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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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feeling like a bad mum

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lospolloshermanos · 21/02/2011 14:33

I wanted to nip out to get some milk, only a 3 min walk so good chance to get DS on the reins,

2 mins after leaving the house started snowing and DS wated to roll in it so I picked him up and walked, soon after the hat fight started I was trying to keep it on when an elderley neighbour came up her face was pretty sour, said 'you've brought him out in this weather?' I explained that is started after I left the house and wish I'd brought the pram,
to which she replied
"you ought to have done, make sure his ears are covered!' whilst I was clearly trying to keep his hat on against his protests.
then sternly said 'I won't keeper any longer than' !

felt quite shit after that and annoyed I mean I can't control sudden weather changes AIBU or she

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TheMonster · 21/02/2011 14:34

She was, not you. There's no reason why a child cannot leave the house in the snow.

Catsmamma · 21/02/2011 14:35

You should have voiced your concern about an OAP being out in that weather, she might fall and break a hip.

worraliberty · 21/02/2011 14:35

I think you know she's the one BU.

I wouldn't even have explained that it started after I left the house. I take my kids out in all weathers. God knows how that woman would manage if she lived in a really cold, snowy country.

DooinMeCleanin · 21/02/2011 14:35

Silly cow. It's snow not arsenic. What did she think would happen to him?

Unless of course he is made from paper, then she is being entirely reasonable.

Don't let it upset you. I threw mine out for hours with the sledge when it snowed before x-mas. She came back in to give me her coat and hat because she was too hot and it was getting caught on the sledge.

xstitch · 21/02/2011 14:36

You are not a bad mum. Sounds like your neighbour is being an interfering old bat.

manicbmc · 21/02/2011 14:38

What Catsmamma said. Hip breaks are nasty.

AppleyEverAfter · 21/02/2011 14:39

catsmamma good comeback! I wish I could think of quips like that when getting grief!

mamadiva · 21/02/2011 14:40

YANBU she most definately was.

I's better to be out in the fresh air for a few minutes instead of being couped up inside all day. In her day they probably put kids out in prams alone regardless of the weather.

saffy85 · 21/02/2011 14:43

Ignore her. It's none of damn business whether you take your son out in a little bit of snow or a heatwave. I got plenty of people critisizing me for taking DD out in the snow in December but unless they can suggest other ways for me to pay my rent and bills other than earning money to do so they should keep their opinions to themselves.

toomuchmonthatendofthemoney · 21/02/2011 14:46

FGS, of course she is BU, what's going to happen to him? If he's old enough to be on reins, he'll be fine!

one old hag lady tried to tell me off for having ds (aged approx nearly 3) out in the rain, and i replied "well, he's not going to melt, and we live in scotland so he better get used to it!" and walked off.

silly old bags. kids need out of the house and in my experience really don't care about the weather unless they are really tiny/its really freezing. We had 3 weeks here before xmas when it never got above zero and Ds was out every day, sledging etc. Puts some colour in their cheeks!

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lospolloshermanos · 21/02/2011 14:50

I thought this too but had that niggling voice, I told my sisters carer (Eastern European) said yeah she'd be alright in russia/siberia where lethal winters last months lol

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lospolloshermanos · 21/02/2011 14:50

haha Catsamma good one ,

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eeyore2 · 21/02/2011 15:00

ha ha, when DS was around 3 months old we had a bit of snow (London so not that much); my Grandma made it clear she thought DS should not be allowed out in it. She clearly didn't think it through or realise that in that case I wouldn't be able to out even to get some milk for the next week! What a joke. He slept beautifully in his pram, all wrapped up. Luckily (healthy) babies and toddlers are made of sterner stuff than some people seem to think.

SmethwickBelle · 21/02/2011 15:07

You are soooo not a bad mother. Old people are obsessed with other people's babies being either too hot or too cold.

As someone on another thread pointed out when they get to the point of yanking hats and gloves (and shoes off) you're screwed as even if they are trussed up like a christmas turkey when you leave the house they can be half naked by the gatepost.

MorticiaAddams · 21/02/2011 16:09

There's nothing wrong with kids being out in the snow, isn't that what snow is for - to get kids outside in the winter?

For the record I would have let him roll in it too.

foreverondiet · 21/02/2011 16:23

I would have said, oh you'd better get home soon you might get pneumonia or you might fall and break your hip. Good for your Ds (unless newborn) to be outside regardless of weather.

camdancer · 21/02/2011 16:41

3 mins from home - perfect time to play in the snow. As soon as he gets cold you can get home quickly and get him nice and warm.

You need to perfect your "I'm the mummy and I know best" stare.

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lospolloshermanos · 21/02/2011 17:18

I'll have to practice in the mirror camdancer

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FlipFlop32 · 21/02/2011 18:57

An old lady told me off once in the street for not putting a hat on my baby in the sun (I was just about to do it as we came out of a cafe). Luckily my lovely MIL was with me and defended me - if she wasn't there I probably would have burst into tears because it just made me feel awful (I was probably still quite hormonal then).

Don't let it get to you - these people have obviously forgotten what its like to have small children or never had them at all! I think its great you let your toddler get some exercise.

bettybosseye · 21/02/2011 19:02

YANBU, she sounds like a right sour faced old busy body.

scottishmummy · 21/02/2011 19:15

you do need to be less touchy.an ill placed comment shouldnt really have you feeling shit or needing to offload.

get used to it,parenting makes you recipient of all inane,banal quacky comments

SunshineisSorry · 21/02/2011 19:20

Its snowing? where? jeez not another lot - im cooolld enough thankyou muchly

Just ignore old bag dear, its the law that post 65 you become obsessed with children wearing hats and scarves if the temp goes below 18 degrees

atmywitssend · 21/02/2011 19:20

Oh my - can children not play in snow now! Expect he loved it!

JustaNickname · 21/02/2011 22:47

Catsmamma I nearly wet myself when I read your post :D

Don't feel like a bad mum, you obviously didn't know that the weather was going to change and you couldn't go without milk either. Its only a couple of minutes of snow for gods sake silly old women should have minded her own business.

Underachieving · 21/02/2011 22:56

OMG two whole minutes in the snow? With only a full set of winter clothing to protect him from the instant death that is a snowflake landing. An actual 120 seconds? How could you be so heartless? The poor wee thing is lucky to still be alive! Someone call Social Services and have the OP's kids rushed off to centrally heated bubble-like foster homes right now so they must never be exposed to weather ever again! Honestly the way modern parents carry on you'd think children had evolved over millions of years living more or less outdoor constantly with only animal skins for protection or something!

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