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Original poster

to think that following someones posts on mumsnet is not the same as stalking

67 replies

thenevernever · 27/02/2011 22:04

I don't know the person in real life, but I find her posts quite fascinating and everytime I logon to mnet I search for her recent threads.
DP says I'm stalking her but I don't agree
Aibu?

OP posts:
FabbyChic · 27/02/2011 22:05

No you aren't you are just interested in what they are writing.

It certainly isn't stalking.

PurveyorOfWoo · 27/02/2011 22:06

Is a bit stalkerish. By all means frequent the same areas, but searching for everything they post?

RealityIsKnockedUp · 27/02/2011 22:06

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PigValentine · 27/02/2011 22:06

YANBU.

squeakytoy · 27/02/2011 22:07

no different to following someone on twitter, or looking for a particular journalists column in the paper..

:)

RevoltingPeasant · 27/02/2011 22:07

Who is it???

So I can stalk her too, natch

worraliberty · 27/02/2011 22:08

I'm not sure really.

Btw OP you've run out of milk Blush

GreenEyesandHam · 27/02/2011 22:08

It's me isn't it?

It's me, go on you can say....

:o

JeremyVile · 27/02/2011 22:09

Not stalkerish at all.

Anyone who posts on here WANTS their comments to be read.

Original poster
thenevernever · 27/02/2011 22:14

I do not like green eyes and ham, I do not like them sam I am. Sorry, greeneyes but not you (unless you name changed!)

It came up in conversation because I mentioned to dp that its amazing how much you can know about people you've never met such as celebrities, mumsnetters you follow etc.
The fact I know where she lives (roughly), how many dc she has, her job, her views on politics etc led my dp to say I was stalking her.

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GreenEyesandHam · 27/02/2011 22:16

No I know, I've never even started a thread LOL :o

It's not stalking of course not.

Far more stalkerish going through a persons 170+ friend list on Facebook..

I'd never do that btw...

FunnysInTheGarden · 27/02/2011 22:16

oooh, sorry yes, it is a bit stalkerish. But then if everyone does it , mebeez I should join in. Trouble is I would just stalk folk who pissed me off, and that is very stalkerish Grin

BuzzLiteBeer · 27/02/2011 22:18

yeah thats pretty weird actually.

Northernlurker · 27/02/2011 22:18

I don't think that's stalking. There isn't anyone I look for regularly but if I've been reading something I'll search and see how that person is getting on.
If you post on her threads saying you are following her around the virtual arena now that would be troubling......

Zamboucca · 27/02/2011 22:19

Yup - I was going to ask: how much do you hate her, and what did she say to you?

BeerTricksPotter · 27/02/2011 22:20

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ENormaSnob · 27/02/2011 22:20

I cannot decide if yabu or not until I know who it is? Wink

exoticfruits · 27/02/2011 22:21

I don't think it is stalking-if I can't find anything interesting there are one or two people I look for because they post on the interesting threads.

mmsmum · 27/02/2011 22:21

No of course not if you are interested in what they have to say, and it sounds like you are genuinely interested and like this person

What I wouldn't like is someone tracking my posts and trying to build up a picture of me/my life, that would be a bit freaky. But otherwise I would be flattered someone was so interested!

GetOrfMoiLand · 27/02/2011 22:23

I don't even know HOW you search for posts by name. I can never get that fucking search function to work for me

I would think it was freaky if someone looked for all my recent posts tbh.

Plus you wouldn't bother as you would be bored to death.

DrRichandNimble · 27/02/2011 22:26

everything on here is publlic and there is a search facility.

you are not misusing the site.

If you start posting about the things you have picked up then she may well get a bit freaked out about it.

but other than that i can see nothing wrong with it.

Original poster
thenevernever · 27/02/2011 22:26

I was originally drawn to her posts because she had quite strong views on some topics I'm v interested in.
However, along the way I learnt so much about her life that I find it quite surreal that I've never met her. I suspect I know more about her than many of my real life friends.
I still maintain its not stalking, but the jury still seems to be out.

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Zamboucca · 27/02/2011 22:27

If someone is very aggressive towards you, it's only sensible to check that she's like that towards everybody. You need to learn, GetOrf! Can ya do linky links?

GreenEyesandHam · 27/02/2011 22:28

Now you sound a bit stalkerish....sorry Confused

Gemsy83 · 27/02/2011 22:28

Sorry it just sounds a little obsessive. Your name isn't Barry George is it?