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To accepts DD (7) offer to pay the extra £10

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Heifer · 22/02/2011 20:27

For a half term treat I had decided to take DD (7), to the pictures to see Tangled.

The price for 2D for 2 of us is approx £10, the price for 3D is £21.00 (different cinemas).

Now normally not a problem, but money is really tight for us these days, and the extra £10 could make a difference between direct debit bouncing or not...

DD really wants to see it in 3D as she has never seen 3D before, been taken twice before thinking we were seeing 3D when both times it turned out to be 2D... (we could afford it those months).

She offered to pay the extra money from her Christmas money.

It upsets me that we are not in a position to just pay for without worrying, but presently we're not...

Would it be unreasonable to take her up on the offer and let her pay the extra £10.

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TheArmadillo · 22/02/2011 20:29

I think her paying the £10 is a good idea. It means she gets to see the 3d like she wants and gives her some idea about budgeting/that money isn't a finite resource.

I think it is an excellent idea and she should be praised for coming up with it/doing it.

TheGrumpalo · 22/02/2011 20:29

I don't see anything wrong with it. She should be able to spend the money on what she wants (within reason) so if that's what she wants then I'd let her . Don't feel guilty about it, better than spending it on plastic tat that will break and end up in the bin!

GrimmaTheNome · 22/02/2011 20:29

YANBU.

You can only afford the 2d this month, she really wants to see it in 3d and has xmas money. If that's what she wants to spend her own money on, then accept her offer with gratitude. Its good to start making these decisions early!

mrsgetonwithit · 22/02/2011 20:30

I think this will teach her a valuble lesson.

My son is 9 and sometimes pays for a little treat for himself like a ''happy meal''.

It teaches them the value of money.

You could always pay her back after with a treat without her really knowing if it makes you feel better.

stoppinattwo · 22/02/2011 20:31

Heif....knowing your DD like I do you should take her up on the offer, she is a bright intellignet lovely girl and I know she will feel sooooooooooo grown up helping.... and also if you feel so bad then you can always sneak it back into her account when you are flush x

BreakOutTheKaraoke · 22/02/2011 20:31

If thats what she wants to spend her money on let her! Maybe you could buy her something she may have spent it on when you do have some cash as a "treat" for being so generous?
Or could possibly go tomorrow on Orange wednesday- would that work out cheaper?

KatyMac · 22/02/2011 20:31

I agree with TheArmadillo

But could you squeeze an extra ice cream/ some sweeties into the deal as well? For being so nice/generous

gleechie · 22/02/2011 20:32

i think she sounds lovely and very mature imo ;)

yanbu

Teenybitsad · 22/02/2011 20:34

7 is just old enough to begin understanding the value of money. My DD turns 7 this Summer and I have been telling her to save up for certain things she wants...which in the passt I would have bought for her.

I may seem tough sometimes but it's ggood for them.

I was brought up to understand that luxuries I had to buy myself unless it was a Birthday gift etc.

As a result I was the only one of my mates with any cash at 14...I hd a job...they were all relying on parents still.

I am also exxplaining how banks work in basic terms and she's fascinated by the concept of interest.

It's good for them.

mumbar · 22/02/2011 20:35

She sounds lovely and mature - you should be proud.

And she will love it btw, we took dds 5 and 7 and DS 6.

saffy85 · 22/02/2011 20:36

YANBU infact you're teaching her a valuable lesson really. And good on her for suggesting a solution rather than moaning about it. Also Tangled rocks! well worth the extra tenner!

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Heifer · 22/02/2011 20:47

Thanks everyone, you have made me feel so much better about it..

Tis nice to get others perspective..

We will now be off to see Tangled in 3D and DD has already put the £10 in my purse.

Great idea about putting it back sometime

Cheers all

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Heifer · 22/02/2011 20:49

PS, I am very proud of her

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Acanthus · 22/02/2011 20:51

Yes, of course. And don't put it back! She wants it, she's happy to pay for it. It will give her satisfaction and make her feel useful and grown up. That's what money is for!

MadamDeathstare · 22/02/2011 20:54

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GrimmaTheNome · 22/02/2011 20:57

No, don't put it back.

But do tell her in the future how much you enjoyed seeing Tangled3D with her.

I think kids value things more when they've really used their own money. With my DD it was deciding to buy roller skates - I'm sure she wouldn't have practiced so doggedly if I'd bought them for her.

JustaNickname · 22/02/2011 21:09

YANBU

I think she sounds lovely and like everyone else said it will teach her about saving...etc.

I remember when I was younger I loved the feeling of buying something with my own money :D

Acanthus · 22/02/2011 21:10

Yes it's so great when they have their own money. They very quickly work out what they will and won't pay for, and you get no more requests ever for random crap because you can just say, "yes, of course, have you got enough money?"

androbbob · 22/02/2011 21:17

Well done Heifer - your DD sounds a delight!

QueenStromba · 22/02/2011 21:29

The only reason I'd say it might not be a good idea is that some people get headaches from 3D movies so it might be a good idea to make sure that she's ok since she might be less inclined to mention that she's not enjoying it since she's paid for it.

ftoomch · 22/02/2011 21:46

Your DD sounds lovely and she will get a great feeling from her decision.

Just came on to add I took my 8 yr old DTs to see this yesterday and REALLY wasn't looking forward to it (DH and I take turns to take them to kids' movies and we're all smug when 'our turn' co-incides with something decent like Shrek or Toy Story). Anyway - it was SUCH a good movie. Very funny, I was surprised.

Have fun (and sneak your own treats in of course )

IlsaLund · 22/02/2011 21:57

She sounds lovely.

Could you write her a little note or send her a card afterwards thanking her for her contribution to your day out telling her how much you enjoyed it?

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Heifer · 22/02/2011 22:02

Good thinking about the headaches,, she suffers from migraine and cluster headaches!! I will have to have a word with her beforehand.

Def smuggling own drinks & sweets in but will let her buy and icecream etc.

Love the idea of writing her a card/letter afterwards, and posting it, she will LOVE that..

Cheers all, my 1st posting in AIBU and all kind to me

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FabbyChic · 22/02/2011 22:23

Hope you have a fantastic time, buy her a scrapbook so she can save the tickets and put them in there!

sunnydelight · 22/02/2011 22:27

YANBU and your daughter sounds really sweet.

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