to expect the charity shop staff to say "thank you" when I donate something?

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I went into a local charity shop today to give them an unopened pair of very trendy curtains. My daughter, who has special needs, wanted to hand them to the staff member, who was busy chatting to another guy (I got the impression that they were mates by the way they were talking) and as she handed them over, I said we'd like to donate these. He took them from my daughter, and carried on chatting with his mate! Not even a thank you!

Now I don't expect a fanfare, that's not why we donated them. And it was only one item, not a big bag of stuff (I couldn't carry more today) but it was obviously something brand new!

I have given items to charity shops many times in the past, and the staff have always been lovely.

I've got a big bag of other stuff for a charity shop, I will be donating to a different one...

I was told off by the lady at the counter for bringing the buggy in last week because "the grit from the wheels is a pain to clean up." Fair enough, it is a bit of a pain, but what else do they expect me to do with the buggy and DD while browsing? I can't imagine being told that by a high street shop, they soon wouldn't have any customers if that was their service standard. It has put me off going in there again, which is a shame as I love charity shop bargains, I got a lovely pumpkin patch dress there for 25p.

I have had people be very rude to me in charity shops and I think there is no excuse for it

Surely everyone should be capable of a base line of courtesy towards others? I don't always love the people I meet but I am civil and I expect others to be civil to me.

Once I bought ds2 a winter coat for a pound - I was over the moon to find it as we desperately needed one and it was lovely, cream corduroy with an aeroplane on it

the woman who sold it to me gave me a really nasty, accusing sneer and said "My goodness you've found a bargain there haven't you? A pound for that lovely new coat, you saw us coming didn't you?"

I replied "Yes, it's very good isn't it? If I had been working here I would have priced it higher - but you didn't, so lucky me!"

I was fuming tbh

Blimey Heidi, that dress would have been £1 or more in my local shop

Bet if you'd left the buggy outside they'd be moaning about that too. Some people are only happy when they have something to be unhappy about.

I love charity shops too but I often find the staff at best eccentric. They seem to make you feel they're doing you a massive favour by simply allowing you in the shop, and once they've displayed the stock it is often revered as though they have woven each garment themselves (with prices to match).

There are good and bad ones, of course, and I do like shopping in them. But they are strange places.

I just dropped off a couple of bags and got a very pleasant thank-you.