Breast Feeding

[0ldieMum]

Hi GIrls,

I so need to start a thread about this as I have been having heated debates with my DH about this subject....

We are trying for a baby (had one ectopic, with all that that entails) but are still hopeful for another.

Basically, the argument is about breast feeding. Both of us are in favour of it as we are aware that it's best for baby, but although I love him to bits he's pissing me off soooooooo much about his attitude to BFing. My sister is a BF guru, knows everything there is to know about it, and should we be lucky enough to have a baby, I'm going to enlist her expert help in providing this wonderful nutrition to our child. My DH says he doesn't have a "problem" (WTF????) with BF per say, but that I would NOT be ALLOWED to BF in front of other males.....(again WTF????)unless I had the "appropriate" clothes which would allow me to be "discreete".... he also is not happy when my sister breastfeeds at our dinner table (which I have no problem with!) He says that how come no one says anything about that, but if he got his manhood out at the table he feels people would complain about that.....

What I'm really looking for girls is some legitiamte "come backs" on his ridiculousness!!!!! BFing is NOT the same as peeing at the table, but I guess I lack the expericence to argue with him and give him some proper come backs.....

Feedback welcome girls, please help me!! My DH is actually a darling darling man, most of the time I totally agree with his opinions, but on this one I think he's being TOTALLY unreasonable and I need some back up in changing his dinosaur mind...

Sorry for the rant, but please help me!!

NinkyNonker great post and perfect for the OP. You put into the right words, exactly what I have been thinking and trying to say.

I don't believe that a man's inexperience should be held against him either.

As I said to the OP before, he'll get there with time. She has said that he is a loving DH and not much seems to phase him him usually.

It's all a learning curve, such is life.

Booy I'm not engaging with you further on this thread.

We have a difference of opinion, that's that.

I'm not arguing with you on here and hijacking the OP's thread.

If you feel you have something more to say (even if I don't), send me a PM and rant there.

I'm just wondering why you are laughing at me. i didn't tell a joke. why can't you explain yourself?

Booy

Please read carefully, I'm not going to say it again...

I am not hijacking this thread for an argument with you. If you want to verbally engage with me further, then PM me and I'll explain myself more than adequately.

I am NOT getting into a slanging match on someone elses thread.

Goodbye.

well you felt able to laugh at me on someone else's thread so i think it is the perfect place to answer why you did that.

it would be sooooo nice if I could somehow point out to him his argument about peeing at the table being the same is just utter baloney!

Say to him - do you really not understand the difference between a tiny child eating and an adult going to the toilet?

The NCT run breastfeeding workshops for couples BTW - perhaps you should both go

Yes, I agree with Quenelle - he probably doesn't have much idea about what breastfeeding really is, so maybe you don't need to get too worked up about it at the moment. Actually I, in my ignorant pre-child days, used to wonder why women breastfed in various public situations (though I wasn't offended by it). Not until I had my own ferociously hungry DS's did I realise just how often and how immediately babies need to be fed! A couple of months after my first DS was born, his godfather (lovely, but childless and pretty unaware) came to visit, and was visibly astonished at how often DS fed. It turned out he thought 8-week old babies just had some milk for breakfast, lunch and dinner.... :) I also remember my mother telling me, after DS was born, to 'go upstairs' when he needed feeding. She soon stopped saying that, when it turned out he needed feeding ALL THE TIME! So, maybe for now, just focus on making sure he's really aware of all the health benefits, and reassuring him that you will be discreet. And when the time comes, he will probably just adapt, because breastfeeding will just become this normal part of each day, and not a big thing. Hopefully, anyway :)