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Original poster

To think this is a really nasty generalisation re lone parents?

50 replies

elastamum · 21/02/2011 13:06

Just seen this comment regarding us LP's on another thread I hav been reading

'nice things don't happen to them other then when they get pregnant with another child from a different father to the others'.

Am gobsmacked Angry

OP posts:
scurryfunge · 21/02/2011 13:07

Did you challenge the comment on the other thread?

Original poster
elastamum · 21/02/2011 13:08

It has been challenged but I couldnt believe someone would post this on a parenting website - not a new poster either - so not a troll picking a fight

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TheMonster · 21/02/2011 13:11

Oh dear. What a narrow minded opinion.

kreecherlivesupstairs · 21/02/2011 13:12

Ignore it is my advice. YANBU to think what you think, the poster is being sensationally U to post that.
What a cunt.

coccyx · 21/02/2011 13:12

Oh dear.

scurryfunge · 21/02/2011 13:13

There are plenty of fools on any website. It no longer surprises me about the amount of racist, sexist postings on here too. I suppose it is up to people to challenge whenever these views are spouted.

Alambil · 21/02/2011 13:13

water off a duck's back...

fact is, nice things do happen and rarely involve reproduction...

it's a blatantly unthought-out, idiotic thing to say.

Treat it with the contempt it deserves and totally ignore it. Feel pity for the poster, even for living with those ideas can't be a nice way to live.

ThePosieParker · 21/02/2011 13:15

Christ, we're all only a discovery, a punch, an affair or a crisis away from being lone parents.

FabbyChic · 21/02/2011 13:15

Can you post in context? Thread on CHAT, besieged by those who POST on the lone parent forum, saying the OP is lying that it is all made up.

Generally you do get more lone parents with children from different fathers.

I am not sure what the statistics are, but if someone wants to refute MY statement can they do so with facts? Not assumptions.

I made the comment and this OP has not posted on the thread concerned saying anything, just thought she would come over here.

I am myself a lone parent, but my two children both have the same father, I don't have four kids with all different dads.

PURPLESWAN · 21/02/2011 13:17

Not a very intelligent poster obviously - really I would pick the fights that are worth bothering with and ignore it!

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elastamum · 21/02/2011 13:18

That s good point Posie, when my ex left us a number of my girlfriends said the same.

BTW I am a full time managmement consultant with 2 kids (same dad!) and I am far too old to get pregnant by anyone! but the stereotyping still grates with me

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JeremyVile · 21/02/2011 13:20

If its the thread I'm thinking of then I'm not surprised the poster snapped and said something twattish.

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elastamum · 21/02/2011 13:20

Hi Fabby As you are a LP you should know better Hmm

I didnt post on the other thread as I didnt want to hijack it further as others are really enjoying it

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ThePosieParker · 21/02/2011 13:21

Okay which thread? (tell me or I'll tweet!!) [too soon for that joke?]

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elastamum · 21/02/2011 13:22

My boss asked me out or ssomething?

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NoSuchThingAsSociety · 21/02/2011 13:22

I don't quite get what the issue is - are we saying that to have children from different fathers is something that should not be discussed or pointed out?

That one should pretend they are from the same father? If so, which father would it be?

Confused
JeremyVile · 21/02/2011 13:22

boss asked me out on a date.

I'm guessing though.

Alambil · 21/02/2011 13:22

I think it depends what sector of society you're looking at, Fabby.

Young, disadvantaged parents probably have a higher per centage of different fathers than parents who became lone parents later in life and probably for different reasons than buggering off on the pregnancy announcement; death of a spouse, dv escalated, affair etc where there are already more than one child with one father.

I think.

fedupofnamechanging · 21/02/2011 13:23

If you are lucky enough to have a relationship work out quite early on in life, then odds are all your DC will have the same dad. Sadly though, they don't always work out. Are people with failed relationships not supposed to try again, just in case that one goes wrong too?

Silly comment! Ignore it

bristolcities · 21/02/2011 13:23

Don't let it bother you. I have a half sister and we couldn't be any closer.

My step father is a better dad than mine ever was.

I'm glad my mum was mature enough to get out of a relationship that didn't work and try with someone else, it's been totally positive for every one involved and its so common these days that making generalizations just seems ridiculous and out of touch.

NoSuchThingAsSociety · 21/02/2011 13:25

karmabeliever - I know what you're saying but I think it's naive to expect people not to draw conclusions from a pattern of behaviour.

My Father was married three times, divorced three times - would you consider him as a suitable partner??!

If not - "Are people with failed relationships not supposed to try again, just in case that one goes wrong too?"

edam · 21/02/2011 13:25

fabby, what's it to you if someone has children with more than one partner? I have a half-sister, would you like to come round and tell my Dad off for having a second family?

GypsyMoth · 21/02/2011 13:27

Just go and read the relationships board........ Always makes me feel smug that I don't have one of those wasters in my life!!

ThePosieParker · 21/02/2011 13:27

IloveTIFFANY....equally shit thing to say.

adamschic · 21/02/2011 13:33

It was written by Fabbychic who has come on here to spout more nonsense about some of the lone parents on here. If you are one yourself then you should be ashamed but obviously not in the least bit ashamed.

I think she thinks she is somehow better than us, 'classier' than us 'rif raf' which are her quotes from the other thread.

Also we didn't besiege the thread and other people were doubting your new friend before us but someone told the rest of you that we were having a laugh about it so we came on to admit it.

People who have been on mumsnet a while have heard it all before, might or might not be the same person.