash/roasties, cauliflower and carrots and occasionally yorkshires. Thats literally all he eats in the way of veg. To be honest I think a list of what he does eat would be a lot quicker than listing everything that he doesn't eat. Its very frustrating trying to think up meals that we both will eat. Oh and I used to have to blend tins of tomatoes with onion and mushrooms in before I put them with the mince for spag bol. Because he didn't like the lumpy bits. I just refuse now and he picks everything out.

Sorry just had to rant about fussy eaters AngryBlush god I need a Wine can't wait till this baby comes :o

Bloodymary · 16/03/2011 16:32

Callisto yes I get your point, I think I am just so used to knocking up pasta and pesto for the odd awkward one.
Plus, in the OPs situation I would much prefer chinese!!!

Desperateforthinnerthighs · 16/03/2011 16:34

My DS would have gone hungry then - there's nothing on that list he would eat.....I kid you not!!

He is getting better but he is a really fussy kid and he would rather go hungry than eat something he doesnt want...very frustrating but there you go. Apart from that he's a great little boy and as long as he grows out of it before adulthood I dont lose any sleep over it!

Desperateforthinnerthighs · 16/03/2011 16:34

actually - he likes prawn crackers! He isnt a silly boy tho!

slug · 16/03/2011 16:39

YA so NBU. DD's best friend is a fussy eater, so much so it's a running joke. I took the two of them out on DD's birthday and DD wanted to go to a Lebanese restaurant for lunch (inbetween the park and a museum). I thought why not? She likes that sort of food, it's her birthday and what child does not like hummous?

Best friend sat with a cat's bum mouth throughout the whole thing. Her mantra is "I don't like that". "have you tried it before?" I asked. "No, I don't like that" In the end I got her to, very reluctantly, try and decide she quite liked the bread (and that was a bit of a fight) and maybe haloumi was quite nice if a bit salty. DD meanwhile happily scoffed half the menu while gently taking the piss.

Save me from fussy eaters they are such a pain and so difficult to entertain.

Desperateforthinnerthighs · 16/03/2011 16:41

I would prob have the same opinion if my kid wasnt fussy - seriously guys - try having one, it aint as easy as it sounds.

Oooh I wouldnt put up with that - Exactly what I would have said in the days before kids........

I find a little Wine helps

Vallhala · 16/03/2011 16:54

I'd like to think that my own 14 yo would eat some of what is on offer out of courtesy and thanked her host politely for his kindness. In fact, I know bloody well that this is what she'd do.

And in the host's shoes I'd damn well let the fussy so and so go without, there is no way I'd offer an alternative. For a vegetarian/vegan/nut allergic etc yes, for a fussy git, no!

Desperateforthinnerthighs · 16/03/2011 16:57

Well, I am hoping by 14 DS will be a bit more adventourous???? He is only 8 at the moment so there's still time Hmm

ouryve · 16/03/2011 16:57

I have 2 fussy eaters, but they'd both have found something there, even if it wasn't much.

Neither would touch pasta with pesto, mind!

NettoSuperstar · 16/03/2011 16:57

I'd have told him to help himself to bread/fruit but that's it.
No way I'd have cooked separately for a teen.
A two year old maybe.

Finger · 16/03/2011 16:59

I'd have offered him a clip round the ear

NettoSuperstar · 16/03/2011 17:02

Aye, and a few of those too FingerGrin

Desperateforthinnerthighs · 16/03/2011 17:03

I reckon a chip round the ear would go down better Grin

Bloodymary · 16/03/2011 17:03

ouryve thats a real shame, its always (in my opinion) such a good standby.
And cheap Smile