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to be pissed off at DH leaving this til the last minute

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allsquareknickersnofurcoat · 28/02/2011 13:48

FIL is getting married on Saturday, DH is best man. Cousin-in-laws DS christening on Sunday.

As the wedding is "oop north", we are travelling up on Friday, staying in a hotel, and travelling back Sunday morning, to go straight to the christening.

I have organised train fares, hotel, outfit for me x2, outfit for DS x2, christening present, wedding card, christening card, new shoes for DH, even bloody wrapping paper.

DH has two things to do, find out what colour his dad wants him to wear (this could then require him to buy a new suit, or at least new shirt and tie. As we are going straight to the christening, he then needs to work out his christening shirt and tie around what his dad wants and stay clean at the wedding!! ) and sort out a present for his dad.

It is 96 hours til our train leaves, DH is in work today and tomorrow anyway, and neither of these things are done.

And DH, I hope you read this!!!

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MooMooFarm · 28/02/2011 13:53

YANBU at all - and whatever you do - do not step in to help. Do not offer to go shopping for him, however close it gets to the deadline. Sit on your hands, hide your own car keys, anything. It's for his own good!

HecateQueenOfWitches · 28/02/2011 14:17

Leave him to it.

If it doesn't get done, then it doesn't get done and it's his own fault.

Is he not doing it knowing that you will crack and do it for him, do you think?

walesblackbird · 28/02/2011 14:22

I have a dh like that as well. Always leaves everything to the last minute, struggles to be on time for anything - and just blithely assumes that everything will work out. Most times it does - occasionally it all goes wrong.

Leave him to it. It's his dad. You've done your bit, he can sort out the rest.

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allsquareknickersnofurcoat · 28/02/2011 14:51

Oh dont worry, I'm not doing it for him, I'm not his mum!
He's telling me that he has text his dad, but hasnt heard back from him yet..... Hmm [sceptical]

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walesblackbird · 28/02/2011 14:51

Oh that one ..... I've left a message but they haven't called me back! If only I had a £ for every time I've heard that one!!

KatieWatie · 28/02/2011 16:18

I just can't believe you haven't bought the wedding present!!

Wink
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allsquareknickersnofurcoat · 28/02/2011 16:21

I wouldn't have asked DH to do it in the first place if I had a clue what to get, lol!
Its FILs third marriage, and I've only met FSMIL twice...

Any suggestions? Wink

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BristolJim · 28/02/2011 16:22

Bloody women, it's only Monday! If it was Friday you may have a point, but Jebus...

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allsquareknickersnofurcoat · 28/02/2011 16:22

I did try to think of something before I asked him, but as he's his dad and brought him up on his own, I want to get him something he'll appreciate rather than the usual same old...

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allsquareknickersnofurcoat · 28/02/2011 16:24

BristolJim what would you like for a wedding present from your eldest son for your third marriage?

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runnyhabbit · 28/02/2011 16:27

Lol, regardless of how much time he has, it will still be a mad dash to the 24hr Tesco Thursday night.

Or he could completely go to the other extreme, and ordered everything online and blown any budget

Dh is either at one end or the other

TheGoddessBlossom · 28/02/2011 16:28

PMSL

BristolJim · 28/02/2011 17:40

X-Box / PS3
Wine club subscription
Box of cigars the size of Rutland
An adopted rhino at London Zoo
A record player with vinyl copies of Sergeant Pepper and Ziggy Stardust
A Hull City shirt, signed with good luck messages from all the players.
A ride in a tank.
James Bond dvd box-set.
A wok full of Viagra.
A round at St Andrews.

If money was tight, I wouldn't worry about a present. A firm handshake and heartfelt 'Congratulations, dad' should be enough between men. But maybe with a nice cigar. Even men who don't smoke enjoy getting nice cigars.

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allsquareknickersnofurcoat · 28/02/2011 18:44

Phew, hes spoken to his dad, he needs to wear a dark suit and cream shirt, the tie is already sorted.
Where the hell can you get a cream shirt?!?!

Wont get it for him yet, will let him worry and wait til Thurs, mwahaha! Grin

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allsquareknickersnofurcoat · 28/02/2011 18:48

Haha, I've found one. Need to order it so will hide it till Thursday. Teeheehee :)

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jenga079 · 28/02/2011 18:55

BristolJim's reply there is exactly why we need men on Mumsnet! Well done BristolJim. Now, what shall I get my Dad for his birthday?

OP - have you bought it for him? Hahah, you are his mum!!

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allsquareknickersnofurcoat · 28/02/2011 20:50

Grin Nope, 7 day delivery for the ONE I could find. So he can walk town looking for one!!

Now he just needs to sort out a present!!!

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abbierhodes · 28/02/2011 21:03

So he has the whole of Wednesday, Thursday and Friday to ring his dad and pop to Burtons? Wow. Wish I was that busy!

abbierhodes · 28/02/2011 21:04

Just re-read, sorry...so now he doesn't have to make the phonecall? That's a relief.

PonceyMcPonce · 28/02/2011 21:09

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Ponks · 28/02/2011 21:40

Ha, sounds familiar. We were invited to wedding of one of DH's colleagues, staying in posh hotel etc. Despite me asking umpteen times he only got round to checking the dress code at 10pm the night before. This was ALL he had to do.
Turned out to be a black tie do.
He doesn't own black tie.
Cue very quick stop in town on way to wedding praying that he could get a suit that approximately fitted.
Me - stressed
Him - not arsed
So I know where you're coming from.

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allsquareknickersnofurcoat · 01/03/2011 11:33

abbierhodes Thanks for the suggestion, however Burtons dont have any cream shirts, I have checked. Neither do M&S, Next, BHS or topman. They are the only mens shops in our "city" centre.
Neither of us drive so any further than city centre is a big PITA.
And he doesnt have the whole of Friday, we are leaving Friday lunchtime.

Asda have one, he has ordered it online, it should be here by Thursday...

Re the gift, we are kind of on a strict budget as we have just had a baby, so I would have preferred him buying something decent online, for half the price it would be in a shop. So now he either buys something not as nice, or goes over budget. And before that he has to think of a decent present!

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spacecadet1 · 01/03/2011 13:43

Do you have any local suit hire shops he could try for the shirt. Might be cheaper than buying if he won't wear a cream shirt again. What about some voucher for a nice restaurant as a wedding present.

BristolJim · 01/03/2011 14:35

*Bristol jim, those are all good birthday or retirement gifts. They are not wedding gifts, unless fill is marrying a man if similar age and interests.

This is why I don't trust men to buy gifts.*

Meh. That's why men never get any wedding presents they actually want. Cuh, get him a kettle then, I'm sure he'll be over the moon.

mollymole · 01/03/2011 14:42

and i know i will get flamed for this but - does your husband work full time - do you work full time
or part time or SAHM - but to my mind the best person to buy these items is the one who has the time in the day - in our house it would not matter who had done what prior but who has the time to solve the situation now

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