for wanting to split wid DP

[Thay]

because he is always making the same mistakes,desrespecting me,always comes home and sleeps until 10pm and goes out night time and leave me wid our 3months son.
I mean, im 21 years old,im always working and dont even get to see my son,while he works like 10 hrs a week and whenever im home he just goes out and come back late wid sum stupid excuse,then if i get upset,he says that im treating him bad,LIKE I SHOULD COME Understanding and calm,asking wots wrong babe,y did u came so late??
God Knws i dont have no one in my life,to count on if i leave him,as iam not frm the uk,but i just cant take it anymore.
Am i being selfish?am i wrong?

i have to go too.Tks again.Bye

I think you are communicating very well!

If it helps you at all, I speak Portuguese too, so if you need to express yourself in your mother tongue, pode contar comigo

Hi Thay, what a horrible situation you are in, being in a foreign country with a young child and an unhappy relationship is not at all easy.

You are a young mum but you seem very mature and capable to me. We are only three years apart in age and being a young mum with these kinds of worries is very hard but you seem to be handling it well and trying your best. I have had friends in your position and being a single parent can seem very scary but they have done great.

Your partner does not sound like he is treating you well, staying with him may not be at all good for your child. Sometimes women in these relationships find out they are better off without the man as he is actually holding them back. In your case, it seems that way. You already seem to be handling life as a single mother but with the stress of a lazy partner who you have to support too.

If he has been abusive then I would say leave. Unless he seeks proper counselling then those issues may very well resurface and it could be very harmful for you and your child. Your baby will be happy as long as his mummy is happy.

There is a lot of help out there for single mothers and please don't feel like you cannot come here for advice. Not everyone is as critical as some others who have posted. I am new to this site too and sometimes you meet people like that but there are very nice people too.

I would say it might be good for you to leave this man behind but think about it first. Don't stay because you think it is better for your child, he will not be happy if you are unhappy. As long as he can have regular contact with his father and you both love and support him as he grows then he will be ok. This is just my opinion though :)

As for your English, you write very well for someone who is self taught after two years here. And I don't know why some people have classed it 'gangster talk', it is just abreviative language used by many people for communication through texting and emails that has made its way into mainstream use. What many of these critical people don't realise is that its actually lots of teenagers using it on the internet and not 'gangsters' at all, even their own little ones use it. Your English is actually better than many native English speakers and I am sure it will improve a lot with time, just cannot believe the criticism over it when you are not a native speaker.

Good luck!