To think the world is a messed up place because my drugged up neighbour gets to be pregnant but I just got my period...again!?

[SunnySusan]

Basically the Subject says it all!

Yes life is unfair. Good luck next month....

YANBU

Bugger-I used to feel like that every time saw mother to be smoking-not fair! But it'll happen-goog luck ttc :)

YANBU x

sorry you have been unlucky this month. fingers crossed for next month.

yes the world is fucked up, life doesnt always deal you a good hand because you are a nice person

resenting other people wont help you get preggers, it will only make you bitter, and maybe the pregnancy will make her change her druggy ways

YANBU. Life is shit sometimes.

Ps you nay want to reconsider your username.

yanbu. I had a miscarriage a couple of years ago and came out the hospital, devastated, with DH, to see a heavily pregnant mother smoking. Not that I wished a MC on her obviously, but it just didn't seem fair.YADNBU.Good luck, your turn will come.x

YANBU. I felt the same way when ttc and a friend was all over facebook moaning because she'd got pregnant off the back of a one night stand. By that point I'd lost track of how many 'stands' it'd taken for nothing to take (all with DH I must add ). Life sucks most of some of the time.

sorry going against the grain here but I think yabu. It's quite judgemental and unfair to begrudge someone else something positive in their life, especially if her life is already so messed up.

I am sorry you are finding it difficult ttc, but whether or not she has gotten pregnant doesn't affect your chances of getting pregnant, so why not allow her the little bit of happiness that this baby may bring her.

Her little bit of happiness might bring a life time of pain to a child who never asked to be born addicted though knockedupmel I think thats the definition of a messed up world.

I don't think YABU at all. It is only normal to feel like this when you are facing disappointment or upset, especially regarding pregnancy.

I wouldn't begrudge anyone a healthy baby and I don't think anyone deserves to not be able to concieve or to lose their baby. (obviously, surely no normal person would think that?!) However, I had to pass literally dozens of smoking pregnant women or some even smoking in labour every single day when I went to visit my dead twin and her premature sister in NICU and then again when we went back to see her after she died. It did used to make me very angry, I won't deny it.

Then my neighbour had an unplanned pregnancy and was discussinf with me whether to have a termination or not at the same time I was miscarrying my first pregnancy after I lost my twin daughters. That made me angry too and it did seem so unfair. She even joked 'maybe you can have it then' about her baby.

Good luck for next month.

YANBU. Unfortunately fertility isn't 'fair'.

SunnySusan, did you used to be SassySusan?

If so, how are you? (apart from fecked off with not being fertilised this month)

knockedupmell, my cousin is a junkie and allowed her drug-dealing boyfriend to systematically abuse her poor little boy. she had a son by said twat who was born with severe brain damage thanks to her drug abuse.

meanwhile people who will be good parents and have their priorities right are unable to have children.

I think thats pretty messed up. other people fertility may not impact on "ours" but why the fuck should I/we be happy for people who are unable to prioritise their children over their habit?

What is she 'drugged up' on?

Conception knows neither fair nor choice. It's a biological occurence. Doesn't make it easy for you though I know.

It's horrid for you but you can only try and not direct bitterness at other people. I'd wager there's a great deal of 'unfairness' in somebody's life if they're addicted to drugs.

Struggling to ttc is shockingly difficult.

it is hard

I think one would have to be a saint not to feel what you are feeling. And you're not directing it at your neighbour, you're letting it out on here which is exactly the right place to have come.

I hope it happens for you soon xx

Tatty, shouldn't think it is "Sassy" as she is apparently pregnant.

i have to say that I am very fairly bitter. FTC turns you into someone you dont want to be and dont like.

lissie my love I think nobody would begrudge you screaming at the heavens with bitterness. There'd be a crowd behind you supporting me.

I don't think you're ever unreasonable to have an honest reaction to what is so obviously hurtful or desperately upsetting.

Just think SunnySusan that you've been trying for 4 months or so for your first (saw you on another thread) and this time, choosing to have a family with your husband and setting out on the path is one of hope. You have no need to be bitter about your chances. But your visceral reaction to the strange paths other lives take is just human.

thank you showy.

Hi sunnysusan here I changed my name cause someone on here suggested I should. And no I was never sassysusan! I only joined today sorry!

She and her partner smoke weed and also just cigarettes too. Neither of them work and I wouldn't like to meet them in a dark alleyway either.

Sorry if my post seemed blunt. Its just its been 35 days since my last period and we thought we were pregnant and I got a shock when I went to the loo!

Hi sunnysusan here I changed my name cause someone on here suggested I should. And no I was never sassysusan! I only joined today sorry!

She and her partner smoke weed and also just cigarettes too. Neither of them work and I wouldn't like to meet them in a dark alleyway either.

Sorry if my post seemed blunt. Its just its been 35 days since my last period and we thought we were pregnant and I got a shock when I went to the loo!