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To want to take 6month DD to Baby Ballet?

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MillieMoosMummy · 09/03/2011 20:13

My DD is actually 5 months but baby ballet starts at 6 months (anyone have any experience of this??)

My MIL basically told me I shouldn't, in front of all of DH's family. She thinks DD 'Does enough already!'

I felt like she was implying that DD isn't having a good time, or that I'm not thinking of her, but I swear she likes her actvities.

At swimming lessons she smiles and splashes, at Gymboree she actually laughs and giggles.

We also do Catapillar music and go to rhyme time at the library.

In four weeks we are starting 'Gymbabes' at Tumbletots.

I tried P & T groups but found them really cliquey.

I'm quite upset about MIL saying this and really enjoy DD's activities.

AIBU? Is she right?

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MillieMoosMummy · 09/03/2011 22:41

And Annh - I'm still on full pay from work so I pay for her actvities myself, and perhaps I won't buy myself a top / get my nails done / buy as many kindle books / DVD's. It's budgeting. I suppose that's why I don't see that it's that much money.

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MillieMoosMummy · 09/03/2011 22:43

Piglet - (sigh!) yes, she is my first.

I'm starting to feel very sorry for second children. Do they ever see the light of day??

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MilkNoSugarPlease · 09/03/2011 22:43

Bloody hell!! Why so hard on the OP??

HarrietTheSpook · 09/03/2011 22:45

Anyway OP in case you think there's a chance you're nuts, I travelled from one end of the central line to the other (end of the line) for a baby music class when dd1 was 9 wks old. woman told me I had left it a bit late (should have started at the hospital.) £75 - went to 2 classes.

pigletmania · 09/03/2011 22:46

Thought as much Millymoo Smile, Gyboree at £17 per session is very costly, there, why not go to tumble tots which is cheaper. Really if you use your imagination you can do many things for a lower cost and free.

pigletmania · 09/03/2011 22:47

Like others have said all you need is a bit of music i.e. nursery rhymes, sing along with her using actions. Lay her down with different sensory objects, mirror, toys that are unusul to touch, you dont need Gymboree for that.

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leeloo1 · 09/03/2011 22:48

I'd say YANBU, take her along to a session and see if you both enjoy it. Honestly, from some of these comments I think some people think you'll be forcing her to stand on her pointes before she's walking! Hmm

I loved taking DS to activties when he was tiny - mostly free ones as I was worried about money on Mat leave and I'm lucky to live in London where lots of free classes were on offer.

I found the best times to take him places were before he was 6/7 months - once he was (BL)weaned and had regular nap times then lots of the 'classes' didn't fit in with his meals/naps anymore, but other stay and play groups etc took their place.

I think he (and I) got a lot out of the groups and the skills/techniques/ideas that you learn from them can be exciting and empowering. I love that now he's 2.5 he's now singing and signing the songs that we first heard at a music group I started taking him to when he was 6 weeks old. :)

pigletmania · 09/03/2011 22:48

Have your tried your SureStart centre, and your local library for storeytime

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MillieMoosMummy · 09/03/2011 22:49

Pigletmania - really you should do your research.

Tumbletots isn't suitable for 6 month old babies, it also isn't cheaper.

Gymbabes - which we are doing, is the baby version if tumbletots and actually costs £1 more.

I'm not looking to do 'cheaper things'. I'm looking to do things my DD will like.

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MrsHerculePoirot · 09/03/2011 22:50

YANBU - my MIL said this a few times to me too and I did worry. In the end though I did what I wanted - my DD clearly enjoyed the different things we did, yes they were for me too as if I had to stay in the house all day every day I would have gone completely stir crazy. Everyone and every baby is different so do whatever allows you to enjoy this time the most - if that is classes go for it, if it isn't then that is fine too. Just smile and nod your head and do whatever you want to do!

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MillieMoosMummy · 09/03/2011 22:50

Pigletmania - either read the thread or stay quiet. We do rhymetime at the local library - I've said this twice. It's free.

This isn't a thread about money you know??

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StayFrosty · 09/03/2011 22:51

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MillieMoosMummy · 09/03/2011 22:52

Dandylioness - why on earth?? What's the problem with that?

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pigletmania · 09/03/2011 22:52

Your baby is 5 months already she has a fulltimetable, you asked whether YABU and imo you are. Just let her be a baby and relax she does not need to be doing an activity everyday.

FunnysInTheGarden · 09/03/2011 22:52

Sorry if this has been said but can she stand up? If not whats the point in baby ballet?

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MillieMoosMummy · 09/03/2011 22:53

Leeloo1 - it's true. They're great. We take things we do at the classes and do them at home and DH loves it! :)

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MillieMoosMummy · 09/03/2011 22:54

Dandylioness - well, the tutus. But both really?

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FunnysInTheGarden · 09/03/2011 22:54

Milly no second children never see the light of day and are dressed entirely in hand me downs if PFB was the same sex

pigletmania · 09/03/2011 22:55

No need to be rude Millie, you can make your point without resorting to that. I am Dyslexic and do find reading a problem.

niceday · 09/03/2011 22:55

Op, whenever my MIL says she disapproves of something, my whole being rushes to justify and do it :).

But if you like it and want to go, why not?
Just be honest and clear with yourself why you do it. Do you think you cannot provide enough variety and stimulation for dd at home? You can, and at a convenient time for both of you. Or don't want to be at home? That's also a good reason

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MillieMoosMummy · 09/03/2011 22:55

Pigletmania - 30 minutes a day (for some of them) is not a full timetable.

And it's not everyday.

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pigletmania · 09/03/2011 22:57

Well your money your baby its up to you at the end of the day. I dont agree a young baby needs that amout, but this is AIBU and not everyone will agree with you Smile