AIBU in thinking this is the worst possible time to

[onlion]

Give up a perfectly good job just because you are unhappy in it?

Depends how unhappy.

Um, well, is there another job to go to? How unhappy are you/is he?

well, if you are unhappy then it isn't a perfectly good job, is it? You only get one life.

It's impossible to rule on whether or not YABU without more information. It depends entirely on the individual circumstances and what the consequences of giving up that particular job would be.

Yes, unless I can apply for the new vacancy? If its perfectly good why are you unhappy?

Miserable and no job to go to for now.

Risky indeed.

Bugger.

Presumably it's got pretty bad for you to consider giving it up (if it's your job you're talking about).

Thing is about having a crap time of it at work is that it always seems to come home with you.

If that's the case there's no escaping it and you're better off going somewhere else.

But like the other posters say, find another job first if that's possible.

Aye. I dumped my ex for doing this (amongst other things) because I thought it showed a complete lack of responsibility and commitment, and was actually disrespectful to the people who he was just expecting to support him (me and his parents) while he tried to find another job.

I take satisfaction now watching him moan about not being able to find a job and how hard life is on benefits. Well, duh...

Obviously there are levels of unhappiness, and just being a bit glum and not enjoying the work you do is different to being completely depressed and having your whole life affected by issues around work. My ex was at the immature level of believing that he had a right to a job he loved, rather than understanding that sometimes you have to suck it up and do something a bit boring or rubbish to pay the bills.

How bad is it?

Is it the crap job? Bullying? Or you'd just rather be somewhere else?

What are the worst case ramifications of giving it up?

If you could survive without it, and you are desperately miserable, then it would not be the worst idea in the world IMO. It isn't against the law to be between jobs for a while.

And as for dumping your partner because he quit his job - the situation would have to be pretty extreme (not enough money for food for the dc) for me to think that reasonable, personally.

Sorry, perfectly good as in ok pay and actually employed. Miserable as in toxic environment - nasty people, politics, formal complaints flying (not around me), too much work outside hours, poor life/work balance.

Sympathise with you, as I hate my job too, but to be honest this isn't a good time to be leaving a job unless you're sure you have something else lined up.

Giving up such a toxic environment? Unless there are very extreme reasons to stay, it's always a good time to do that :)

I have become a shadow of my formal self in this job (if putting on weight also applies)

I know someone who had a nervous breakdown because his job was so awful.

Im close to it crackfox

Dp had a similar problem last year. He was miserable & depressed, to the point he rang to tell me one night whilst at work that he was going to kill himself.

Needless to say I told him to quit. Health is more important in the long run.

We managed, cut back on a lot of things and now he is working as self employed. He was off work for 5 months first though.

Good luck to you

My advise would be to see a doctor and get yourself signed off with stress. Give yourself a couple of weeks of head space. Try not to be to hard on yourself, some employers really are taking advantage of the recession to treat their employees appallingly.

Like Pepsi says, if it's that bad it's probably time to give it up regardless of the other consequences.

I can understand because I had similar feelings in one job I had.

I used to fantasise about getting run over so I wouldn't have to go in but it wouldn't be my fault

I'd run out of options, I couldn't go in because it was so bad, but I couldn't give it up because it was the first job I'd had in a while and I thought people would think badly of me.

It was awful being trapped in that bubble.

Is it possible to say something at your workplace, if you're thinking of packing it in anyway you've got nothing to lose?

Agree going to the doctors is the first port of call, it'll at least give you a bit of breathing space to decide your next move.

I have been utterly miserable in a job and it was amazing how uplifting thinking, planning and looking for a new job was. Focusing on the next step was amazingly helpful and I hated my job so much I was at the weeping-on-a-Sunday-evening stage! Start planning now and you will feel better!

littlepigshavebigears It was the straw that broke the camels back, not the sole reason. I could list the other stuff, but it's not pertinent to this conversation. Suffice to say that his lack of responsibility and respect showed in many other ways.

I do think it's mad to put yourself into a bad situation to get away from a bad situation, so I think I'd only advise leaving a job if it isn't going to make your situation worse, so to protect your mental and physical health, if you have another job to go to, or if you are able to manage between jobs financially.

A question

Do you still get tax credits if you have quit a job? We dont get them now and would without my income but im not sure if the resigning would hurt.

olessaty it might take a year or so until i find a new job

I wish you luck no matter which path you tread onlion. I'm biased, so my response was probably not very supportive, and I apologise if it seemed abrupt. Speaking as a mum on benefits finding it very difficult to get into employment, I would say to protect your employment as much as you possibly can, without sacrificing your well-being. Perhaps knowing that you are taking steps to find another job would make the environment more bearable for a while? I am not saying how you feel isn't important, I'd just worry that you might not feel better just leaving the job. Sometimes when we can't change our circumstances, we need to change how we think about them. I hope you find happiness in the future.