to be upset at models in shorts at my dhs work meeting when 30 weeks pg

[designergirl]

I am 30 weeks pregnant.Dh recently went to a meeting at his work. There were two "models" being photographed outside the building with the managers. The meeting was for about 3o engineers, all male. They were the only two women there in their work vests, T shirt and very short shorts.
They had a presentation in the meeting inside and then a quiz on the content of the presentation. Anyone who got an answer right received a prize from the women, and got to have their photo taken with them after the meeting.
As I'm 30 wks pregnant and very hormonal this upset me a lot. My dh gave me lots of reassurance and said he didn't like them, didn't take part, didn't look at them etc. but I feel realy angry at his company for such sexism. Most of the engineers are married, and I know one of them has a sick wife so I don't think she'll be that impressed either.
Am I overreacting about being upset about it?It happened a few weeks ago and I've calmed down a bit now but at the time I was devastated!

Devastated, I guess, because I don't feel I can compete with slim, attractive models in shorts when I am 30 weeks pregnant and my dh doesn't go anywhere to see this type of woman normally

Not long to go before you get a cuddle with your baby designergirl

Do you know what flavour you're getting?

Decided on any names?

YABU, yes the company sound vile, crass and old fashioned, but to be devestated? at your DH seeing some ladies in shorts? id say you need to get a grip, poor guy

designergirl, you don't need to 'compete'. Trust your DH :)

Turdass, thats true and he isnt that type, he was quite disgusted by it I think. His friend asked him "Which one do you like?" and he said "I don't like either of them,I've got a beautiful wife at home"

Sounds very tacky but sex sells and all that.I mean guys in the City still 'entertain' their clients in strip clubs-not much difference IMO.
Also OP right now you're probably feeling very pregnant so of course it's natural to feel of these girls!
Bless your OH for telling you that he didn't look though

designergirl, in a few months you'll be back into normal sized clothes and enjoying summer in all your finery, getting admiring glances as you go no doubt.

And this 46 year old will pass you in the street and think... huh... not fair, I used to be young and get admiring glances once!

Your turn will come again, in the meantime put it to the back of your mind and look forward to enjoying your new babe, when he/she gets here, with the support of your caring husband.

DH was at the Geneva car show last week. bleargh

Bloody disgraceful that almost ALL the major car manufacturers still have women prancing around the cars.

I used to (pre dc's) do promotions work and god it was boring. I really wouldn't worry about a girl in hotpants lusting after men in suits TBH as it doesn't happen. often

Agentzigzag, We are having our fourth girl!!!

Having your DHs baby can compete with a slim model any day of the week.

Your bods doing some amazing things at the min, you wait til you see the look on his face when he sees them for the first time

My DH is an actor and when I was heavily pregnant he had to film a scene where he snogged a girl on a pool table and got her boobs out.

It could be worse.

I don't think being pregnant has any bearing on the sexism. I'd be absolutely fucking apoplectic if something like this was done at my husband's work. It is completely and utterly inappropriate at any time, in any work place.

Ooh, Jane. That stings

x-posts, apologies teaching you to suck eggs

My last post still stands though.

Ahem : its not exactly private dancing though is it FFS.

Royal Bling, I wasnt worried abt the girls in hotpants lusting after my dh, I was more worried abt him lusting after THEM!

I understand that OP is hormonal - thats why she is asking if she is being unreasonable, no?

And she is, so she needs to calm down and get a grip again.

Hurray for the nice men of this world! Not all men are slavering perves!Well done your husband!

Similarly, I would feel really uncomfortable if I got a prize of a photo to be taken with two Peter Andre types in shorts/bare chests etc. I think that kind of objectification is demeaning and I would feel shallow and pervey if I had to take part in something like that.

I used to lol about on skodas ferraris

Royal-no it's much more tacky than private dancing

ha ha yeah your're probably right

tackorama central

Still it paid the bills

OP I really wouldn't worry

Jane - thats awful. Were you upset?

When I worked for one of the main TV channels, one of their cable sub channels advertised on our internal staff intranet for women to take part in a wet t-shirt contest. I (and many other female employees) complained and it was taken down, not without a bit of "bloody feminists" moaning from that team.

I think anything like that is in poor taste and pathetically old school.

YANBU to think it was a lame marketing stunt.

But... I think YABU to be devastated for 2 weeks and to let it affect you so much. Your DP said all the right things and sounds like a nice guy. There will be plenty of times in this life where he might be near some attractive ladies.

I am 28 weeks P so I understand that you are missing your pre-pregs body and probably feeling a bit fed up (and hormonal!) I have been very up and down myself and I know it's not always easy.

But - embrace your bump! I have had so many lovely comments from people about how I look and how they love the curve of my bump. My bigger boobs fill out dresses in a way I never could before. Have you bought yourself some nice clothes that show you off? Personally I think the worst thing I could have done was to go for smocks and potato sack type dresses, I don't think they are very flattering for most people.

My DH used to work in the car audio industry and believe me that is one of the worst when it comes to this sort of thing. He used to have a stand at Max Power exhibition every year and that is basically wall to wall dancers/glamour models etc. He actually became good friends with a couple of dancers and after being a bit I met them too and they were lovely girls. If a male model came into your work would you immediately think about jumping his bones? No because you love your husband and this is not different. I hope you didn't overreact too much as your DH might be feeling rubbish about the fact you were so quick to assume he would fancy someone else.

I understand why it would bother you a bit but you really should trust your DH more. He loves you and is having a baby with you! That means far more than teeny tiny shorts .I understand you are pregnant and hormonal though so maybe you are getting more upset than you would have done? Are you feeling bad about the changes in your body too?