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to want ot cook food HOW I want?

27 replies

ChaosTrulyReigns · 21/02/2011 20:45

I am fed up with the meddlers.

DM and DH.

[grrr]

DH can't just let me cook without wandering along and shaking, stirring or fannying something that I'm completely in control of.

DM has just been Shock at me chopping up the mushrooms on the same board the chicken was chopped on. It's all going in the same pan to be cooked for the same length of time. Logic bypass huh?

Anyone else suffer from fiddlers on the kitchen?

Wink
OP posts:
ButterflySally · 21/02/2011 20:59

I wouldn't chop veg on the same board I had chopped raw chicken on TBH.

Original poster
ChaosTrulyReigns · 21/02/2011 21:01

But if you're putting raw veg in with raw chicken the cooking it doesn't that mean it's safe to chop in the same board, in that specific instance?

Confused
OP posts:
squeakytoy · 21/02/2011 21:02

If you are adding it in with the raw chicken, then it makes absolutely no difference..lol!!!!

gallifrey · 21/02/2011 21:03

Well I've done it hundreds of times, and I'm still here!!

BTW I know how you feel, my husband does that to me all the time, in fact tonight I sat down and he just cooked the dinner and dished it up without me having to do a thing :)

thisisyesterday · 21/02/2011 21:08

oh dp is the same.
there have been several occasions where it has ended with me lobbing whatever i'm holding at him and telling him to bloody well do it himself

phooey · 21/02/2011 21:12

I usually cook, and when DH does, I'm a total interferer. I'm pretty sure we'd all be dead of food poisoning now if I didn't though Hmm

GreenEyesandHam · 21/02/2011 21:12

My husband does this!

I once had something sizzling away in the pan- can't remember for the life of me now what it was, but it was something that I specifically wanted just like that (night have been timing each side)

DH comes in and starts doing all this cheffy tossing with the pan. Angry

Leave the fuck alone you nesbit!

Scaredycat3000 · 21/02/2011 21:18

My DP does this Angry
'You've cut the chips to thick'
No I bloody haven't, I have made a compromise between the thickness you want and the thickness I want. As DP would never consider taking it in turns so we both get what we want, that's all I can do. I don't even want chips again.
'This (tomato) sauce needs Worcester sauce'
No it bloody doesn't, not every tomato sauce has to have the same things in it.
I now will scream GET OUT if I really can't handle it, before he touches anything.
Or all my timings are compleatly ruined by the time he's just done whatever.
You are not alone.

parakeet · 21/02/2011 21:20

Squeaky, the mushrooms in this instance would be safe to eat, not because they are going in the same pan as the chicken, but because they are being cooked for the same length of time as the chicken, i.e. long enough to kill raw-chicken germs.

YankNCock · 21/02/2011 21:21

'DH comes in and starts doing all this cheffy tossing with the pan'

Mine does this too, I have no idea what he thinks he's accomplishing, other than looking like a nob and spilling stuff everywhere.

Does yours also do 'cheffy' chopping when you give him that job? Where he tries to chop so fast that he doesn't actually get all the way through stuff and it is in no way uniform in size?

hairylights · 21/02/2011 21:22

Your dh fannies your food!?! Grin

TrinityMotherOfRhinos · 21/02/2011 21:25

phooey, how can you cope with thinking that about him

phooey · 21/02/2011 21:29

He so rarely cooks because im a control freak that he appears to have erm undeveloped hygiene skills.

It's not anti-feminist - I like teasing him about his poor cooking and he likes teasing me about my lack of DIY skills. It makes us feel warm and fuzzy, or summat.

GreenEyesandHam · 21/02/2011 21:32

YankNCock yes he does, and he sprinkles sea salt into a pan from a height of about three feet.

