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People shopping on a Sunday.

284 replies

mrsgetonwithit · 06/03/2011 08:28

Another thread about kids in shops after 8pm got me thinking about this.

When I am out and about on a Sunday [or Bank hols] I am amazed at the amount of people taking their kids shopping on a Sunday.

I work every bank hol and when its a beautiful day there they are dragging their kids around the shops.

Why don't people [some] take their kids to the beach or moors or park anymore.

When I was young every Sunday my dad used to take my bro and I either swimming or fishing or the moors/beach for a few hours on a Sunday morn. My mum stayed home to cook the roast and then we palyed games in the garden or board games indoors after the meal.

This was a family day spent with the family.

So the question is What do you do on a Sunday?

Please don't say they shop on a Sunday because they work all week because shops are open late and on Saturdays.

OP posts:
ReshapeWhileDamp · 06/03/2011 09:23

Mrsgetonwithit, were you born in the 1950's? I ask only because the picture you paint: bracing forced march walk on the moors with Daddy, board games after the trad roast lunch, mother chained to the stove does seem to have a rather timeless rosy tint. Wink

Nice for you, and I'm sure your children are ever so appreciative that you're continuing your Stepford values even unto the third generation, but what I don't get, is what the buggery feck it has to do with you, how other people choose to spend their weekends? Hmm?

Newgolddream · 06/03/2011 09:24

no more questions 50 answers on one topic is quite enough I get bored reading the same stuff being repeated.

Hahaha!

Maybe that tells you most people dont agree with you....as someone said earlier on, the classic "flounce" when you dont get all the replies you want/expect. Except you also said something about expecting it to be like this...so what was the purpose then?

Are you one of those strange Mums who need to "entertain" their beloved DS 24/7? As much as I love my kids I kind of realise they like entertaining themselves and each other 2 at times, its called a balance!

Newgolddream · 06/03/2011 09:24

Sorry I meant to put DC.

DuelingFanjo · 06/03/2011 09:24

and how many times will he/she sign up under a different name to support her/himself Wink

Asinine · 06/03/2011 09:26

mrsgetonwithit- everyone likes to do different things at different times. Some like shopping as a family, some don't. Some like to get out in the countryside, some don't and some can't. Some people find it convenient to shop on Sunday.
Personally I love my Sunday roast and there would be mutiny from our dcs if we ever missed a week. We almost never go shopping except to buy school shoes as get feet measured, and prefer to shop online. However dhs about to go food shopping shortly, with one child to help. Later he is taking them all up a hill. I will stay behind because I've recovering from an injury and will cook the roast.
Does our family pass your Sunday test? Confused

swallowedAfly · 06/03/2011 09:26

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Portofino · 06/03/2011 09:27

Move to Belgium! The shops are all closed on a Sunday! Unless you want a cake, chocolates or flowers. It is a right PITA. Grin

coldcomfortHeart · 06/03/2011 09:29

Shopping on a Sunday morning is fantastic. Free parking, no traffic, no crowds, tidy shops, get in, get what you need, DS falls asleep in car on way home, rest of nap at home, wake up for Sunday lunch (might be roast, might be pizza!), then rest of afternoon spent doing Worthy Things such as walks, log chopping, throwing stones in river, etc.

Vallhala · 06/03/2011 09:30

Unfortunately, bamboostalks, the number 46 bus from the city outskirts only too us to Tesco on a Sunday when my DC were small, it didn't go as far out as the woods. And, despite us being vegetarian, the woods were unable to supply us with our weekly groceries so I opted to take them to Tesco instead of the mythical woods. It was that or leave them in the cupboard and shop alone, or accept that they'd go hungry and not go at all.

Looking back, it did my children a huge anount of good. They learned to count, to add up, to read labels, the morals of dead cow vs Quorn, they never stood in trolleys or ate grapes until they were paid for :o , they were not allowed to run around the aisles... and they learned common courtesy to others and that the world does not revolve around them.

