to choose brother and SIL over sister and BIL as guardians for our DCs?

[Annabel7]

We are writing our wills and we need to appoint guardians for our 2 young kids in the (very) off chance that my husband and I die together. Grim I know but that's wills for you...

Now, we'd like to appoint my brother and SIL as first choice and my sister and BIL as second choice. We do have to tell them both but what do I say without upsetting my sister? Considering both family situations, both of us agree that we'd prefer them to be with my brother's family. Individually, I'd probably choose my sister over my brother but you have to look at the whole picture don't you?

diddl - yes, the more I think about that the more of a dealbreaker that is. I'm pretty much of the 'each to their own' philosophy, however, i really struggle with kids not getting any vaccines and whatever happened would expect my kids to be protected. Anyway, I guess that's another thread for another time...

SiL still complaines 9 years later? Blimey.