To ask you all how much you get paid?

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Name-Change if you want to - I have. AIBU to be curious what other people earn?

I am a nurse. Qualified 6 years. Work 30 hours a week.

I earn about 25k (with unsocial hours etc added in)

Social worker 30k full time

Some people are miserable as sin whatever they do - just their nature.
Plenty are happy in professional very well paid jobs they adore.
Plenty are happy in less well paid jobs.

there isnt' always a correlation but I agree with the comment above by I think freshmint that control helps.

It's one reason when I've been talking about careers to my 3 older children at or post university stage we look at what might enable them to work for themselves and what might not because small cog in big wheel with big brother employer hanging over you whether that's a manager you hage in the NHS or Governmetn suddenly changing the rules or the board of your private company suddenly announcing 20% redundancies or whatever you may not be so happy fi you don't control things.

I only eat what I kill. If I don't kill we starve (subject to state benefits etc) but even so I feel very secure as a lot of things would have to go wrong to mean my power to kill were diminished.

We also should always bear in mind that young people are idealistic. I think that's wonderful. I lvoe to see it. I would hate to have sutdent and teenage children without views. In many many cases those views change as they get older and if they dropped out of school without GCSEs to find God or wash the feet of the poor or whatever when they're 30 and have changed their views and would quite like to buy a house or afford school fees it is tougher if they have no qualifications to fall back on so most parents probably do think it wise children get something up their sleeve in terms of qualifications. The wiser actresses and models go to Cambridge etc where they can because they also know that it's good to have several strings to your bow.

£280k for being a wanton woman and modelling diamonds in unusual places.
Work as and when required.

OK, just for all those who said that being a lawyer is long hours, nor very flexible etc -I am a barrister. I have 2 DCs and work 4 days a week. Barristers are self employed and it means I can decide when and if I work. I absolutely love it. DS (3) said yesterday that he wants to 'talk to judges' when he grows up. I said "Yes, you do."

Teacher, minimum pay for responsibility, three days a week, £22k (c.£36k f/t after 5 years working, including one mat leave year) - one thing that irks me is that I get paid pro rata for the responsibility, even though I still do the whole job, as I did when f/t.

Am already dreading the prospect of going back to work f/t - currently pg with last planned DC, so it won't be for a good 5 years, but the thought of being busy all term time fills me with dread already, and I mostly enjoy and like my job.

DH earns £25-26k, so pressure will be on me to go f/t in the future, though we are not uncomfortably off.

I was always determined not to be obsessed with a big salary, as my dad, who worked in the city and earned well in the 80s and 90s had a nervous breakdown from which he is still not recovered. I was an impressionable teenager at the point of making future study choices. He was (and still is) a materialistic capitalist who thought any university education would guarantee a good job, good salary and thus 'success'. If only I had known.

Forgot to say how much i earn ! I am a nhs nurse and earn just over £1100 net a month working 16 hours a week . The final salary pension for nurses finished about 8 years ago incase anyones interested !
thomasbodley it was unfair of me to say you couldnt do my job ,because you might have the makings of an excellent nurse for all i know ,but i really couldnt do your job ,just the word 'brand' has me snorting with laughter ,and i frequently go off into fits of giggles if DH is working from home and i overhear his conversations ! bullshit bingo anyone

this post has made me feel very very sad.

I think the thread is lovely because it shows how many people love their work and yet most of the press for women is women have work and if they had a choice they would stay home and clean the floors and babies bottoms all day which is clearly not the case for plenty of us with satisfying careers. Yet you never see a headline why I love my work or if I had my way I'd do more hours or work over housework any day. I suppose that doesn't suit the press. They like to portray women as low earning or no earning whingers who are totally fed up with life.

xenia can i ask what you do?

On the violon d'Ingres point, quite a few people I was at university with were encouraged by their well-meaning parents to go into far more lucrative careers than their inclination would have been, and several years later many of them left said lucrative careers to follow their original dreams. I actually know quite a few former lawyers/doctors/city people who are now musicians and artists in their 40s.

i am a low earning worker and totally fed up with life. looks like i tick the boxes

20 hours a week as GP. Often stay behind so more than this.