Course this means the pan gets half, and the hob and surrounding surfaces get the other

laosvher · 21/02/2011 21:33

YANBU!
I quite enjoy cooking with DH though, it's the DC that pick and prod at the food - then again, DD1 hates it when I so much as enter the kitchen when she's cooking, so it must be mutual :o

mablemurple · 21/02/2011 21:47

You need separate chopping boards for raw meat, veg and cooked meats. It's not a problem for the mushrooms you were cooking with the chicken, but whatever you will be chopping the next time you use the board may not be cooked for long enough or even at all. It's not difficult to keep separate boards, and the plastic ones are cheap enough to buy at Ikea.

TattyDevine · 21/02/2011 21:52

It would be more dangerous also if there was a big gap between chopping the chicken and chopping the mushrooms - allowing bacteria time to multiply.

But logically, if straight after, and in the same pan and therefore being cooked for same length of time, I see what you mean.

Proper chefs have colour coded boards and that means a raw meat board is NEVER used to chop veg, even in the future, if that makes sense - that is best practice for avoidance of cross-contamination.

Its not just meat that can contaminate, Veg can have e-coli, etc, so its to stop cross contamination of everything with everything.

reelingintheyears · 21/02/2011 22:04

DP doesn't do it any more...

The git totally ruined my Chicken soup (all leftovers) by adding fucking OXO cubes.

DC all complained that it wasn't the same (how they like it) Grin

SardineQueen · 21/02/2011 22:06

You do not need separate boards for all of those things, if you follow basic hygeine.

Washing up in hot water with detergent is entirely adequate, promise.

Otherwise we'd all have food poisoning, all the time.

SardineQueen · 21/02/2011 22:12

OP YAdefinitelyNBU

HecateQueenOfWitches · 21/02/2011 22:15

You need to do what I do.

First person to interfere has officially taken over.

"Oh, you're doing the rest of it? Good." And you hand them the spoon / pinny / salt / whatever and you go and sit down in front of the telly.

People learn very quickly to stay away Grin

My husband has also learned to move fast if he is trying to steal a mouthful of what I'm cooking, to avoid a fork in the thigh! Grin

Ormirian · 21/02/2011 22:18

I have 3 chopping boards. I tend to use any one at any time for chopping any type of food. No-one has died.

DH frets all the bloody time. He is a crap cook! He tries but everything he cooks is done on the quickest possible time with the minimum effort or love. But he nags and nags me about 'how long does the pasta have to be on for?' and 'when will the rice be cooked?'. When I know perfectly well it will be ready when it's ready. I was raised cooking on an aga where timing and temperatures are relative dependent on how many people have had a hot bath and which direction the wind is blowing! I don't do time! I just KNOW!

So yes I fucking hate fiddlers and fretters in the kitchen. Cooking is an art, not a bloody paint-by-numbers!

megonthemoon · 22/02/2011 08:06

DH and I both enjoy cooking equally so tend to respect each other's approaches other than to offer tips just to remind the other who is actually the better cook... :) But can't bear DS fiddling, because he always wants to stir or add a bit of something extra or chop in a different way and he refuses to believe that I know best. DS is not yet 3... :o

Oh and deviatinhg from the OP entirely, I agree wth what SardineQueen says:

I don't know anyone who has died from using only one chopping board, nor anyone who has had food poisoning that isn't related to a meal out etc.

Chefs have to use separate boards because if they didn't then they could get sued if someone got ill in their restaurant. I bet they don't all have colour coded boards in their own home kitchens though.

Piggles · 22/02/2011 08:38

My formal chef training with all the multitiudes of colour-coded chopping boards I endured makes me squirm a little at veg being chopped on the same board as chicken (not something I could ever bring myself to do) but if it is all being thoroughly cooked then it is nothing to really wail about.

The last boyfriend I had pre-DH was also a chef... I almost murdered him on so many occasions. He was just utterly unable to leave things I was cooking alone and could not resist stirring or tossing things I was making Angry

Luckily DH is totally incapable in the kitchen knows what is good for him and stays out of my domain and happily eats what he is given.

Morloth · 22/02/2011 08:49

If they don't like the way you cook tell them too cook it themselves.

My DH is like the Dad from the Castle.

Always amazed at my culinary skills, even if what he happens to be served is bangers and mash.

Veg on chicken board fine if veg is being thoroughly cooked afterwards.