to be pissed off at DH leaving this til the last minute

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FIL is getting married on Saturday, DH is best man. Cousin-in-laws DS christening on Sunday.

As the wedding is "oop north", we are travelling up on Friday, staying in a hotel, and travelling back Sunday morning, to go straight to the christening.

I have organised train fares, hotel, outfit for me x2, outfit for DS x2, christening present, wedding card, christening card, new shoes for DH, even bloody wrapping paper.

DH has two things to do, find out what colour his dad wants him to wear (this could then require him to buy a new suit, or at least new shirt and tie. As we are going straight to the christening, he then needs to work out his christening shirt and tie around what his dad wants and stay clean at the wedding!! ) and sort out a present for his dad.

It is 96 hours til our train leaves, DH is in work today and tomorrow anyway, and neither of these things are done.

And DH, I hope you read this!!!

Molly, both me and DP work full time (well maybe he works slightly longer hours) but he's exactly like OP's DP.
And I look after DS, the house and everything else (including social life) in the few spare hours after work.

LOL BristolJim surely he would prefer a scented candle?

Ponks - my DH did something similar to me. He persuaded me to go on his Christmas do with work. I thought it would be much like my work Christmas dos, jeans and smart top.

No. As I was getting dressed to go out, he told me it was a smart dress code. I had just come out of maternity clothes and had nothing that fitted that would remotely fall into said dress code. I tried it all on.

I ended up in a pair of black trousers tied up with a hair band and a blouse. I looked like a bit of a twat, but less so than I would have done if I'd turned up in jeans.

My DH is like yours too, OP.

Years ago, before we were married, we were invited to one of my friend's wedding. All day, not just the evening. DH, being Aussie, has been to weddings before in shorts, flipflops and vile shirts of the Hawaiian tablecloth variety. This was Not On. I said he should probably wear a suit - he wasn't keen. He said he would wear chinos and a shirt. Then, the day before the (Sunday) wedding, he was playing tennis with some male friends and told them about this wedding - they ALL said "so of course you'll be wearing a suit" - he said he wasn't going to - they said he really should. So we spent the last couple of shopping hours on the Saturday hunting down a suit that both suited and fit him. Found one - plus matching shirt and tie - but of course the trousers were unhemmed - so muggins here had to hem the bloody things ready for the next day!

Talk about last minute...

The thing is, he would have actually really minded if he'd turned up in chinos and an open-neck shirt and been the only one dressed like that (he would have been) - he likes to dress appropriately but wasn't going to take MY say-so on what constituted appropriate in this instance!

Ponks, the last wedding we went to also required a detour on the way to M+S for suitable suit plus shirt and tie, for my husband. The woman in the changing room was open mouthed when he said he needed to wear it there and then as he was on his way to a wedding.

Why do husbands do these things??????

Molly I am on mat leave at the mo, however I have planned the rest of the weekend!! And had he said a few weeks ago that he needed a cream shirt, I would have bought him one. It was only this weekend that he thought that his dad might want him to wear something in particular, being Best Man and all... Same, if he had said, "I want to get my dad x present" a bit earlier I could have sorted that out. He still hasnt suggested anything, and I dont have a clue what his dad would want. As he is his dad, not mine.
Plus, DH works shifts, so he also gets plenty of time off.

He insisted he would do both, and now its too late for me to do it anyway.

Glad other peoples DHs are as bad though

My dh did something similar for a wedding about 4 years ago. I organised the hotel and everything else and he had two jobs, one of which was get his suit, shirt, tie etc.

He got his suit but I had to get his shirt and tie at last minute. His other job was to book the registry office because it was our wedding and we were having a humanist ceremony. He left that to the last minute and the only Saturday slot was two weeks before the wedding. And then he left the wedding licence paperwork at the office

allsquare - are you familiar with the www.iwantoneofthose.com website? They have all sorts of interesting and quirky gifts and tend to deliver Very Fast (which is what you need) - plus they will deliver straight to your FIL's address for you.
Plus they're currently having a sale so you might get something really cool for less than normal!

I always fancied some of these - a friend of mine had them, but she had white ones, and they were great! She had about 6 though (they used to come in packs of 6 or 7, iirc)

Katie - I bought DHs suit for our wedding!!

Thumbwitch - Thanks! I will insist that DH has a look tonight when he gets in. I may look first so I can make suggestions ...

Debenhams usually has cream shirts if there's one near you

Ah in that case we are both doomed to repeat this pattern

I don't bother asking him to do anything now or take any responsibility for things he hasn't done. Which is why I usually get my own way and dh's side of the family get no birthday presents or Christmas cards.

Love BristolJim's list, and actually I think the wine club membership and the rhino would both be good wedding presents (maybe also the Viagra )

Thanks Cakey I did spot them, but the nearest Debenhams is a train ride away and delivery is 5-7 days... :(

Just ordered myself a new cardy... Hope DH doesnt see it arrive or he may moan that I'm no better than him

(I decided today that I dont like the cardy I bought to go with my dress)

Oh and I just spotted and had to use it!!