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To think that Bh (Bastard husband) should have let me have some sleep?

30 replies

MogadoredMemoo · 27/02/2011 10:38

Dd2 is 17 months and has been ill with a chest infection.

On Friday night she was really unsettled and so I brought her in to my bed. Dh went and slept in the spare bed and I spent the night with dd crawling all over the bed so didn't get any sleep. At half 6 in the morning dh came and got her so I could sleep til which I did until about 10.

Last night we finally got her settled by midnight and we both went to bed too. I suffer with insomnia and couldn't sleep. It was after 3am by the time I finally drifted off. I then hot up with dd at 6 am and dh stayed in bed. At 9am I went to ask dh to take over because Im so knackered I'm fit for nothing. He was really pissed off with me for waking him up. He did get out of bed and banged and crashed about, and made a few horrible comments. So now of course im so fecking wound up I can't possibly sleep.

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SunshineisSorry · 27/02/2011 10:41

Both knackered and grumpy i think. Go and have a nice bath - get BH to make you a nice cuppa to elevate him back to DH status.

Have you gotten any help for your insomnia?

MogadoredMemoo · 27/02/2011 10:51

I have sleeping tablets for the insomnia but can't really take them because they make me feel really groggy the next day.

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SunshineisSorry · 27/02/2011 11:23

thats pants :( Have you tried all the bedtime routine stuff? Its horrible when our body clocks get stuck in a rut and difficult to change. Nothing worse than being tired

miniwedge · 27/02/2011 11:29

Yanbu. He had about eight hours sleep, you got about three.

Agree there is not much you can do right now though other than have a row.

Try the nice bath idea, might at least relax you a bit and then maybe a nap a little later today?

tinkertitonk · 27/02/2011 12:04

You should kill his cock.

tinkertitonk · 27/02/2011 12:04

Oops sorry, wrong thread.

ladyfirenze · 27/02/2011 12:11

I had insomnia dreadfully last year whilst poorly with cancer, and did lots of research as tablets made me feel urrerly mental next day. The key thing that helped, was to never 'lie in' I got up at pretty much the same time every morning. This did mean I went to bed much earlier some evenings as I couldn't keep my eyes open, but it has cured my sleeplessness! Any time I can't sleep I get straight out of bed, and don't return till I'm all blinky. I still get up next day at about seven.

Love the term BH that's hilarious! and I totally get how tired you're feeling. Give yourself and that git of a hubbie time to calm down. You're both probably doing a magnificent job!

MogadoredMemoo · 27/02/2011 12:18

We do have a routine that usually works but this past few weeks she has had a cold, then she was teething and now she has a chest infection so it's all gone out of the window a bit.

I have made myself a coffee and am now having a soak in the bath, have left Bh downstairs making lunch for dc. I plan to sulk up here for a good hour or two.

Lady, that's a really good tip. I will try that. Sorry you have been so unwell, how are you now?

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ladyfirenze · 27/02/2011 13:22

having said all of this, you are definately allowed back to bed, once you've gotten up! as I'm currently doing Grin

mogadore! how very delightful of you to ask! I had stage 1A cervical but was a very lucky lady, and fortunate to catch everything in the early stages. Got the all clear six months later Grin No more babies for me but little old womb had a terrific innings.

ladyfirenze · 27/02/2011 13:24

and the plus point of a hysterectomy is no more bloody periods....

MogadoredMemoo · 27/02/2011 13:28

What a joy it would be to not have any periods! Though its awful that you had to go through such an ordeal. Very glad you have the all clear now. Hope you don't mind me asking but did they pick it up during a smear or did you have symptoms?

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ladyfirenze · 27/02/2011 13:53

I am always happy to tell in case it saves some one's life!

I missed a smear which was my own idiotic choice, although I had listened to my stupid mother, who believed "everybody has pre-cancerous cells on their cervix, it's doctors poking about up there which causes them to change"

incidentally, don't see her now....

so, anyway, one night in october 2009 I went for a wee, and when I wiped, there was a watery pink discharge. Very similar to the start of a period. However, I am (was) regular as clockwork, and this was out of season discharge....

I was having a 'fling' at the time, and although we'd been using blobs, I freaked out that I had caught something Blush

I went to get a full sexual health check-up, thinking, sod mother, I'll keep it secret.

when the nurse did the pokey stick swabs, I bled a little. Very strange to me, but she said it was probably just chlamydia, and wait and see.

Naturally, I rushed straight over to 'fling's' house, and informed him he'd given me chlamydia (we had actually just called quits on our fling, but remained on fine terms)

However a few days later, my sex health came back all clear. I queried this, re the bleeding on the phone, but they told me to hang on as I was still waiting for smear results. I think at this point I had an inkling.

I remember getting a phone call the following monday morning. I was in the bath, and dts1 answered it for me. When he said, 'it's the doctors' my heart stopped in my chest.

I couldn't get any info over the phone, they just asked me to come in at half ten that morning. longest three hours of my life!!

when I sat down, the gp had a trainee gp with her. I could tell by poor trainees face something serious was up. She backpeddaled a bit, then jumped right in and told me I had cancer!!!!

have since found out that was not the best way to hear it, but what the hey!!!

I was treated amazingly, as lucky enough to live near RVI - top fanjo cancer hospital. I had a series of colposcopies, and some really awful loop excisions (shudders at memory) sadly, they didn't work, as each time they foung more cells. And in Feb 2010, they whipped the lot out.......

ladyfirenze · 27/02/2011 13:54

sorry for thread hi-jack Smile

cheekeymonkey · 27/02/2011 14:00

Glad you survived that lot Ladyfirenze!

WishIWasRimaHorton · 27/02/2011 14:03

ladyfirenze - what a story, and so glad it's all sorted. and top points for going getting checked out for something so innocuous-sounding as a bit of watery pink blood... oh and Grin @ 'top fanjo cancer hospital'.

ladyfirenze · 27/02/2011 14:04

me too cheekeymonkey! Is everybody else up to date on their smears?

cheekeymonkey · 27/02/2011 14:21

All present and correct!

hogshead · 27/02/2011 14:28

actually have poked my nose in on this thread I am ashamed to say I missed my last smear in September Blush

I will make a note to phone the docs tomorrow

hogshead · 27/02/2011 14:30

and OP YANBU :) although I sleep like the living dead and DH sleeps very lightly so he still tends to shoot straight out of bed at the slightest murmer from DS's room

TyraG · 27/02/2011 14:46

I don't know if they have it here, but Tylenol PM always worked for me with no residual grogginess the next morning.

cheekeymonkey · 27/02/2011 14:54

Also can recommend Tesco Sleep Aid, no hangover in morning

MogadoredMemoo · 27/02/2011 17:19

Lady, thanks for sharing that. I'm due a smear and have been putting it off but I'm going to phone the doctor in the morning and make an appointment.

What a thing to gave to go through, but what a brave lady you are! x

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SunshineisSorry · 27/02/2011 20:24

Mogadore - :) i meant the bedtime routine for YOU xxx

ladyfirenze · 27/02/2011 20:44
MogadoredMemoo · 27/02/2011 23:22

Sunshine! Grin I am such a numpty sometimes. You are right, i think that would help hugely and is something I should work on.

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