Spooning while nursing

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Hope the OP doesn't mind
Does anyone want to continue the discussion?

Reading the original thread and this one over the last three days has made me feel so dirty, for so many reasons. It has been like watching an awful film... Very repetetive, with some brilliant bits and a lot of dire bits, but I had to see how it ended. FWIW, I'm firmly in the penis camp on this one. (How very wrong that sounds...)
[Hangs head in shame]

I am confused after reading it all, Ilikegreenshoes is the 'penis camp' for or against ?

i think the penis camp is against valium!

Yep, I'm a 'Penis'. We are 'Penis Socket Deniers'. I think.

The penis camp is not only against, but is feeling ill over the use of terms like "lovemaking", "spooning" etc etc. I hope I've got that right - I'd hate to be refused entry to the penis camp and have to head over all dejected to the luuurve making camp (or castle, or mnaybe field...???)

Ah right, thanks 4mad.

I have already said what I thought on the other thread but it throws up the question how is it different from having a shag when you are 9 months pregnant? Or is that only ok if you are trying to bring on labour?

I think a baby would be far more affected by its parents having a huge, loud row and not being attatched to its mum than being attatched while its parents had a gentle SPOONY ( ) shag.

Sporking - being porked whilst spooning.

Hahahaha... Bupcakes, I love it!
My feeling is that it's not anything to do with whether you're directly harming the child or not. Why does it have to be either having a fight or "making gentle love" whilst baby is sucking on your nipple? There are other ways of interacting which don't fall into those two categories. I think others have summed it up very well, so not going to repeat what they've said. Suffice it to say that I don't class it as child abuse, I just feel it's tasteless and weird. Sorry if that offends anyone.
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Well after googling to find out what other people thought on the subject , I cannot find a single article on on it, BUT if anyone would like to ask me how they can start lactating so you can breast feed your husband, feel free to ask because there is LOADS to read on the subject and I now know more than I wanted to on that particular subject!

vavalium have your read a book called 'fresh milk' the secret life of breasts? it has some interseting bit on bfeeding a partner in it, even i was not in a thats gross way, just in a omg way. its a good book actually, v pro bfeeding, (its mainly about bfeeding babies! just has some interesting other bits in it too

No not read that 4mad.

I was really saddened by reading what a husband wrote about his wife who was about to start chemo for cancer and he was concerned if the chemo would affect her breast milk as he feeds from her.

I am itching to post and tell him that quite possibly his wife might not want to indulge in his fantasies as she is going through this appalling illness! ffs! and bf while on chemo is probably the last thing on her mind!

Sorry, very off topic!

Spooning often leads to forking

Valium I am going to be sick...

I've really found this thread(s) interesting. I've seen the topic come up so many times on other breastfeeding forums and this has been the best response to it! Mostly they go by without much attention and no one is too worried.

What I have read many times in different places is that people who bedshare and don't have a cot/moses/ pram do things when the baby is in the bed - it's safer than leaving a baby on their own whilst you do things in another room. So I was thinking:

If a couple and a baby are curled up together - mum in cuddle curl position and dad behind her, gentle sex, no breastfeeding, is it OK?
If a couple and a baby are curled up together - mum in cuddle curl position and dad behind her, gentle sex, breastfeeding, is it OK?

I can't see the difference.

why if she isnt breastfeeding cant she just put baby in cot for the three minutes it takes for sex

buick you know you can get socks with that on not that I own any

bupcakes - sporking

maybe they dont have a cot? we dont, we had one for ds1 that he never slept in and once ds2 was a couple of months old and it was apparent that he wasnt going to sleep in it either we just got rid of it to save on space. three babies later and we still dont have a cot, never had a moses basket either

and valium, that man sounds ummm odd to put it nicely, surely if your partner has a LIFE THREATENING illness her health and welfare should be your MAIN concern?

I was really saddened by reading what a husband wrote about his wife who was about to start chemo for cancer and he was concerned if the chemo would affect her breast milk as he feeds from her.

whilst im not in the bf your partner camp my self, but, I did wonder why this would sadden you val?

I am itching to post and tell him that quite possibly his wife might not want to indulge in his fantasies as she is going through this appalling illness! ffs! and bf while on chemo is probably the last thing on her mind!

but it may well be one of the major concernes at the fore front of her mind. why wouldnt she if it may effect an important aspect of her life?

Exactly 4madboys, when you start looking at the statistics for bedsharing, it's the safest place for a breastfed baby to be and if you are bedsharing, what's the point in any form of cot, they just take up space? I use crutches so don't use a pram (contrary to popular belief a pram does not function as a zimmer frame, it has a similar effect to putting too much shopping on the handles!) I bedshare because I'm convinced by the numbers. Moving my baby out of my bed into somewhere cold, away from me and just moving her is going to wake her up. If she sleeps quietly by my side I'm going to leave her there.

You can't see the difference between having sex with a baby near you, and having a baby suck on one part of your body while a man puts his penis in another part of your body??? Really??? [Hmm]

That should have been

I'm not sure why the baby "sucking" has anything to do with it. Same proximity in the two examples I gave, usually I'm topless when in bed anyway because of breastfeeding and baby latches/ unlatches themselves. Sometimes they're touching sometimes they're latched, sometimes they face away. I don't see why the latch makes a difference.

This should be the MN Quote Of The Week:

"Can we stop talking about bloody spooning. It makes no difference if you were spooning gently in the haze of the afternoon sun or if you were riding him like Seabiscuit."

(Bupcakes, and while I disagree with most of what she's said on that thread so far, this was both a valid point, and caused me to lose bladder control while reading. )

Sadly, it won't be the QOTW, because MNHQ must be on the point of deleting the thread, surely? It's only a matter of time before the DM finds this and has a field day. Pirate Sex would have nothing on it.

Right, am off to bed to suckle baby. DH is in spare room, wouldn't want anything untoward and cuttlery-related to happen.

Ah bollocks, I meant cutlery.

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Is that right?? Looks wrong, somehow. Spoon is easier to spell!

don't shag while BF it is just weird OK? Too much of a cross over betwixt hungry child and just shagging. It's odd on so many levels