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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

not to give DPs mum the recipe for my yummy cereal bars?

104 replies

GregoryPeck · 28/02/2011 22:13

Merely because it puts me at an advantage?
I made DP some gluten free cereal bars a while ago as he is a coeliac, and he let his mum and sister try them.
They love love loved them and I duly made another batch just for them.
Now they keep asking me for the recipe.
But...I quite like them having to ask me to make my 'special' treat as DPs mum is a really good cook and he adores her (as well he should, I don't mean in a creepy way).

God, just tell me I am being petty, I should just give her the recipe shouldn't I? She is an utterly lovely woman, I just quite like being better at something than her, that's all..

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lalabaloo · 01/03/2011 08:03

I agree, give her the recipe with your name all over it. Then she can't take credit for it. And I'm coeliac too, so if you wanted to pm me with it...?

Flisspaps · 01/03/2011 08:17

YANBU, I'd give her the recipe with altered amounts of ingredients on.

Although they'd end up being even better than the originals if I did that.

kingprawntikka · 01/03/2011 08:18

My son is coaliac too and I'd really appreciate your recipe if you are happy to PM it to me. I would give your MIL the recipe, she probably will hardly ever make it and it might not come out as well as yours .

LindyHemming · 01/03/2011 08:59

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ZZZenAgain · 01/03/2011 09:02

you know you are being daft. I can understand you but you have to do it. Go on give her the recipe with good grace, she's giving you a compliment.

ZZZenAgain · 01/03/2011 09:04

maybe she'd really really like you to ask her for one of her recipes...

yestheyareallmine · 01/03/2011 09:14

I would give her the recipe.
Why don't you wait untill mothers day or something and give her a pretty laminate with your name all over it as the others have said and put it in a nice tin with the ingredients to make her first batch, it puts more of your stamp on it, they would be your bars that you have gifted her the details of.

Missymorrison87 · 01/03/2011 09:14

If she is a lovely reasonable woman then why not give her the recipe?

Me and my sister are always sharing recipes for things but we always like to experiment anyway so our things never turn out the same, but still good enough to indulge in over and over again.

tallwivglasses · 01/03/2011 09:18

Another request for a pm. Surely only then we can decide if the recipe is as scrummy as you're claiming...also ds is gluten intolerant and I'm desperate to get some cereals into him...please?

purplepidjin · 01/03/2011 09:21

YANBU to feel like that...

But you would be very U not to actually give it to her. In a pretty Mothering Sunday card is a lovely idea (^^ up there somewhere)

upahill · 01/03/2011 09:21

I hopw you are being tounge in cheek about not giving a recipe and people who are saying leave out stuff are having a joke!

Mean and spitful otherwise and you are being childish and stupid if you either don't give it or omit stuff.

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 01/03/2011 09:27

You may find that even with the exact same recipe, she won't get the same results as you.

My uncle once got into real trouble with my aunt when he told her that my mum's christmas cake was delicious and she should get the recipe from her as it was so much better than her (my aunt's) recipe. Sadly they are sisters, and were using the same family recipe!!

PepsiPopcorn · 01/03/2011 09:35

Yes, share the recipe.

catwhiskers10 · 01/03/2011 09:45

You should really give her the recipe.
However, you could miss out a vital ingredient so that yours still taste better than hers :)

Missymorrison87 · 01/03/2011 09:46

You have got me thinking actually..

If this ONE recipe of yours has you at an advantage over her HUNDREDS of brilliant recipes, then these really must be super cerial bars!!!!!!!!!

Just a thought

ZZZenAgain · 01/03/2011 09:52

I also want the recipe for these bars now...

BeautifulBlondePineapple · 01/03/2011 09:53

Ridiculously petty! She's given you a huge compliment to ask for the recipe - just give it to her.

My MIL has never asked for any of my recipes :( Not even my very special and delicious crepes.

TrillianAstra · 01/03/2011 09:55

We all want the recipe and will label you as a big old meany forever if you don't give it to us.

BlackType · 01/03/2011 10:00

Good lord, what a palaver about a recipe. Giving it for Mothers' Day in a pretty laminated form with all the ingredients to go with it?? I do despair. It's a good recipe and someone nice has asked you for it. Just write it on the back of an envelope and hand it over. Where on earth is the drama in that?

Only on MN would this kind of loony navel-gazing be indulged. Nay, encouraged. (Not aimed at you, OP, but at some of the crazy responses. You asked whether yabu, and the straight answer is: yes you are, but I think you know it).

upahill · 01/03/2011 10:05

Hear Hear BlackType!!!!

Excactly my thoughts!

BlackType · 01/03/2011 10:14

stubbornhubby · 01/03/2011 10:18

give her the recipe - they won't taste the same when she makes them, anyway..

LoopyLoopsHulaHoops · 01/03/2011 10:19

Just give her the damned recipe like a normal human being.

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 01/03/2011 10:33

I think people are being a bit hard on the OP. I can understand what she is saying, about wanting this recipe to be something special that she makes for her dp, and that other people can't. It isn't a logical response, but an emotional one.

HappySeven · 01/03/2011 11:01

Please post it here when you've given her a copy (or at least let us know where you found it - I'm assuming you didn't invent it). My mum's been Coeliac for over 40 years and I'd love to find her something tasty to eat that doesn't cost a fortune. Think of it as a Mothers' Day gift to mumsnetters.

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