to detest the term 'fraped'

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Not sure if this has been done on Mumsnet before but the term 'fraped' on Facebook makes me fume. And its not just teenagers that use it, it seems to just be the accepted by all as the phrase to be used when someone has been hacked.

It gets me in the guts every single time. My stomach tightens and I get flashbacks, all cause some dumbass friend of mine wants to say that their facebook page was hacked.

In what context would this word be used? If someone finds out the username and password of someone's account? What does the f mean? Friend? Facebook? From the title of the thread I assumed it was something to do with badly-spelled iced coffee.

Pretty bad word, all round. I also hate things being described as gay or retarded. Young people just dob't have the life experience to know the full impact of certain words imo. In the case of rape, let's hope they never do

I was not in any way 'trivialising' a violent act! What I meant was that these 'AIBU to dislike [whatever' threads are a bit odd, because nobody can say you are unreasonable for disliking something. Your behaviour can be unreasonable, but the dislike of something cannot always be rationalised in the first place.

The term doesn't bother me. I don't think anyone who is bothered by it is being unreasonable.

'fraped' - you left a computer with your facebook account logged on and someone came along and updated your status for you. Usually along the lines of 'I like anal sex' or somesuch.

onlineslangdictionary.com/definition+of/rape

It is modern day slang talk.

Aha! Thank you.

It's not even a real word and trivialises something that so many women already feel they can't talk about or even report.

To be 'fraped' is to be electronically violated, therefore, the adaptation of the word is appropriate. It's another example of how our wonderful language expands and adapts continutally. Do people who have been beaten up re-coil anytime anyone offers them a fruity drink at a party?

Punch the drink and punch the action are far apart in meaning. Many many words share a spelling but not a meaning. Fraped is intended to take on the meaning of rape and to trivialise it to a FB action.

Worlds apart. Can't you see that?

I think it's nasty.

It's just a word. It doesn't mean that being raped is any worse, just because the word is used. Language evolves.

Rebeccaruby the "rape of Nanking" was one of the grossest violations of the rights of women that world has ever seen. Some of the atrocities and mutilations that occured, to women and girls, post partum and virgin alike, unmarried and married, sicken any decent human mind beyond belief.

It was a massacre in the normal use of the word, but it was also a massacre of the city's women. The legacy from those acts are still felt today, when huge numbers of Japanese learn it was just a trivial blip on the war radar - it wasn't. Hundreds of thousands of lives were affected.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nanking_Massacre

Please google something before you speak on it.

TobyLerone what do you think of the words 'gay' and 'retarded' to mean stupid or bad?

I'm with Toby , language evolves.
And I've been raped.

I don't use 'retarded'. I'm not particularly offended by those who do, but I don't use it.

As for 'gay', the majority of LGBT people I know use it in a derogatory way and are amused and unoffended by its use.

Doesn't bother me.
I can understand why it may bother others

YANBU - it's trivialising rape which is a horrific experience. I despise the term.

YANBU

Plus I second Tony on the use of Gay to mean stupid.

The word 'gay' is often used to say stupid/unlucky/unfortunate. I.e "Oh no I dropped my books in water.....well that's gay".

Rape is also a word that is used in trivial manner especially by young people on the internet. It's often used to describe being violated or being beaten badly at something. i.e "My friend beat me 10-0 in football I was totally raped!!"

These are words which are regularly used as slang.

Exactomondo!! Some people need to chillax ...

It doesn't bother me to be honest.

I hate it. Prefer "anonymoused"

I must have nice facebook friends because I've never heard it