In thinking my dd shouldn't still be having accidents

[TeaOneSugar]

I'm not sure if this is the right place to post.

My dd, just turned 7 was a nightmare to toilet train, we tried when she was 2 and gave up because she wasn't interested, left it a while and tried again when she was approaching 3 and struggled for probably a good year.

At night she got it straight away, probably only had one wet bed, she just got straight up and used the toilet in the night not problem at all.

Anyway we eventually got there but she has continued to have more accidents than I think is acceptable, they tend to be when she's playing on her DS, or on the internet and she doesn't want to leave off what she's doing. It probably averages out at once a week, but it can sometimes be three days in a row.

My policy is that she stops doing whatever it was that she was doing at the time and doesn't do it again for the rest of the day.

There was an accident this morning and I took away the laptop and also said we wouldn't go swimming.

Am I being harsh?

Has anyone got any advice?

I don't really want to go back to a toilet training chart, but I will if it will help.

She is a very bright girl, confident and outgoing, I genuinely think she just puts off going until it's too late.

She's going away with Brownies this year and I really want to try to get this sorted before then.

Sorry, didn't realise I had posted the first half of that already!

DS1 who is almost 7 will put it off and put it off and jump around like a crazy person if he is really into something, we haven't actually had any accidents in the last couple of years but I think it has probably been a close call a couple of times.

He just doesn't want to stop what he is doing to go. I sometimes have to say 'loo, now' because I can see he about to burst but is just too busy.

I do agree with what your saying chipmonkey. I guess its the carrot as oppossed to a straight away reward.

For example I wouldn't do a sticker chart for a 7yo but would say you can have the laptop for 30 minutes, if your dry then later today you can have it for a further xxx minutes. But the reward for doing something expected is being rewarded with something normal iyswim. As oppossed to an 'extra' treat, something you wouldn't normally do/get.

troisgarcons

My DD gets plenty of attention thanks, I presume your dc don't use the computer you're posting from.

Thanks to those who've made constructive and helpful comments, lots of food for thought.

TeaOneSugar - I feel for you, there are 2 different points of view here behaviour v's medical. It can't be easy to work out which but I wish you and your DD the best of luck whichver path you chose to take.