not to put myself out to help?

[amibeingacow]

I'm a regular but have namechanged because some friends in RL know my posting name.

A friend/acquaintance of mine has emailed asking if I can help look after her children next week because she has to go into hospital and her dp doesn't get home from work until late.

I could juggle things around to help but I'm up against it for work deadlines (would have to take time off work at v short notice) and I'd have to see if the childminder could do (and pay for) an extra hour and a half at the end of the day because dd's normal pick up time is right in the middle of when I'd be needed and it's across town so would take me 20 mins at least to get there.

I have said sorry but no I can't help but I'm feeling really guilty. I'm trying to justify my position because i suspect her dp could take the time off work but I still feel mean

AIBU?

Good :).

Good result

Well she must have had some notice of the appointment especially if it an op.

I have to go on the 29th march for mine and found out the date saturday so had plenty of time to arrange childcare etc.

Unless they offered to pay for the extra time needed at childminder etc then I would not even consider it. Regardless of her husbands work it is his responsability to get the time off to look after his children when needed

I would do it too... It does not mean I think YABU :-)

I wouldn't do it based on the info in your OP, I would if it was more convenient, but not based on your info BUT I'm glad you've updated to say she's found an alternative arrangement.