to think some of us need to suck it up a bit?

[Maylee]

We're grown women, right? We're mothers raising children. Why, then have some recent posts caused me to despair about the seeming lack of broad shoulders, inner strength, maturity shown by some women?

Examples include:

"my wife was in tears at unprofessional mothercare staff"

"my MiL said boo"

"my MiL folded my clothes"

Will probably get a flaming for this, but just wondering why some women seem so feeble.

agreed - not sure it is because they are feeble rather that they need to get out more and get a bit of perspective maybe?

I so totally agree with you. It just makes me think ffs and roll my eyes when I read some of the threads on here. The sense of entitlement shown by some people amazes me too.

Oh yes, entitlement.........

Am relieved I'm not alone in thinking this. Was expecting to be bombazrded with

I was guilty of this yesterday, and duly sucked it up on the advice of MNers. Sometimes you need a slap (obviously not a real one, that's abusive).

We need a [Hoover] emoticon.

Or a emoticon.

YANBU.

Yes.....love the idea of a [hoover] emoticon!

I agree but because of the poor poor souls on here was afraid to upset them.

Some of them must surely be tongue-in-cheek though? surely?

Sometimes I could quite cheerfully go postal at the number of sniffs emitted by Dh through the night [note to dh - no, you do not have a different 'nasal system' to everyone else in the known universe that doesn't shift mucus effectively. Blow your frickin nose!]

And other times I can calmly tolerate everything and everyone and not bat an eyelid.

So yes, perspective is needed at times but it depends whether it's deadly serious or just an opportunity to vent.

(but yes the mothercare one is a tad ott)

I always thought that those posts were a little "tongue in cheek" & not to be taken seriously?

I agree, but I think it is a lack of perspective. Both myself and OH work in jobs where we work with people with serious stressful problems. We always say that it helps us to realise that small issues we have in our lives may make us grumpy e.g. rude shop assistant, but are not problems or things to be mulled over.

I think some people actually have a relatively easy life and forget that small everyday issues are just that.

Lots of people on here do seem to sweat the small stuff.

I don't know where the get the time and the energy to be upset about a lot of the stuff they are.

I thought it was because I was a hard bitch though.

no backbone some people

We need a rolly eyes smiley. Yesterday I rolled my eyes so much they nearly fell out of my head

YANBU btw!

YANBU - my mother was never like this and I hope my daughters won't be either

I don't know, sometimes in life the little things can feel like great big things because of your current circumstances. My mum never sees the little stuff and spends all her time being upset over all the evils in the world, the earthquake in Japan and the death of a man who's nan lived next door to us 10 years ago being the most recent (there really is no other connection, she spoke to this guy maybe 3 or 4 times ever but she's been in tears).

YABU, someitmes life makes you feel shit so you suck it up.. but then you use an internet forum to make you feel sane again.

Complaining to your friend for hours about MIL touching your pants wouldn't be on.. so you tell mumsnet. We as readers have the opertunity to read or not read we aren't a captive audience.

I agree OP and a sense of humour wouldn't go amiss for some also. I read so many threads lately about an off the cuff comment that's 'really upset' or 'devastated' someone and I think jeez why take things so seriously.

yanbu - [get a fucking grip] emoticon

I suppose it can seem hard-faced to just say 'suck it up' because many posts are tongue in cheek or a way of venting things you wouldn't vent in RL.

But some are really quite pathetic (some are really very funny also ) and serious in their patheticness.

I know I don't have to read the posts (that's not my issue), the issue is that some women genuinely do seem to have a lack of backbone and that can (sometimes) give all us women a bad name!

Exactly Maylee, I wouldn't phone a friend or mention to anyone in real life just what a turd my MIL is because there's a good chance they'll meet her at some point so I vent on here, is that not the purpose of mumsnet to stop you potentially making a prat of yourself in real life or preserve relationships ?

Hmmm I see your point, but sometimes with the small stuff it's a case of it being the final straw in a long list of small things. It's quite common for people to seemingly cope really well with the bigger issues but then to burst into inconsolable tears when they burn the dinner or something.

Plus, I think there's a self-feeding element to AIBU - the more people see threads about petty stuff, the more likely they are to post similarly.

Having said all that? I'm off to check out the Mothercare thread!