...to leave my 14 month old unsupervised in the bath while I do some jobs?

[Ilikegreenshoes]

Ok, before you all call SS, there was no water in the bath. She'd had her bath, I'd emptied it, but she didn't want to get out and was playing quite happily with her toys.
I could hear her from where I was, there was nothing within reach that could have been dangerous, but I still felt like it was a bad mummy thing to do.
Thoughts?

I'm not condoning actual abuse at all, but I do think AIBU is not a good topic to start off in when new. It is exactly what the introduction states - asking for straight answers. Most other topics are more for support / having a moan / interests etc.

I also think it's worth remembering what someone new might see as abuse, might not be meant as that at all. E.g. if someone says "Are you mad?!", it's very often said in a jokey way, as you would with friends when you think they're being, well, mad. But in a good way. However, the only way you'll know this is if you hang around a couple of days first, getting a feeling of the place. No different really than walking into a room full of people already chatting - you'll take a minute or two before jumping right in, right?

YANBU I would do it, and probably have over the years. But it seems I'm equally as neglectful as you are

I leave DD in tub without water, its not really a big deal and if they are content to play right where they are, really, what is the big deal about leaving them be. BlahBlahBlah on 'whose the parent' mentality. Sometimes being a parent means taking the opportunity to do a five minute clean up job while DC;s play in empty tub. I've left DD, who is two now, alone lots in the tub with and without water, (but when its without water, its usually because she has pulled the plug) but she doesn't stand in the tub since she slipped once ages ago when I was in there with her and knows not to touch the faucet which she also did once when I was filling it up and it went hot and she cried a bit, but certainly learned its not to play with. She just doesn't do anymore, that's all. In our last flat, you walked out of the bathroom and were in the kitchen so I could do the washing up while she was in there easily. Our condo is designed with all the rooms coming off one large living space, so she really is within eye sight unless I go into her bedroom to get her PJ's. I wouldn't do it if she was on another floor or wing or if she was prone to play with the taps or stand up and such. She just sits happily, plays and sings for 15 minutes.

Get a non-slip matt for the tub.

and honestly, a child can slip and bump head anywhere and you wouldn't know how hard they hit it and still have a sleepless night worrying about it.