Plus they got to eat that week and I wasn't arrested for leaving them home alone.

swallowedAfly · 06/03/2011 09:31

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itisnotgoingwelltoday · 06/03/2011 09:31

Oh I should add I'm in Northern Ireland and so we can all be good wee people and go to church the shops don't open until 1pm

shushpenfold · 06/03/2011 09:31

ilovemylife - I'm very rarely rude to people, even on AIBU (where it does get pretty heated....think of a lightly drunken dinner party conversation between several stridently opinionated friends!) The OP has set herself up from the beginning as being rude about other peoples opinions of her 'thoughts' and hence the tone has been set by her. Sometimes this is amusing and sometimes people just offend. The OP offended/narked me by blatantly not reading anybody else's posts and ignoring that fact that people just didn't have the choice of not shopping on Sundays. It is nothing to do with not putting their children first and the OP is suggesting that this is the case.

pigletmania · 06/03/2011 09:31

ilovemylife the OP is being very harsh and judgemental. Not only is she stating her opinion but getting personal and judging parents when she has no clue of the circumstances that brought them to the shops on Sunday or in the evening. She is trying to do a one size fits all policy, well every family is different and it cannot happen.

pigletmania · 06/03/2011 09:33

Exactly shush, the op came across as quite patronising and harsh and so warrents harsh responses dont you think!

itisnotgoingwelltoday · 06/03/2011 09:33

ilovemylife the OP has implied that I cannot cope with the number of children I have and should not have had the number I have.

She has no idea how many children I have and she has no idea of my life and how it is organised and the hoops I jump through to make it work.

Massively judgemental. Unfair. And actually I find her tone offensive.

Vallhala · 06/03/2011 09:33

Dueling, are you speaking of a recent leaver whose deregistering was accompanied by much trumpeting of the fact?

BaroqueAroundTheClock · 06/03/2011 09:37

wow a trip to the beach on a Sunday - I suppose if I'd left 2hrs ago, we could have maybe managage an hour on a beach before we had to head home again - probably getting back around 7pm (or later).

Not sure my chilren would appreciate 10 or 11 hours travelling in one day - even if they did get to go to the beach for an hour.

I'm going to church in a minute (with the children), we do need to go to Morrisons today.............if this rain buggers off we may go to the park for a bit as well

DuelingFanjo · 06/03/2011 09:37

oh, no. Who was that? [nosey emoticon]

NinkyNonker · 06/03/2011 09:37

I'm not the op Dueling, and surely if everyone is allowed to disagree with the op then people are allowed to agree with her too without being accused of being sock puppets?

Like I said, I don't judge others' choices (don't really care what other people do) but equally I agree that in my opinion weekends are for more fun things than shopping. Likewise rushing out to the sales on Boxing Day etc. I don't live in some rosy tinted 50's glow as also suggested, that's just how we live.

BaroqueAroundTheClock · 06/03/2011 09:38

Yesterday my best friend spent the entire day shopping with her DD. I saw them last night at a social event and the DD was absolutely over the moon that she'd got to spend an entire day shopping with her mum (was a birthday treat for her). I doubt the DD would have been quite so impressed with an entire day spend in the woods.

ilovemylife · 06/03/2011 09:39

ok............I see your point and maybe it was not put in the right way, but some people are clumsy in their grammar.

Saying that I kinda still agree with her. I feel scared saying that though. ha ha

Don't shoot me.

ENormaSnob · 06/03/2011 09:40

So shopping is not ok but making your son do homework whilst you piss about on the net is ok?

pigletmania · 06/03/2011 09:40

ilovemylife you are entitled to agree with the op there is nothing wrong with that, but you also have to see the other side of the coin, and the dynamics that go on within a family.

Northernlurker · 06/03/2011 09:41

Deliberately inflammatory op. Nobody should take this crap to heart.

KidderminsterKate · 06/03/2011 09:41

well I am taking all 4 kids to the supermarket today. We usually go on a Saturday but haven't this week because we went 'clothes' shopping yesterday Grin

why? well because I'm a lone parent and I work all week while the children are at school and then we have activities most evenings.

so this Sunday we will be supermarket shopping and then home for lunch (boiled eggs) and then taking the dog for a walk (woods not the the beach - is that ok?) and then I will cook dinner (sweet and sour pork - not a roast)

Sundays are just another day so not sure why they should be 'sacred'. If the point you are making is that children should have quality/ special time then I agree. Its nice for families to have 'rituals' and stick to them....just have to accept that people have different rituals.

But not sure who will cook the roast if I take the kids to the beach?