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to think WTF when people that "we" are pregnant

29 replies

shesparkles · 02/03/2011 12:23

It is only the female of the human species that can become pregnant so what is it with people speaking about "we are pregnant"

OK speak about "we are expecting a baby" because you clearly are BOTH expecting a baby, but this whole "we're pregnant" thing really gets on my nerves!!! Is it yet another Americanism?

Pedant? me?

Quite possibly Grin

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kreecherlivesupstairs · 02/03/2011 12:25

YANBU. I did tell my DH from the very start of my pregnancy that it was me doing the hard work, not us.
I think he was glad to leave me to it once he'd seen me spew incessantly.

squeakytoy · 02/03/2011 12:29

watching Denise Van Outen by any chance?? Grin

PlasticLentilWeaver · 02/03/2011 12:30

YANBU. It's one of those slightly nauseating phrases, that you know will be someones Facebook status when they are announcing to the world that their 'swimmers' have struck the target or whatever the hell it might be.

HecateQueenOfWitches · 02/03/2011 12:30

I know. I think it's just excitement.

We are having a baby
I am pregnant

jazz412 · 02/03/2011 12:30

YADNBU.
This really pisses me off, it just sounds so twee

Mamaz0n · 02/03/2011 12:31

I don't think WTF. i think What a twat.

HecateQueenOfWitches · 02/03/2011 12:31

Although I suppose if you want to be ultra nitpicky, it's only the woman that has the baby.

So I suppose the only 'we' is 'we are going to be parents' Grin

MamaLazarou · 02/03/2011 12:32

YABU. People just get swept up in the excitement and novelty of it all.

Niecie · 02/03/2011 12:37

YANBU. Definitely an Americanism we can do without. Nothing to do with excitement. Nobody used to say it in this country, now you hear it all the time and it can only come from America.

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shesparkles · 02/03/2011 12:37

Yes I was watching Denise van Outen!!! It's a phrase that's always bugged me but I decided to vent my spleen todayGrin

My children are 13 and 8 and it's not something I've ever been aware of having heard until recently and it makes my teeth itch!

My other pet hate is people saying "so-and-so has BIRTHED" It's not a verb in that sense!!!

I'm thinking this through too deeply aren't I Grin

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OTheHugeManatee · 02/03/2011 12:43

Isn't it a bit like that thing some people do when describing what a small child has been doing? For example

A: 'And has Chlamydia been behaving herself today?'

B: 'Well, we've had lots of fun today - though we did have a little moment when we couldn't crucify the gerbils, didn't we, Chlammie?'

BulletWithAName · 02/03/2011 12:45

YANBU. Such a stupid Americanism...

mmsmum · 02/03/2011 13:01

Deep breaths op! YABU, it's perfectly normal to say we are pregnant and nothing bad will happen.

sofaqueenie · 02/03/2011 13:04

YABU - When I was pregnant WE were expecting a baby. It took two of us to make him, it will be two of us as parents and it will be two of us that care for him.

femalevictormeldrew · 02/03/2011 13:16

YANBU - I hate this. I read once on a different forum where someone overheard a man saying "We don't want an episotomy (sp)". If my DH said that I think I would have to give him one.

femalevictormeldrew · 02/03/2011 13:17

Sofaqueenie

"YABU - When I was pregnant WE were expecting a baby. It took two of us to make him, it will be two of us as parents and it will be two of us that care for him."

I agree totally that both of you were expecting a baby etc. But only one of you was pregnant

mrsravelstein · 02/03/2011 13:20

oh god, i randomly hate that one too. makes me squirm. totally unreasonable, but there we are. it's up there with midwives asking "and how is baby?" THE BABY, THE BABY fgs

sofaqueenie · 02/03/2011 13:22

Female: Well obviously!

I didn't have to do it all on my own though, yes I was carrying the baby. But it was his baby too. I can't understand it - all the decisions were made between the two of us. I would never dream of saying that it was just me going through it, because it involved the two of us.

Heyho - each to their own and all that.

poochela · 02/03/2011 13:32

Almost as annoying as 'police speak'

'...he's careered across the road, mounted the pavement and the officer present has cuffed him..'

I neither know or care if this way of talking is gramatically correct but I do know that it buggs me. Stupid 'Road Wars' type programs. tut.

And in terms of your particular gripe:

I am pregnant
we are expecting a baby

YADNBU

wildfig · 02/03/2011 14:20

[slight disgression] I love Road Wars language. 'The plank from the nicked Fiesta has given it legs down the street, but Badger is hot on his heels... the muppet.'

LikeANinjaNow · 02/03/2011 14:24

YADNBU. I think only twats say 'we are pregnant'.

Dawnyann · 02/03/2011 14:24

Not nearly as annoying as text speak!!!!

wuu2??? oh my god you f**king freak talk properly or don't text me!!!! Grrrrr Angry

Ooid · 02/03/2011 14:24

I hate it
That and "So....We can walk now. And we can say 'CBeebies'! Ooh, we're a bit grumpy today...."
Inappropriate use of we. Who knew it would get so many goats?

ShowOfHands · 02/03/2011 14:28

DH is a copper. It drives me mad listening to him waffling on about NFAing some PWITs. I do rather like 'giving it legs' though.

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shesparkles · 02/03/2011 14:40

To all those who hate police speak....guess where I work! Grin

And I have to admit I'm VERY guilty of it...at this timeBlush

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