To expect my partner to pay more towards the bills than me?

[talulubell]

So we both work:
-Him 1 job 40 hours
-Me 2 jobs, 20 & 5 hours

and he gets paid more than me. When he first moved in (with me & my DD) we paid half each and have done for a few years. Now I've just had to take a paycut (5%) and I'm due to go on maternity leave in June.

Money is the only thing we argue about ever, I literally have £50 a week left from which I have to buy

-food shopping,(we take it in turns each week)
-petrol, I need my car for my job
-anything my daughter needs, clothes, fees for hobbies, school trips etc
-anything I need

& now we need to start buying baby stuff.... so AIBU to think he should pay more than me?

Or just go out and earn 4x what he does. Plenty of women out earn men and then all your problems disappear.

I didnt know it was that easy Xenia! There you go girls, we just need to get much much better paid jobs then we wouldnt need to whinge would we?!

ffs

We have a joint account, both our wages go into it and we spend money as necessary. There is no mine and his, it's our money even though hubby earns 6 times more than me!

Get a joint account.
Work out your essential outgoings.
Take that amount out of your individual earnings so that you both have the same amount left and put it in the joint accout.
All essentials come out of your joint account.
The rest is yours to do with as you wish.

I agree with LaurieFairyCake and Georgi.

This sort of attitude would worry me when you're pensioners too
he's probably got a big private pension and you'll just have a stare one to live off if there is one

'he's probably got a big private pension and you'll just have a stare one to live off if there is one'

And, as they're not married, she'll have FA recourse.

Me and my dh split everything depending on earnings. I earn about twice as much as dh and so pay all of our rent and all my own bills (debts, phone etc) and then put some in the joint account for food. Dh pays all the other household bills and actually does all the shopping (and cooking yay!).

I don't think of it as my money. When I was a student my dh took on and paid off my huge credit card debts as well as giving me money to pay for travel and clothes. We are a unit and I couldn't imagine having different quality of living.

But each to their own. One of flat mates used to split everything precisely 50/50 with her bf so much so that if fruit punnets had an odd number of fruit in it they would work out what the equivalence would be (FYI a peach is worth two plums so I'm told). It used to drive me nuts.