to get really annoyed at people commenting on my weight?

[runnyhabbit]

I am 5'7, and a size 10/12.

Whenever I mention eating healthily or getting fit (in general conversation) I get told one, or all of the following -

-to not be so silly/stupid
-you're mad
-what do you want to lose weight for
-I bet you're one of those people that can eat anything

etc

I'm 35, had 2 dc and I am concious about what the whole family eat. I know I don't need to lose weight!

BUT

would anyone think they could comment so freely if I was overweight? I doubt it.

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It's not impossible to have a 'fat day' if you are size 8.

Slim people suffer from bloating and wobbly bellies too you know. If you're used to being toned and for whatever reason you become untoned and gain half a stone all on the belly, you do feel fat!

YANBU. I get this, too. I'm 5'3" and a size 10/12. Not skinny, by any means. But if ever I dare to say I'd like to drop a few lbs it seems to be open season on insulting me.

From one girl at work, I've actually had "Fuck off, you skinny bitch!"

It would be totally unacceptable of course for me to say to her "Stop eating that cake, you fat bitch!"

But it seems to be ok for other people to comment when one is not what could be termed 'fat'.

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catchmeifyoucan I don't think it's impossible to have a "fat day" if you're a size 8, I just think calling them fat days is a bit of a misnomer, they should be called bloated days.

I do find the automatic association that people make between the desire to exercise and the desire to loose weight a bit annoying, even though I am not thin and probably never will be because I'm 5'4" with a large build and a propensity to eat a large amount of chocolare. I exercise because life is just more enjoyable when you're fit. So OP YANBU even if you are taller and slimer than me

Don't mention it if you don't want people to comment.

but i'm reading your message in retrospect..oh,i must be really daft,cats

BTW I eat a lot of chocolate not chocolare in case any of you were wondering!

It is absolutely not on to comment about people's weight, fat or thin. In a million years I would never dream of mentioning anyone's weight.

But it's laughable to say that people wouldn't comment so freely if you were overweight. Plenty of people are only to ready to shout things out in the street, make comments when you buy anything other than salad, go into River Island or the like to buy a bag or some shoes, order a meal in a restaurant, the list is endless. Don't kid yourself about that.

A few months after I had my first baby, my weight plummeted to 6st 7lbs. I was in a crowded pub when a friend of a friend shouted out "When are you going to stick on some weight you skinny bitch?" No-one else batted an eyelid

I bit my lip and just laughed and said "Piss off" but if I had said "As soon as you lose some you fat pig" I'm sure all the faces would have been

Of course people comment freely if you are overweight! They comment on anything. I don't see that it matters.I have lost weight so I like people to comment.

It was hard work losing it so I get a bit miffed if people don't say anything!

catchmeifyoucan nothing to do with body dysmorphia here thanks - I eat plenty and consider myself v lucky to have my figure. But I'm not so up myself that I cannot see its imperfections. Being a size 8 does not make you impervious to being untoned nor having a bloated tummy.

I get this too and it does irritate me. I'm tall and skinny and I'm constantly told it's 'luck'. Granted I am tall because nature made me that way but I also make a conscious effort to eat simply and well because I feel better that way and I have had work colleagues try and force junk on me.. it's like if I eat the damn doughnut but am slim then the ones they are eating aren't making them heavy?

I NEVER mention my size or food preferences but it seems it's fair game to comment when I would not dream of commenting on anyone else's size. Today in the playground I was wrapped up because it was cold and windy and a colleague remarked 'oh well if you weren't so damn skinny you'd not feel the cold so much'

I'm sure I had had said 'if you weren't so damn fat you wouldn't be complaining about being too hot all the time' I'd be disciplined!!!

Can't win...

I seem to have 'weight blindness' so if someone has been over weight and has lost loads I fail to notice until they make a really obvious comment about it. same if they've put loads on.

I'm on the thin side and if someone says" you're lucky, you're so slim" I don't know any answer you can give that doesn't dig yourself a hole or annoy the other person.. I would definitely avoid the subject and don't join in if it's brought up.

Have been called skinny bitch loads of times, I think it's meant as a compliment if coming from a usually nice person?

I have a similar problem: I'm SO beautiful it HURTS and just can't stand the attention. Grown men cry, children follow me, every bloody day the same thing... Damn it, I wish I were a mere mortal and then nobody would talk to me.

nellycats

Are you laughing at my beauty Asinide? Are you? Are you? I am soooo offended, I might start a thread!

oops, Asinine not Asidine...

To all the people saying "smug skinnies" and "you're fishing for compliments" - WTF? Do you think it's OK to comment (usually loudly and in public) on a person's body just because they're not obese? Seriously?

don't think it's ok to comment on anyone's body weight, who knows how an individual feels about themselves? but DO object to being told that it's not 'luck' that you're slim! (softpaws!)

ok, if you're born with a slight build and you choose to eat sensibly and keep it that way - good for you! totally get that!

some of us (me!) are born with a bigger, curvy build, very easy to put weight on and not easy to lose it. I do not sit around eating pies all day and try and try to exercise and lose weight...it is not easy for some people!

"I am going to go on a diet and join a gym".
"Really? But you have a perfect figure already".
"How DARE you comment on my body? People like you make me sick".

Nellycats i'm sure you are very stunning but if I met you I would not dare mention it for fear of offending you