To think the world is a messed up place because my drugged up neighbour gets to be pregnant but I just got my period...again!?

[SunnySusan]

Basically the Subject says it all!

I agree with Showy

Yasnbu I feel that way too, I am thankful though for my beautiful dd but would love a brother or sister for her.

'supporting me'

FFS. Supporting you lissie, was trying to correct it, MN died, evidently posted anyway and a message came up saying 'this link is broken, would you like to redirect to 'datingdirect.com'.

WTF. No Justine. Just no. What are you up to now?

Lissie, don't know if people telling you stuff like this is helpful or not but I have a friend who has been ttc for 7 years. She has had 4 miscarriages and 1 ectopic. She has just given birth to twins!

It will happen sweetheart, don't lose faith xx

Oh thanks Show of Hands, I didn't realise, what wonderful news.

Envy is an ugly emotion. Life isn't fair a lot of the time, millions of people around the globe suffer incredible hardships every day. I don't have fertility issues but I have had a crappy year and can't wait for the good times to come, but wanting my life to be different doesn't give me the right to think I am more deserving of good fortune then anyone else.

I m/c whilst I was working in an inner city A&E dept where I did a million prnancy tests a day that were positive to 15yr olds and women who's respone was 'well i'm not f*ing having it'.
YANBU
It will pass.

I have not read all threads but I agree..it is totally unfair and I know the pain you feel x

posts not threads but had a g&t to commiserate on another period

I really feel for you and I'm thinking of you.

I spent 7 years ttc for the dc. My lowest point was being rushed into hospital with OHSS and being put in a bed next to a teenager having a termination. Will never forget her asking if they'd got rid of the baby when she came back from theatre and her, her mother,the nurses joking and mildly celebrating.

I'd just been told my final round of IVF hadn't worked, I couldn't risk doing it again and after several years I'd reached the end of the line. It wasn't said teenager's fault but it was truely the most agonising hour of my life.

I had no idea that 8 years on I'd be the proud mother of 3 so hang on in there.

Isetan until you've suffered infertility you have no idea how agonising the feelings are and how awful the guilt you have for feeling overwhelming envy that you can't control.

This thread isn't the place for an argument but just wanted to point the above out.

isetan, envy may be an ugly emotion, but its also a very human one.

maryz, thats it exactly. if i want to lose wait, i diet. if i want to buy an expensive frock, i save up. fertility is totally beyond our control, so are our emotions regarding it.

memoo, thank you. i said to dh a few weeks back, we will probably end up with a baby when im 50, I'll think its the bloody menopause

OP, dont beat yourself up. its hard, and you are entitled to feel a bit shitty when you are trying to optimise your chances and someone you know is making v bad lifestyle choices gets something you want so badly.

mila, something simillar happened when i had my ep. it was v depressing being next to a up-duffed woman who was being administered methodone.

Lissie to be frank I didn't have the strength to be cross at the time but I'm fuming now.I remember sobbing pretty much all night and not one nurse came to ask if I was ok.

I think the problem is so many women don't have infertility it's somewhat brushed off as something to just be a big girl about and in reality it's just so crap and painful.

Anyhow don't want to hijack just wanted to give a virtual hug.

thanks everyone, didnt think I'd get so many replies.

I have a docs app booked for tuesday - was going to get my blood checked for being PG but no point now!

Not sure if I should go anyway to try and get hormone levels checked or something as every month before my Period I get migrane, lumpy boobs , bloating, bad cramping and v. emotional?

Think she might tell me to come back after a year of trying as its only been since October? What you think? :(

Yes she might and to be frank I wouldn't panic yet,6 months ttc is totally normal.

Not being funny but are you doing it a lot? You really do need to do it a lot especially around the fertile time and try not to think about it.If you start stressing so early it could make it harder. Don't know how old you are but I wouldn't panic if it still hasn't worked after a year.

Hi milamae

im 20. DH is 25.

We do it every 2/3 days in first half of cycle but not alot if ever in 2nd half of cycle due to all the symptoms i mentioned above - I cant bare it! Esp when the migranes start.

see your gp about hormonal issue and try charting to give yourself a better idea of your cycle. 6 months is not long at all, the majority of couples take 6m-12m to conceive.

I suffered from infertility, and fortunately eventually had successful IVF, but the one thing I tried really hard to do when I was trying was not judge young/single/disadvantaged/drunk mums to be. I was insanely jealous of anyone who was successfully pregnant but fortunately never went down that 'how can someone like that have a baby and not me' road. Their experience has no bearing on yours. Sorry if it sounds harsh but I think YABU to judge, even though I do know from personaly experience how hard infertility can be.

It was a while ago but I thought you were supposed to do it mid cycle,I'd be trying every 1 or 2 days, 3 maybe too long???As I say it was a long while ago so I could be completely wrong,I'm sure somebody else will advise.

I got very obsessional when charting so tread carefully.

You're both young so don't panic just yet .