Qualified as doctor in 1996 then 5 years or so to be GP. I do enjoy it but it can be emotionally draining.

Earn 30K.

I think its ok, but like Fordie get frustrated when people assume I earn a fortune. I try not to tell workmen what I do or I am sure they charge more!

Meant to add I am in late 30's and top of payscale. Only 1 small payrise since worked as GP 10 years ago and can't see there being any more in the next few years.

Knitted, feel sorry that you're not enjoying your life at the moment. Does that mean you don't like your job either? (not just that you're fed up because poorly paid?). I had a thinking year quite by chance about 7 years ago and worked out what it was I wanted to be and do and what I had to do to get there. If you know yourself and your limitations it becomes easier. tbh my only gripe about what I do now (freelance translator) is that sometimes get lonely working from home all the time. That is easily remedied by making a special effort to go out and see people. Also because I'm usually at home, people drop by unexpectedly which is lovely. They all know that if I'm too busy to see them I'll say so.

il be honest im only doing what i do to stay sane, im only just out of uni for 2 years and really miss the stimulation and motivation gained from working towards rewards (all firsts and 2.1s). thing is i had to drop out of uni during my final year thanks to the student loans and lea. i cant afford to go back and im no longer interested in that subject. plus theres no work in that area anymore anyway and i would need to complete a post grad and masters minimum.
i cant afford the childcare to work full time, have no qualifications to speak of an there is no work anyway.

such is life though

Knitted can you spare the time to complete your degree in any form (not necessarily the same subject) through the OU? Do you know what you do want to do? Everything becomes a lot easier when you know what you want. Don't view the two years you did your degree as wasted- you doubtless grew as a person during those years and it's still there with you.

How old are you Knitted? is there any chance you can sit this rough period out until your lo goes to school and then perhaps regain your focus and self esteem?

OU courses are quite expensive duchesse

I know, G7, but they're spread out over a longer time frame aren't they, potentially more affordable.

im 25. thing is what i did at uni isnt transferable to anything else really. it was a bad choice based on a lack of info about the tiny hardly known area i wanted to get into, i was disillusioned that i could ever get into it anyway. you cant unless you are seriously wealthy (i am not).

i could and am sitting it out. i have no other choice. ive pretty much given up on this life time, im hoping next time itl be better.

i couldnt do this as an ou course, you need a certain amount of hours practically to qualify and you dont have access to this area and the people involved unless you are part of a real degree. you cant just apply to psychiatric wards saying can i use your patients please etc...

Gimmer, would you earn more as a partner?

Bumpsoon I have to say, I take my job about as seriously as you do . I get paid to surf the internet, read magazines, go shopping, watch telly...it's great and dead easy but not massively fulfilling on an emotional level, as I imagine your work is.

Incidentally, I could NEVER be a doctor or a nurse. I remember once my GP had to handle a little jar of my (still warm!) piss; the lid came off the jar and spilt all over her skirt. I nearly puked, to add to the pee but she was totally unfazed.

The important thing is to find work which you enjoy and which gives you a standard of living which is acceptable for you and those for whom you're responsible (don't want to say what I do particularly and it is very variable day to day - it's a kind of professional thing but with a few different elements to it). And you should never force children either. I've totally left it up to them what they do and I genuinely don't mind although we've had conversations about what might suit them and where their particular personalities might direct them and it will be the same with the younger ones in due course. Life and work should be fun and if it's not try to make it so.

Making it so might not even mean changing the work but just changing your mind set.

Knitted, I'm sorry you're not happy BUT you are only 25. Things change, and often for the better, if you're willing to peck away at them.

My mum abandoned her degree to get married, but recently completed it. At the age of 58! She's now writing a book - she has an agent and a publisher and everything.

You sound quite defeated and negative in your posts. Are you depressed, d'you think, rather than just having an off day?

I would Sue Lawley but it would come at a price.

Firstly part time partnerships are no longer common. Secondly longer hours with management responsibility. DH is a full time GP. 50+++ hours a week. He is often not home until 730-9pm and then not having had a break all day. He earns 90 K. I don't feel I could be doing the same with 3 young children as they are my priority. Plus things are changing rapidly politically and its about to get much more stressful (without extra pay-infact pay may go down) as a partner.